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called the doctor in tears
Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 12:47 PM
Joined: 8/13/2019
Posts: 9

The weekend was okay, well, if you call no major toilet accidents ok. Then this morning he needed a shower, got him in there, then as he was coming out, he had explosive diarrhea, in the shower, on the bathroom floor and then on the bedroom carpet. Not to go in to many details but I was dry heaving the length of the time it took me to clean him up, the bathroom up and the bedroom. Been in tears ever since, so just put a call into our PCP sobbing I have just about had it and what can I do. Very understanding girl said she would text our doctor and let me know what they think. Told her I was at the end of my rope. I hate that I'm not strong enough for this, I know so many others are. I just am not.


Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 2:11 PM
Joined: 9/5/2017
Posts: 925

I'd be upset too if I had to clean up diarrhea.  My husband's bowel movements have slowed down significantly.  I dread the day he has diarrhea.
Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 2:19 PM
Joined: 12/21/2018
Posts: 1284

Dear My2Goldens,

Explosive diarrhea is a lot to deal with. Please be gentle with yourself. I am glad you reached out to your doctor. I hope the doctor can help.

I am sending you cyberhugs and hoping that you get some relief soon.

Take care.

Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 3:12 PM
Joined: 10/16/2020
Posts: 246

Oh my goodness my2goldens...diarrhea, one of the caregiver's biggest dread!  I had a major breakdown this morning from an incident that had far less consequences than what you went through this morning.  I think you deserve a medal for what you dealt with!!

Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 5:19 PM
Joined: 9/28/2021
Posts: 20

I completely agree with you and understand.  I’m a retired nurse that specifically went into Pediatrics- Premature babies to be exact -  because I don’t deal well with any adult by-products.  That has come back to haunt me - big time! I have no suggests, just tremendous amounts of empathy.  Prior to my DH, I took care of my parents before they went to Heaven.  I now keep a large plastic trash bag, rubber disposable gloves, a mask and lots of Lysol wipes readily available in the bathrooms.  

It is very difficult.  I also called our gastroenterologist and he recommended Imodium AD to try and slow the bowels down a bit and said that the constipation that may occur is easier to handle and manage than the runs.  Hope this helps!  

Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 5:40 PM
Joined: 3/25/2021
Posts: 172


I get you so well. I have cried during cleaning up poo. It is horrible. I have had the dry heaves as well. Sometimes it takes an incident like this to see how far we have fallen down the rabbit hole. I am glad you reached out to your doctor. I am an up to date member of the gloves and javex brigade. Here’s hoping the doctor can help.

David J
Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 6:21 PM
Joined: 2/15/2020
Posts: 435

I will add my sympathy and respect for what you are handling. Poop is always bad, but diarrhea is the worst. I have done my share of cleanups, and it is never easy. I have mastered holding down the dry heaves, but an occasional heave comes through. My DW is no longer at home, but she has had accidents in my presence in my he MCF and in the hospital. Lu lily, others had the cleanup task.
Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 6:59 PM
Joined: 2/1/2018
Posts: 777

I am sorry your DH has reached this point.  I have no advice, only the deepest empathy.  If nothing else, you have a good outlet here. You can whine, moan, vent, seek and/or give advice and be assured that we are all in the same boat, some of us are just paddling more frantically.  I hope things get better with some support from your doctor.  And, by the way, you are strong, stronger than you think- -  just look at what you tackled this morning!

Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 9:12 PM
Joined: 10/10/2021
Posts: 58

My 2goldens, I can only say you are one strong woman! I’m just trying to get through all the pee on the floor, all around the pot. This disease is the worst thing in the world. My heart goes out to you!
Gig Harbor
Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 9:29 PM
Joined: 3/10/2016
Posts: 776

It is horrible to clean up poop. I found that a few drops of clove oil in a mask helped a lot to cover up the smell. Apparently I had Covid in January without feeling sick. I lost absolutely all sense of smell and most taste. I cannot smell poop or ammonia so I would be the perfect person to do your cleanup duties. Imodium would help stop the diarrhea. If you had reached your limit care might be the best option for you. You could then go back to being his wife.
Posted: Monday, October 25, 2021 11:49 PM
Joined: 5/31/2021
Posts: 23

I feel for you as my DH also has crohn's disease and diarrhea is a daily occurrence. Luckily he was wearing Depends when he has an accident and not in the shower but cleanup was still involved. I did get this hint to use foaming shaving product to wipe up the bowel movement. It helps to use that product and also helps to dissipate the awful stench. Lots of paper towels too and then put in a plastic bag and take out to the garbage. 

