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If they can still receive love - why not build on that?
Posted: Friday, November 13, 2020 11:53 PM
Joined: 7/16/2018
Posts: 47

Dear ALZ Connected

I had an especially difficult week this week, not b/c of caretaking duties but b/c of work and general life issues. Needless to say I was thrown out of my comfort zone and had to deal with the real world, with people who aren't always nice, professional, honest, have much in the way of upbringing, manners, etc.


Rude/Highly stressed-out Type-A corporate types (work)

Crooked car dealers/ incompetent mechanics/ rip-off junk yard (life)

Normally I don't interact with such people but this week was one of those weeks.

It got me thinking about my LO and with God's Grace she is still receptive to love and shows when she's happy. And I had a thought, why not build on this? Why not take every opportunity to make your LO life's as great and lovey-dovey as possible? If they can still show signs that they are receptive to affection and care, why not give them that and build on that to create a happy/happier home?

Caregiving is hard and has it's challenges day in and day out but the outside world can be harder. Now it must be hard to have to live with ALZ and from understanding and reading/YouTubing the disease, I understand ALZ persons don't always respond to reason but they do to emotion.

So don't be like the outside world. Fill your LO with as much love as possible. It's nice in a way to have persons at home whom you show warmth and affection to who reacts in kind with sincerely. 

I think as caretakers we are so wrapped up inside the house/apt/condo/farm/etc. that we forget about the real world outside. And as bad as things can be at home at times, this week reminded me of just how bad the outside world can be. So take advantage of the happiness you have at home and build on it I say.


I wish everyone a good and restful weekend.


Thank you

Posted: Saturday, June 5, 2021 5:15 PM
Joined: 6/5/2021
Posts: 1

Hi Elhijo, 

I appreciate your thoughtful post on keeping things as positive and love filled for our LO. My father was diagnosed with VD a few years ago now and some days are better than others. There are days when he feels lost, can't remember where he is and days when he is angry and frustrated, mostly with my mother. There are also days when his eyes are bright and he is full of laughter and happy to share memories about his childhood. So I listen, happy to that my LO can still speak and share with me.   

Thanks for sharing and I hope things are going well.

Susan Lynn
Posted: Monday, July 19, 2021 9:31 PM
Joined: 7/19/2021
Posts: 4

Great share. Thank you. I'll be with my Mom in Ohio in September. I'm taking with me meditation, mindfulness and creative visualization (aka prayer). Of course I could fall flat on my butt --I'm accepting that is going to happen. Goes with the territory. Thanks for the reminder about LOVE!
Posted: Tuesday, December 7, 2021 11:23 PM
Joined: 7/16/2018
Posts: 47

RosieRM and Susan Lynn - My pleasure. Happy to help out.

Have a Blessed Holiday Season.