My friend is targeting me with anger.  In what I imagine as her confusion, she is angry and full of blame.  I have asked her to text me in advance of visits, which she does not do.  I have asked her to keep in mind that there is more to consider than her own objectives and convenience, to no avail.

I cannot imagine a sadder end to a friendship.  Her attempts to continue our old ways only exacerbate my suffering.

My situation is one of activated PTS from childhood trauma.  I cannot sleep, develop nausea and vomiting after her intrusions.  I have tried simple explanations of my needs, to no avail.

She doesn’t remember- or denies- her attacks on me, persists in proclaiming her love for me and her concern over how our relationship is changing.  Comes over when it suits her, despite anything I say.  She has become irrational aggressive, passive aggressive and mean.

I grieve our relationship but I don’t have what she wants from me!

Any help?  Insights?  Empathy?

Many thanks