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Driving is Making My SOn Nervous!
younghope
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 8:48 AM
Joined: 1/9/2012
Posts: 27


Last night, my son told me that my driving is scaring him. He said he was going to call the AA, today and talk to them. He is in school, so he may do that when he gets home. He said, "Mom you don't realize how bad your driving is and it is serious!"" What he doesn't realize is that I HAVE to drive as i can't afford insurance for him at this point, so I have no choice. It is too much on him to work and go to school, so when summer is here, I told him to find him a job and I could help him pay for the insurance or we would find him an old car that he just needs liability on. He told me that I probably didn't want to here that, but he said I think you need to. What to do?

 

Tracy


Iris L.
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 10:39 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 18508


Tracy, if your driving is that bad, you'd better give it up now, before you have an accident.  I know, no one wants to be isolated in a little town with no transportation.  But you must think of the consequences.   

 

 

 

Are you driving your son to school?  The school should be able to help you find alternate transportation for him.   

 

Do you drive to get your groceries?  My county has transportation for seniors and the disabled.  Can you look into that for yourself? 

 

Iris L. 


JAB
Posted: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 11:16 AM
Joined: 11/30/2011
Posts: 740


Many places have low-cost transportation for the physically and/or cognitively challenged.

 

Google (or have your son google):

 

Senior transport [name of your city]

 

You could also contact your metropolitan transit system to find out what they offer.

 

Or ask your local chapter of the Alz Assoc what is available where you live.


Ttom
Posted: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 12:46 PM
Joined: 11/29/2011
Posts: 182


JAB wrote:

Many places have low-cost transportation for the physically and/or cognitively challenged. 

  

Google (or have your son google): 

  

Senior transport [name of your city] 

  


 

I use Cumberland Country Transportation to get around with.  

 

http://www.ccpa.net/index.aspx?NID=127 

 

I bet there is something like that in your area.

 

 


younghope
Posted: Thursday, January 19, 2012 8:17 AM
Joined: 1/9/2012
Posts: 27


Living in a town of barely 3000 people, that is not an option that is offered. We don't even have cabs.

Tracy
Myriam
Posted: Thursday, January 19, 2012 12:42 PM
Joined: 12/6/2011
Posts: 3326


younghope wrote:

Living in a town of barely 3000 people, that is not an option that is offered. We don't even have cabs.

Tracy
 
 
I hear you, Tracy! I live in a town of 2,500. I'm still driving without problems, but am anticipating the time when I will have to stop, so have decided that while I have my wits about me (I'm between stages 2 and 3 right now) to move to Seattle where the public transportation system is great...and there's sooo much more to do there than here (theater, museums, support groups, etc). I'm considering several "senior" apartment buildings (though oddly enough, I don't consider myself a senior) that are secure and have lots of services within easy walking distance (grocery stores, banks, movie theaters, etc). The WA Alzheimer's Assn. is located in Seattle and they are a wonderful resource.

Iris L.
Posted: Thursday, January 19, 2012 2:59 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 18508


Even in a small town there should be access to county services.  If you can't find county services in your town, a church or other neighborhood resource may be able to point you in the right direction.   

 

In the old message board, in the Spouse/Partner section, the members were talking about community resources we might not readily think of.  

 

 

--Boy and Girls Scouts  need to do community projects for their badges.  They may be availaible to volunteer to help. 

 

--High School Junior ROTC students also do community projects. 

 

 --The Latter Day Saints (Mormons) can provide volunteers for projects.

 

 

 

 

 I wish the old board were accessible.  These are just what I can remember.   

 

 

 

Iris L. 


Mimi S.
Posted: Thursday, January 19, 2012 6:44 PM
Joined: 11/29/2011
Posts: 7027


And Tracy, Check with your local Aging office and Alzheimer's Chapter.
Cheryle Gardiner
Posted: Friday, January 20, 2012 9:47 AM
Joined: 11/30/2011
Posts: 529


Tracy, I know you know this, but sometimes all of us need reminders: It's going to be a lot more expensive if you have an accident and someone is hurt!

Has your son taken Driver's Ed? Does he keep his grades up? Those are both reasons for insurance discounts. And if you put the policy in your son's name and relinquish your license, that will at least mean you're only insuring one person and it should be lower for that reason. I'd have a talk with your insurance agent to discuss some of these ideas.

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all of this. I hope you find some workable solutions soon.

Blessings.

younghope
Posted: Friday, January 20, 2012 10:33 AM
Joined: 1/9/2012
Posts: 27


My son has his intermediate license, that is the problem, I just got to get the insurance to where I can afford it. I am still making payment on my jeep, so I don't think they are going to let a minor be listed as the primary.

 

Tracy


RussB
Posted: Wednesday, January 25, 2012 9:56 AM
Joined: 1/23/2012
Posts: 25


Good Morning , an important question, How do you tell  when it is time to quit driving ? I am sure this is a frequent point of discussion in families where someone has AD
Iris L.
Posted: Wednesday, January 25, 2012 10:38 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 18508


Welcome to our online support group, Russ.  Please tell us more about yourself.  Are you a patient wondering about your driving?  If you feel at all uncertain about your driving, you should stop and search for alternative means of transportation.   

 

There is transportation available for seniors and the disabled.  Just today in my women's group one of our members got approved for disabled transportation on the basis of seizures. 

 

Please come back and tell us more.  You can start your own thread by clicking on "Add Topic" at the upper right in the green button.  More members will see your story that way.   

 

Iris L. 


JAB
Posted: Thursday, January 26, 2012 1:21 PM
Joined: 11/30/2011
Posts: 740


Hi, Russ, welcome to the boards.  Please do tell us more about your situation ... we may be able to give you much better information that way. 

  

In the meantime ... there are special tests that can be administered, to help determine how disabled the dementia patient is when it comes to the skills needed for driving.   

 

This post has been edited by the ALZConnected Moderator on February 14th, 2012.