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George K
Posted: Thursday, April 5, 2018 6:22 AM
Joined: 12/16/2011
Posts: 2823

“I measure every Grief I meet with narrow, probing eyes –

I wonder if it weighs like mine –

Or has an easier size.”
  —Emily Dickinson

How can we measure all the grief we feel, and how can we put up with it? Doesn't the Grief of Death weigh a ton or more? Doesn't it stretch out to a month, a year, or longer still? Is the Grief of Failure lighter than the Grief of Despair, but maybe longer? Isn't the Grief of Emptiness the heaviest of all? Whether we try to ignore or make light of it, our grief, like a ton of feathers or a ton of rocks, is all the same to us. This much is sure: if we lock our grief in, it will weigh more on us and lengthen out; if we open our hearts with weeping and words, others will help carry it away.

What sadness can I let go of by sharing it today?

Posted: Wednesday, April 11, 2018 10:48 PM
Joined: 11/9/2017
Posts: 305

This is a stunning piece of writing. It's taken me a day to figure out how to respond and all I came up with is "stunning." It so accurately describes grief with a needle like sharpness. 

I would add the weight of silence and paralysis. Those of us who lost someone through dementia have a very different kind of grief, we had to lose our loved one over and over again, every day a new loss 

Death by a thousand cuts.