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Had second meeting w/Hospice bereavement counselor today
Posted: Saturday, October 31, 2015 12:12 AM
Joined: 2/20/2014
Posts: 294

met with the Hospice bereavement counselor today, it was my second meeting.

I feel so much better. 

The grief is stirring up a lot of old traumas. I guess it isn't unusual and it makes me feel better understanding why I've been so anxious and desperate. 

My mother was my only living parent, when my father died 13 years ago, my grief was different and we had to focus on Mom. 

So, all of you are right about what I'm going through and I thank you for taking the time to share and post.

I'm going to continue posting. I know most of you don't know me, I've been around for years sharing your lives. I was on here with a different profile, I don't even remember my profile name from before.

I used to think when my mother passed I would never want to be on this site again. 

I still need to be here. 


Posted: Saturday, October 31, 2015 12:36 PM
Joined: 4/22/2013
Posts: 842

300sun wrote:

I still need to be here. 


Me, too, Sun.  Me too.

Posted: Saturday, October 31, 2015 1:31 PM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 21306

glad it helped...I am not certain I want to/am ready to talk to anyone
Posted: Saturday, October 31, 2015 1:42 PM
Joined: 2/20/2014
Posts: 294

It was a couple of months before I reached out to Hospice bereavement.

I had remembered how beneficial Hospice bereavement was for Mom when Dad died 13 years ago. It helped her forge a new life for 7 years, until she became ill. It was the first time Mom had ever lived on her own and she was proud of herself, deservedly.
At this point I am seeing the counselor every couple of weeks.





Posted: Tuesday, November 3, 2015 3:50 AM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 4122

I have been 'round for 8 years and I do not plan on leaving soon...part of grieving  can, but not always,  involve old traumas or unresolved familial issues.. I have been receiving hospice bereavement counseling since the death of my mom in June...very beneficial for me.


one daughter
Posted: Saturday, November 7, 2015 1:07 PM
Joined: 1/30/2013
Posts: 1980

My mama was my only living parent.  I lost my daddy a year and 5 months before losing my mama. And like you I couldn't grieve for my father.  I had to take care of my mama.  Mama had ALZ. It is still so hard. 


Posted: Saturday, November 7, 2015 1:30 PM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 3802

300sun  Glad you are still coming here. Praying for you right now. Veronica
Because she's my mom!
Posted: Monday, November 9, 2015 1:12 AM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 737

I've not reached out to Hospice Bereavement, and don't know if it's because I'm still numb, or because I grieved so deeply during the last 5 years of her life with this dreadful disease.
Posted: Monday, November 9, 2015 5:31 PM
Joined: 3/19/2013
Posts: 314

Lost my wife Joyce on July 4th and I still miss her every minute of every day, I started consoling two week after she was gone and it has been very beneficial, it hasn't eased the pain and loneliness but I understand it much better I still go twice a month, in addition I joined a group sponsored by hospice and it is good to be with people who are in similar circumstances