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Teens reaction to death of a grandparent
pieberry
Posted: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 5:01 PM
Joined: 7/6/2012
Posts: 37


I lost my mother to dementia on Saturday, and her ashes arrived today. It really hit me when the ashes came. My son, who knew my mother, but didn't have a close relationship with her, asked to see her ashes. I didn't want to open the box, and I didn't think that it was appropriate. He kept insisting and questioning, and I continued to say no. I did not want to debate this especially at this time when I need to be left alone to grieve. My son then lied to me about something insignificant, but I feel very stongly about not lying, so I took his phone away. In a snotty way, my son said," Do you think that there will be enough room for both the ashes and my phone in your room!" With that I sent him to his room for the rest of the afternoon and night.

 

My son seemed surprised by my reaction. I just don't get it! I don't know if he is intentionally being cruel or of he is grieving in his own way.