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A good side of her dementia ?
chrisp1653
Posted: Friday, February 17, 2017 3:12 PM
Joined: 1/23/2017
Posts: 1219


It occurred to me yesterday that Barbara doesn't get teary eyed anymore when her deceased son is mentioned.

The fact is, she doesn't remember much of the whole scenario. Not the sometimes violent temper. Not his sweet side. Not the guns. Not the police. Not the phone call in the night.

Most of it is gone, except for the occasional blur.

Well, you know me. I think in terms of songs and poems. So, to badly paraphrase Aaron's response to Moses about the golden calf, I'll just say I opened a text file, and this is what came out :

                                             Losing a kid

Losing a kid
It shouldn't happen
But it does, every day
     Good parents
     Good kids
Something transpires
Then they're closing their eyelids
It shouldn't happen
But it does, and what can you say ?

Losing a kid
It shouldn't happen
But it does, that's no lie
     Bad parents
     Bad kids
What does it matter
Even life on the skids
Is still life, and you still wonder why

        Losing a loved one
        Losing anyone
        How do you take it ?
        Who do you call ?

Losing a kid
It shouldn't happen
But it does, too many times
     Is it the parents ?
     Is it the kids ?
Ask the rooms full of people
The wooden boxes with lids
And in the stillness -  the sound of the chimes.

February 2017    Chris Moore

    

    
     
     




sharon11daugherty
Posted: Saturday, February 18, 2017 12:50 AM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


When our son died 44 years ago someone told me it was going to be like "background music" in  my brain for the rest of my life.     So true.

My LO as well, does not dwell or mention anything negative from our past years nor anything in the future. He lives in the present only.  A Blessing for him.  An excellent reminder for me as well.


MPSunshine
Posted: Saturday, February 18, 2017 9:28 AM
Joined: 5/21/2016
Posts: 1994


chrisp, again thank you for your songs.
VKB
Posted: Saturday, February 18, 2017 4:22 PM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 3648


Bravo, Chrisp!
chrisp1653
Posted: Tuesday, February 21, 2017 8:03 PM
Joined: 1/23/2017
Posts: 1219


It hit me today that there is a bigger attachment to my family with this one than I had given any thought to before. How did I forget my own sister, who died last year at 73 ( I think ), while my mom is still living . And then there is my sister-in-law, whose child was stillborn at around the 6 month mark. Maybe they were there in my subconscious urging me on.

Just thinking.

Chris


MPSunshine
Posted: Thursday, March 2, 2017 5:25 AM
Joined: 5/21/2016
Posts: 1994


Sometimes the helpers are not who we think they are initially but that does not lessen the help. It's just not as obvious, especially for creative work.