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From Grief into Action
George K
Posted: Thursday, November 17, 2022 6:03 AM
Joined: 12/16/2011
Posts: 2823

Trust in God and do something. 

  —Mary Lyon 




It's important to let ourselves grieve as a passage between yesterday and tomorrow. But we do not have to be controlled unduly by our grief, or our pain. 




There are times when we have grieved, surrendered to the heaviness, tiredness, and weariness of a circumstance long enough. It becomes time to break out. It comes time to take action. 




We will know when it's time to break the routine of grieving. There will be signs within and around us. We will become tired of the heaviness. An idea will occur; an opportunity will present itself. We may think: No. Too much effort... Do it anyway. Try something. Reach out. Stretch. Do something unusual, something different, and something special. 




A new activity may help trigger the transformation process. Stay up two hours later than usual! Make an appointment to do something for yourself that is different from what you usually do. Visit someone you haven't seen in years. Do something to encourage and help the new energy coming your way. 




We may not feel like breaking out of grief. It may feel safer, easier, to remain in our cocoon. Begin pushing out anyway. 




Test the walls of your cocoon. Push. Push a little harder. It may be time to emerge. 




Today, I will trust God and the process, but I will also take action to help myself feel better. 

Posted: Thursday, November 17, 2022 1:25 PM
Joined: 10/25/2022
Posts: 5

Thoughtful words George K. My 'heaviness' never seems to lift. But there is also unlimited gratitude in my heart. She made me a better person from the day we met in '76 through her 8 year journey.
George K
Posted: Friday, November 18, 2022 7:19 AM
Joined: 12/16/2011
Posts: 2823

Hey eggharbor42, are you from New Jersey?  I'm in Delaware, and I was born in 1942.  I married my wife in 1975.  She was diagnosed with this damned disease in 1994 and was received by God in 2016.   I agree with you that I am a much better person because of our relationship, both before and after her diagnosis.  Because of her I'm a much more loving, understanding, patient, and gentle person, what I do hate is that she had to suffer so I could learn all that stuff.  I'm grateful I learned it, but I sure would have rather learned it through a different path.  Even though she has been gone for over six years, I still miss her, especially as the holidays approach.  If you are in New Jersey, what I did was go to Cape May and I found some peace of mind and peace of heart there.  We always vacationed there in July or August, so I have fond memories of being at the cleansing ocean with her.  It was at the Jersey shore that I surrendered her to God and received His peace beyond understanding.  Thank you for reminding me of that experience.