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I lost another PCP
Iris L.
Posted: Friday, February 3, 2012 11:48 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 17900

The PCP that I just met in January, who is a board certified geriatrician, suddenly left her practice..  I called the office this morning to speak with the nurse, and discovered that the doctor has gone!  She won't be coming back.  I'm so distraught.  I just lost another doctor last February who was head of the geriatric clinic at USC Medical Center.  I don't have good luck with PCPs. 

Iris L.

Posted: Saturday, February 4, 2012 5:58 AM
Joined: 1/20/2012
Posts: 43

I am soooo sorry Iris! Having the right PCP is such a godsend and having to find another after losing a good one is a major undertaking. I really hope you can get a reference for one who will last.

I've had several PCP's over the past 3 years because they just keep moving from the area then I have to start all over with someone else so we never really get a good working relationship established. The PCP I'm seeing now I thought would be the one but he totally doesn't get me at all and makes me feel like an idiot.

Best of luck to you in your search!

Posted: Saturday, February 4, 2012 12:04 PM
Joined: 12/6/2011
Posts: 3326

Hi, Iris. You may want to consider contacting the medical association in your state to find the new contact info of your PCP, then call her and ask her to give you a referral to another doctor to replace her. As you probably know, doctors usually know of the reputations of other doctors.
Mimi S.
Posted: Saturday, February 4, 2012 6:12 PM
Joined: 11/29/2011
Posts: 7027

Iris, what a bummer!  Try Myriam's idea.
Iris L.
Posted: Saturday, February 4, 2012 8:40 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 17900

I was so shocked I didn't ask, but I got the impression that she has retired from practicing medicine completely.  She had been with this group for over 25 years, so it's not like she planned a new practice.  I'll call Monday and see if I can get any information from the staff.   


Willow, I've had so much difficulty with PCPs.  In 2003 I changed from one location to another and I haven't had a good PCP relationship except with the geriatrician from last year. 



Iris L. 

Posted: Saturday, February 4, 2012 9:22 PM
Joined: 1/3/2012
Posts: 189

I see working with doctors like working with a boss at a job. You are a team. Your boss is the leader, but you have input. I have 5 doctors. My PCP and specialists. I treat them like a work boss, that you must like and work with for yoru job. If a doctor forgets the best way to talk to me, I remnd him what the best way is. You need a two way conversation, while respecting a doctors education and training. When I get a new doctor its like a new boss. I see what is needed for us to work together as one. When I ask my doctor for something; I back it up with why, and facts. My doctors also know to do the same wiht me. Never say to me just do it, or don't wory; but why and what my options are.

Say Ah

Posted: Saturday, February 4, 2012 10:47 PM
Joined: 12/6/2011
Posts: 3326

Gee, for me it's the other way around. I'm the boss and the doctor is an employee whom I've hired for her expertise. :-? thinking
Posted: Saturday, February 4, 2012 11:27 PM
Joined: 12/18/2011
Posts: 36

Hi Iris, I am pretty new here and have sifted through a lot and have posted some.  I'm so sorry to hear about your PCP.  I am also without one at the moment.  Contacting the agency's for referrals are helpful, it's just hard and time consuming to find one that "fits".  I wish you lots of luck in finding a good one who will stick with you and stay put.  Hope you and everyone is having a pleasant Saturday evening.
Posted: Sunday, February 5, 2012 2:06 PM
Joined: 11/29/2011
Posts: 514

Iris, that's terrible news! 

(I just lost everything I typed when I went back to copy Myriam's smiley faces from the other forum.  I miss our built in smileys like we used to have. Now I can't give you any more smileys today. Sigh!)           anyway...

I have confidence that you will find  a new PCP that you love.  When you call the office on Monday, just tell them what you need in a doctor and why.

On another thread I talked about the importance of forming your own "medical team."  Through ups and downs, I now have assembled a team that 

understands that I have YOAD and is willing to work with my limitations.  I'm comfortable with my team which includes a knowledgeable, accessible pharmacist.

I know that with your background, you have a jump on me!  You will have the Iris A-Team before we know it!

Iris L.
Posted: Sunday, February 5, 2012 5:10 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 17900

I appreciate your enthusiasm, Geegee!  I admit, I feel discouraged by my bad luck with PCPs.  Hopefully, my luck will turn.

Iris L.

Posted: Sunday, February 5, 2012 5:23 PM
"Gee, for me it's the other way around. I'm the boss and the doctor is an employee whom I've hired for her expertise"    Myriam, I second that.  And I think that is the way it should be.  Since I have social anxiety, I would let the fear take control and let the doctor do and say as he pleased.  Now that I'm working on being more direct,  I let them know what's on my mind.  If they don't like it I'll move on and seek another doctor.  In 2 weeks I get to see a new urologist because the last two were jerks.  Too bad I did not have the courage to say what was on my mind.  I hope I do this time