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Joined: 12/5/2011
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Hello,
My name is Lisa. I lost my Mom in November of 2010. It was right after Thanksgiving.
I guess I must have been numb last Christmas because I don't remember being this sad.
I miss my Mom terribly. Not the sick Mom but the well Mom with a good personality, wit, kind and a really good Mom. I was very blessed to have a great Mom!
My poor Dad is having an awful time this year. I don't know how to help him other than to be there for him.
I hope and pray that all of you have good holidays.
Peace and Hope,
Lisa
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Joined: 12/13/2011
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I am sorry for the grief you are suffering from. I too miss my mom. She is still alive but doesn't know who I am at this point. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. All I can do is say a prayer for those who have this horrible disease and hope my mom isn't suffering. God Bless you and hope things have gotten somewhat easier.
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Joined: 12/5/2011
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T hank you for your kind words.
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. This disease is so awful!!
You and your Mom will be in my thoughts and prayers thi holiday season.
Please, let me know how Both of you are doing!
Hang in there.
Peace and Hope,
Lisa
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Joined: 12/15/2011
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I lost my dad April 19, 2011 and I still feel numb. I am just going through the motion of daily life. Also dealing with mom in stage 7 is taking up my time and energy.
But I remember when I lost my grandmother and grandfather, I felt numb and tired for quite a while. After a year or so after it hit me that they were gone. I guess it's like they say that at the beginning we live in denial and then we realize what has happened. Again, I am so physically and emotionally tired dealing with mom that I just dont have the strength to even cry anymore.
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Joined: 12/4/2011
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Lisa428
Sometimes I miss my Mom so much it hurts. She passed April of 2007. I think we will always miss our wonderful mothers. But I find as time goes on the pain comes less and less often. Yet, I continue to remember her and look forward to being with her again someday.
I am sure you are a huge comfort to your father whether he expresses it or not.
I've prayed for both of you. God's Peace
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Joined: 12/23/2011
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My mom passed away on June 5th of this year and I still cry every day. And today is my dads anniversary, he passed away 24 years ago from a heart attack and most of the day today I keep crying. I can't wait until the holidays are over.
Hope everyone has a good holiday.....
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Joined: 12/19/2011
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My hubby died on Nov 23, 1 month ago. Christmas isn't the same. Gift cards are my way out. Otherwise, I'm spending my time writting the eulogy, picking up funeral programs and the obituary to post before his funeral on the 9th. I need this to be over.
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Joined: 12/4/2011
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For all those missing someone special, may God's love and peace surround you.
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Joined: 12/5/2011
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Hi to All,
Thank you for all your posts and shared feelings.
It is Christmas Eve and it's just not the same without Mom!
Hi Mom, I Love and Miss You!!!!!
Peace and Hope,
Lisa
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Joined: 12/4/2011
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Lisa, How are you doing? Veronica
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Joined: 12/15/2011
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Lisa, I think we'll always miss our Moms. I lost my Mom to cancer 20 years ago. I keep her picture in front of me on my computer desk. I see her smiling face every day. I'm glad my Mom isn't sick anymore.
Iris L.
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Joined: 2/22/2012
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I just lost my mother 2-17- 2012. She died from alzheimer's. She could not remember how to eat or drink. It was so hard to watch her for the last 3 years go down hill. She weighted 62 pounds when she passed. We need to find a cure for this. I Miss her so much and wish I could of helped her.
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Joined: 12/15/2011
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Hi Patgunn....I'm glad you're here but I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed away on 1/30, day five of not eating or drinking anything. A week before, the nurse had told me to still bring my mom her favorite coffee from Starbucks, which I brought usually 3-4 times a week. My mom had drank every ounce of the coffee I'd brought over the weekend, so I assumed we'd be ok. Well, she tried to drink out of the straw but didn't have the strength to suck the coffee through the straw. I was able to help her drink a small fraction of her coffee by taking it slow and letting her sip, but then she was too tired. It was probably the last treat she enjoyed before she couldn't take food or drink 2 days later.
My point in sharing this is that I relate to you. I wish I could have helped her. I wish I could have saved her from this cruel disease. I am sure you've done whatever you're able to do for her. I pray God comfort you and bring you smiles via happy memories of you and your mom together in the good days, before the illness.
Will you have a service or already had a funeral? How are you coping? Do you have support? I pray you're surrounded by people who love you and loved your mom. God bless you, dedicated daughter. Be kind to yourself.
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Joined: 2/22/2012
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Thank You for your story. My heart is broken. I have been looking at all the pictures of our family growing up and I just cant believe that my mom is gone. There are 8 kids in the family and they all don't get along and my wish was to have everyone together before mom was gone. That didn't happen and I feel like that made it harder for mom to pass. I was there with one of my sisters as my sister held my mom and she took her last breath. That is in my head and just wont go away. We went back to the home yesterday to see everyone that we also got close to and I don't know if I can watch someone else pass from this. There are people in the home that their family never have come to see them.
Years of not seeing your loved one? My mind is just going all over the place and now that I just lost my job I need to find something to get me out of bed. Thank You For Taking Your Time To Talk To Me. Pat
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Joined: 12/20/2011
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Hi Patgunn,
I'm sorry to hear you lost your job during this difficult time. Try to do something kind for yourself each day, no matter how small. I too am working to not have my mom on her deathbed be my first image when I think of her. It took a couple weeks, but I think I have succeeded in first landing on memories from before AD. My mom passed away on 2/1 and I was with her for her last breath (and the preceding 12 hours after we took her off the breathing machine). It was tough but we all felt it was her journey and we were just there to help her.
To change the first image I had, I focused on memories from childhood. I kept notes of things that made me think of her during the day and reflected on those happy thoughts. I'm not saying I won't remember the way she looked at death, but I don't think it will be the first image for me very often.
I wish you luck as you walk through this valley of grief and I hope you find meaning and happiness along the way.
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Joined: 12/5/2011
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Hi to all,
Got through the holidays with the help of my daughter and granddaughter! They really give me something to live for. My granddaughter just turned 1. She's beautiful, funny, smart and a pistol! Constant motion.
I hope all of you are doing well. Or at least as well as expected??!
I'm still hanging in there too.
Peace and Hope,
Lisa
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