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Thanksgiving holiday and how I will deal
300sun
Posted: Wednesday, November 18, 2015 3:21 PM
Joined: 2/20/2014
Posts: 294


One thing I requested was not to have the holiday here. There are other family to host the holidays and I asked they do so.


Mostly, the last few holidays at our house were tough. Mom was very ill with dementia and her heart failure, and there were no kids around. It made the impending loss palpable.
 

 This year I'm grateful not to be home. 


Leland
Posted: Wednesday, November 18, 2015 6:30 PM
Joined: 3/19/2013
Posts: 314


Same here, the last few years of Holidays Joyce would get very agitated and cry after a few hours with everyone here.

While I still miss ger every minute of everyday it will be good to go to our daughters for the holiday

Leland


300sun
Posted: Wednesday, November 18, 2015 10:00 PM
Joined: 2/20/2014
Posts: 294


Leland, I hope you have some enjoyment on Thanksgiving, you are due!

We will be on a 4.5 hour time limit due to our dogs. Not complaining, glad to have an out if needed. 

Patrick


socwkr
Posted: Wednesday, November 18, 2015 11:43 PM
Joined: 10/6/2012
Posts: 924


I am so happy that the mother and grandmother of my daughter's boyfriend invited us to their home for Thanksgiving.  I've heard she makes a fantastic turkey so I'm looking forward to a good meal.  They are lovely women so it should be relaxing and fun.
Lesley Jean
Posted: Thursday, November 19, 2015 7:45 PM
Joined: 2/13/2013
Posts: 2965


I am so glad that we are having brunch at one DIL's and  dinner at another DIL's house.  I will cook a turkey and my sister will make the cranberry sauce. (She makes yummy cranberries). Instead of my traditional egg-nog, that I usually make, I got some from the dairy. I just don't have the want or desire. 

My SIL and BIL will come the day before and stay about a week. I am upset that my niece flies in on Monday afternoon. I love her but she is a pain. She can't eat this or that-garlic, onions, …. She wants everything her way-very spoiled-only child-has gotten anything and everything she has ever wanted her whole life. 

I have her signed up for an art class on Monday evening. I am not sure what we will do the rest of the time, until her parents get here. Maybe take in a movie or go shopping. 
 
Monday morning I am volunteering at my youngest GD's school to help cook the Thanksgiving Dinner.  Of course, I will get to eat dinner with her and my son. It should be nice. 

Hugs,
LJ

300sun
Posted: Thursday, November 19, 2015 9:32 PM
Joined: 2/20/2014
Posts: 294


Glad people made plans. 

I could enjoy staying home, curtains drawn. The dogs make that impossible. 

I'm really not dreading Thanksgiving. Not sure about Christmas...

As long as we don't do the holidays in our home this year, I think I can cope.

 

 


300sun
Posted: Monday, November 23, 2015 4:30 PM
Joined: 2/20/2014
Posts: 294


I've been up and down lately. Not feeling as desperate but not liking the downs. 

Thanksgiving is happening like it or not. My sister is having a tough time, she lives out of state. Wish I could help her.  

I will do the best I can and find some thankfulness, I will also miss Mom not being with us. 

I hope we all find some solace or joy, if only for a short time.

 


jfkoc
Posted: Monday, November 23, 2015 5:17 PM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 19546


I will have dinner at my daughters and for the first time in years not worry about eating and running back home. Scrabble will be played ad nauseum and the will be a new puzzle on my tabe at h ome.

The Holidays have not been fun here for a long time so not worried.


300sun
Posted: Monday, November 23, 2015 8:11 PM
Joined: 2/20/2014
Posts: 294


 

 jfkoc wrote:

I will have dinner at my daughters and for the first time in years not worry about eating and running back home. Scrabble will be played ad nauseum and the will be a new puzzle on my tabe at h ome.

The Holidays have not been fun here for a long time so not worried.

 


 

jfkoc,
That's a good point about the holidays, they've been sad here the last couple of years.

 Patrick 


Oceanbum
Posted: Tuesday, November 24, 2015 9:19 AM
Joined: 3/11/2012
Posts: 433


My daughter asked me about Thanksgiving this morning on our way to drop her off at school. I hadn't really thought too much about it until she said "This is your first Thanksgiving without both of your parents." I guess that's when it really hit me...it is. Mom's been gone 3 1/2 years and we lost Dad Dec. 1. Last year he was in the hospital on Thanksgiving. We took him to the ER the Fri. before Thanksgiving and he never came home. So Thanksgiving last year is a blur to me. I really don't know what this year will bring. I know there will be tears. I know I will miss them. We haven't been able to enjoy a Thanksgiving meal with them for several years because of Mom's health. That won't make me miss those times any less. though. I miss them every day. It just seems worse on those special days. We will spend Thanksgiving with my mother-in-law and my husband's family and our children, like we have the last several years. I am so thankful for his mother. She's not in great health but she's still with him for another holiday. That makes me happy and gives me something to look forward to.

Remember we all have something to be thankful for this holiday season. I know it's hard to be thankful when we face this holiday without a loved one. But I am reminded of my favorite quote:  Don't mourn that which you have lost; rejoice instead that you had it.

Happy Thanksgiving to all my friends here! Peace, hugs & comfort to you!!


Mimi S.
Posted: Tuesday, November 24, 2015 9:48 AM
Joined: 11/29/2011
Posts: 7028


Ocean burn:

I love your message. We all need to enlarge and print out the sentence you bolded.