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'he doesn't think he is ill'
Posted: Saturday, August 20, 2016 9:22 PM
Joined: 5/4/2013
Posts: 1276

I've realized that we view them as 'sick' and they do not view themselves this way. 

That is a quote from GiGi in the last couple of days, and it really made me stop and think.

No wonder he can't understand why I am so stressed 'taking care of' him. or that he thinks that if only I asked him to do more around the house, everything would be fine.

And I can't change his viewpoint. So I just go on doing what I am doing, until I wear out..... or have 3 weeks respite, or permanent placement.

I HATE this disease. @#$%^

Posted: Saturday, August 20, 2016 9:43 PM
Joined: 7/30/2013
Posts: 6028

Yeah, tell me about it. My hubby thinks he is just fine. He has been going through a good phase right now. He's so happy! I'm not even sure why. It could simply represent a progression of the disease. He's starting to wet himself, but he still thinks he's okay. If that's what he believes, that's okay with me. 
Posted: Sunday, August 21, 2016 7:02 AM
Joined: 6/6/2016
Posts: 58

Same thing here for me.   My husband thinks he is fine, never better actually.  He can't understand and gets mad that I am making all the decisions now and he's not doing anything.  I will give him a little job to do and sure enough it gets screwed up, so I'm better off doing things myself. 

I guess its good he doesn't realize whats happening.  Its awful for me though, to watch what is happening to him, little by little. 

HUGS for all.

Posted: Sunday, August 21, 2016 7:17 AM
Joined: 1/22/2014
Posts: 573

Yes, same here.  DH probably has VaD.  After each TIA he recognizes an issue with his thinking (he says it's harder to think or it's slower to think)  then within a week he says he's fine again and has had no lingering impact.  Meanwhile I see that he is more confused after each episode, has more aphasia, etc.  His mom who is stage 5 will tell people that she is going to get ALZ someday but seems to have no recognition that she already has it.