Sending supportive hugs your way! 

Posted: Tuesday, October 26, 2021 12:48 PM
Joined: 8/13/2019
Posts: 9

nurse called back, immodium ok. we had a minor accident this morning, still required cleanup. more gagging, but I managed.  I'm wondering if there is any other thing he could take, does a metamucil type product help firm stool up? I don't have a lot of experience, kind of flying by the seat of my pants here.
Posted: Tuesday, October 26, 2021 2:28 PM
Joined: 9/21/2017
Posts: 1017

"does a metamucil type product help firm stool up?" Nope, it's fiber.

 Liked the pun "kind of flying by the seat of my pants here." even if not meant

Posted: Tuesday, October 26, 2021 3:35 PM
Joined: 6/3/2013
Posts: 1121

Google Metamucil and stool to learn how it can be used to bulk up the stool.
Iris L.
Posted: Tuesday, October 26, 2021 6:02 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 17551

You might try this, with the doctors agreement.  Get some Pedialyte or other clear fluid until the diarrhea lessens.  Then provide the BRAT diet: bananas rice applesauce and toast.  Modify as needed until the bowels seem better.  Advance the diet slowly avoiding milk and spicy and fried greasy foods.  This is what we advised in pediatrics. 

Is this diarrhea a one time thing from a virus or bad food, or does he have a chronic gastrointestinal problem?


Posted: Tuesday, October 26, 2021 8:20 PM
Joined: 10/26/2021
Posts: 1

I just joined.

My husband was just diagnosed and prescribed

donepezil 5 mg.  He scored 23/30 on the cognitive assessment.

What does that really mean?

What can I expect next?

Jo C.
Posted: Wednesday, October 27, 2021 10:19 AM
Joined: 12/9/2011
Posts: 12129

I am so sorry that this happened and can well understand your feelings; this can often be the ultimate challenge that changes so much.   I wonder: Is this just a one time occurence, or is he having further additional uncontrolled diarrhea movements which sounds as though that is not his usual behavior?

If he is having an abrupt onset of multiple daily liquid diarrhea which he cannot control; it would be a good idea to have the doctor order lab study to rule out c.Difficile as well as other infectious issues which must be treated asap so as not to become a healthcare danger.  In some infectious situations, it is not appropriate to give an anti-diarrheal med, so do follow the doctor's instructions on this matter.

If the diarrhea is ongoing multiples, doctor will order labs; one would get proper containers from the lab (important to have proper containers as some come with pertinent types of preservative.)  If he is able to make it to the toilet with his diarrhea, the lab can provide you with a toilet "hat" to catch the stool. 

If not a medical issue, do see Marta's information regarding Metamucil and bulking the stool.  Depending on the cause, one may want to modify the diet until any temporary issue is resolved - take your doctor's recommendation regarding the diet, the diagnosis and treatment.

My heart goes out to you; I am sending an electronic hug along with warm thoughts.  Let us know how you are doing and how things are going; we will be thinking of you and we truly do care.


Posted: Wednesday, October 27, 2021 2:04 PM
Joined: 8/22/2020
Posts: 1686

My2goldens, is he taking meds that could contribute?  Just curious and worth considering if there's anything that could be discontinued to make your life easier.

Lovetoteach, welcome to the forum.  You will get more responses to your questions if you start a new thread--no worries, this always takes some getting used to.  Look for the green "new topic" or "start topic" button at the top of each forum page (Caregivers forum, Spousal forum, etc).