My parents died of AD in the past 12 months. My son is unemployed and having a hard time finding a job because he is 4yrs out of college so not enough experience, he may have to move 4 states away. My husband's father is showing signs of Alzheimer's. His uncle died of AD a yr ago. My husband's grandmother is hardly walking and eating. My work is emotionally draining with so many staff issues and now..... a hurricane to deal with. 

Calgon take me away!!!! <-- remember that commercial?

ESC.... ESC.... ESC.....ESC

If only Calgon could take us away...for real.  Ahhhh!!!

It does sometimes feel that this journey will never end.

My BIL is still in really bad shape and my dear SIL needs some relief.  Since my husband and I were tied up with Mom's last week of illness, then the travel for her funeral, we are now picking up again just where we left off.

Hang in there!

Hey, I was thinking of you last week.  When you fix that ESC key take me with you.

Glad you see you posting again!!!!

Oh no, hurricane - one thing about Florida I do NOT miss.

Still Waters - how is your mom doing? <hugs> to you.

dayn2nite - sometimes I just come in and read. It is very hard. I miss my parents so much. Life is not the same without them. 

Calgon, take me away is something my co-worker and I say to each other.  It sure would be great to soak away the pain.  I keep coming back here, because it can be so lonely not being able to share these feelings, these dark feelings some people on the outside of the experience cannot understand.

Maybe we all need a bit of Calgon, something we can do that is soothing and comforting for ourselves.  We probably all have our own Calgon-type moments, I hope so.  These are the things we have to hang on to to get through this process of grief.

I so remember those Calgon commercials.  Wouldn't it be great if a bath really COULD take it all away?

I also have so many days that I come on here and read but that's it.  That's why I resigned as a peer volunteer.  Just can't live that pain day in and day out anymore.

Are you still being threatened by the hurricane?

SW, there you are!!!  I was thinking about you this morning. 

Sad, yes, it's horrible lots of posts lately where 2 parents have it OR 1 has it and they describe the other parent and it sounds like that parent has it too (but the poster doesn't realize).  Awful, awful--I cannot imagine what that is like.

When I used to feel sorry for myself I would think about the people who had 2 ill parents (even if it wasn't AD) and thank my lucky stars.

Take me with you, but better wait till we bury Mom.  Now that is becoming a pain in my backside.  Want to bury her the UP with her parents.  My Aunt talked to someone at the cemetary and they will need copy of the death certificate.  The funeral director here said that won't be ready for months.  I think we should just go up North with a shoval and a flashlight. Dig a hole (she's being cremated) and drop her in.  If she can't buried before the end of September then will have to wait till Spring.  Oh well then she can visit her Sister for awhile.

Still Water:  you hit the nail right on the head.  Mom was the hell hole (NH) for 8 months.  Since I quit my job to care for her, I went to the NH three or four times a day to make sure they did what they were supposed to do.  Do miss going there and rattling their chain (being a pain in the butt).  Mom couldn't walk, so when she had to go to the bathroom I would stand right at the places that the 3 halls meet till I found an aid.  If they said she just went to stand there and give them what Winnie the Pooh would call a hard stare till they did it.

pdecur, that can't be true about not getting the death certificate for months.

I did a whole-body donation for my mother, her body went to Rhode Island and then the rest went to Oregon to be cremated and I received the death certificates by mail in 10 days.

Did they say why the certificate will take months?  It's going to be getting cold up there soon, I don't even know if they can do burials in winter with the ground frozen.

She's still hanging out at the funeral home, because the NH Dr is out of town and the pinch hitter still hasn't signed the paperwork.

Wonder if I got the coroner from the Wizard of Oz, if that would help.  Could take him with us.  He could his song from the movie.  That should be enough.

pd, that is terrible for you. We got the death certificates for both my parents within 7-10 days. You can't do anything without those. Bureaucracy S***s sometimes, especially in this sensitive and heartbreaking matter.

I sure hope they come up to the plate asap for you.

Hugs..........farawaydaughter

I just don’t feel like communicating in the CG forum these days. Seems like the same topics are repeated over and over again.


 

I had a hard time getting my Mom's death certificates but it certainly was within a couple of weeks. The funeral home swore they gave them to us. They said my Dad and my aunt picked them up the day after the funeral with the funeral packet. The day after the funeral my Dad didn't go any where near the funeral home and my aunt left for Canada!! It was me and my husband that picked up the funeral packet and the death certificates weren't in it!! I called them I KNOW 5 times trying to locate them. They eventually called to see if it had been issued (which it had) and got us some new ones issued.

Now the new thing I am dealing with is the pre-paid insurance policy!! Dad got a pre-paid policy a few months back for funerals. He got it thru his financial advisor so I know it's all good. He listed me as the beneficiary on the policy. Well, a few days after the funeral the funeral home called me and asked me if I would come down and sign some papers. Since I was listed as the beneficiary I would need to sign an afidavit to release the funds to them to pay the funeral bill. So I went down and signed all the paperwork that needed to be signed. Well that was June. Just the other day Dad receives a bill from the funeral home for the entire amount!! So after I talked to the man at the funeral home and he told me he called the insurance company and a claim was never filed. Well, they told me in June THEY were going to file it. So anyways I went down and signed the paperwork AGAIN and it has been filed AGAIN. I told them if there are any problems to call ME and not send my Dad another bill. Dad told the owner of the funeral home "Now, you know I'm good for this bill. I don't like to have unpaid bills. I'll write you out a check right now if you need me to." I was like "Don't do that!!!" It's easier to GIVE money than to GET IT BACK!!! PLEASE let ME handle it!!!

These are my "Calgon Take Me Away Moments!!!"