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Her Fight Has Ended
Army_Vet60
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 8:32 AM
Joined: 6/21/2019
Posts: 363


My wife has been set free.

The disease let her go this morning.

I've been set free as well.

I'm free to never forget her.


LizzieC
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 8:42 AM
Joined: 3/28/2018
Posts: 220


ArmyVet,

Just know that you have been such a faithful caregiver to the end.  Thank you for sharing with us. Please continue to let us know how you are doing in this new journey.  We care!


Lorita
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 8:48 AM
Joined: 12/18/2011
Posts: 10623


ArmyVet,

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.  One consolation for you is that your beloved wife is now whole again and free of this horrible disease.  Rest and take care of yourself.


Wish2Roam
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 8:49 AM
Joined: 2/16/2018
Posts: 132


My sincere condolences to you.  Your DW had the most wonderful caregiver.  Please take care of yourself now and drop in and let us know how you are doing.
Rescue mom
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 9:02 AM
Joined: 10/12/2018
Posts: 885


Blessings and peace be with you. You did so much to ease her way. May you find comfort in that.
ChrisBme
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 9:05 AM
Joined: 2/1/2018
Posts: 54


Our deepest condolences go out to you! You've been strong and admirable! I hope you can now go forward and find some peace and enjoyment to the rest of your life as I'm sure that is what your dear wife would want for you!
Paul&Me
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 9:09 AM
Joined: 1/21/2017
Posts: 106


You have my sympathy on your loss. Lean on your support system and take care of yourself.
jfkoc
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 9:49 AM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 17169


Please accept my sympathy also and thank you for letting us know. We call it stage 8 and we are still helping each other...it is hard but the support helps.
harshedbuzz
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 11:26 AM
Joined: 3/6/2017
Posts: 1638


Please accept my sympathy on the passing of your dear wife.
abc123
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 11:58 AM
Joined: 6/12/2016
Posts: 464


I’m so sorry for the loss of your wife. I wish I could put into words what my heart is feeling for you. I am sad. 

My Deepest Sympathy.


Sweetwater
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 12:46 PM
Joined: 10/6/2016
Posts: 170


Army-Vet, I am very sorry and sad to hear of your dear wife's passing. You took wonderful care of her and she was fortunate to have that care. She is free now as you said and I am happy for her. Take care, Sweetwater.
Beachfan
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 12:50 PM
Joined: 2/1/2018
Posts: 318


There are no words........you have gone above and beyond.  It is time to rest, reflect and rejuvenate.  Peace be with you.  

i carry your heart with me. i carry it in my heart.

e e cummings

 


dayn2nite2
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 12:50 PM
Joined: 6/20/2016
Posts: 1941


A job well done.  I’m so sorry.  You should be proud of how you took good care of her.  You will never forget.
Ed1937
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 12:52 PM
Joined: 4/2/2018
Posts: 1417


I'm very sorry for your loss. You did an admirable job, that's for certain. Do whatever it takes to heal now, and make a new life for yourself.
Sayra
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 1:43 PM
Joined: 8/10/2016
Posts: 1561


(((Army_Vet60)))  May you find peace in the storm.
Kaswife
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 1:44 PM
Joined: 6/15/2016
Posts: 48


Oh what a day brings.  Sending heartfelt sympathy.  I pray you find comfort and peace after this hard journey.   Love lives on no matter what.  Be good to yourself.  We are here.
Lills
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 1:54 PM
Joined: 12/27/2017
Posts: 199


I'm so sorry for your loss.  As Joe Biden has often quoted, "There will come a day – I promise you – when the thought of your son or daughter, or your husband or wife, brings a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eye.  It will happen."

My sincerest condolences.



GemsWinner12
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 2:03 PM
Joined: 7/17/2017
Posts: 357


My deepest condolences to you at this time for the loss of your dear wife. You have been an amazing and courageous caregiver.  Please keep us updated; we are here for you.
HeartbrokenNJ
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 2:07 PM
Joined: 6/3/2019
Posts: 4


ArmyVet,

I am so sorry for the great loss you suffered due to this awful disease. You have been an amazing caretaker and have inspired many of us on this board. My wish for you is for your wonderful memories to eventually overtake the sadness and grief. 

HeartbrokenNJ


Doityourselfer
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 2:17 PM
Joined: 9/5/2017
Posts: 318


I'm sorry for the loss of your wife.  You were an outstanding caregiver. Take good care of yourself.
SSHarkey
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 2:23 PM
Joined: 3/15/2018
Posts: 150


ArmyVet - You were a wonderful caretaker to her. You did all you could possibly do. Praying for peace and comfort for you these next many days.
w/e
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 2:26 PM
Joined: 3/7/2012
Posts: 1707


Come healing of the heart... Come healing of the mind...

For everything, there is a season. A time to be born. A time to die.

The pain of mourning and grieving is not linear. It does not follow a scientific formula. It is a sacred personal intimate feeling of the heart. The mind. The soul. Not one size fits all. And there is no timetable for this.

Life continues on under the heavens and the season to sing and dance and laugh will come to you, eventually. The tender memories of the season of love with your beloved, it will be a source of strength and light when all seems dark.

My thoughts are with you. Your family. And friends. During this season of mourning and grieving. A time to weep. Without a doubt.

May your beloved rest in peace.


Lavakire
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 3:09 PM
Joined: 7/9/2015
Posts: 42


I am so sorry for the loss of your dear wife...you are a wonderful husband and caregiver...
EdiBug
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 4:28 PM
Joined: 12/28/2018
Posts: 21


ArmyVet: My added sympathy for your loss. My heart is heavy for you. I read a line recently that said, "Grief is as individual as a fingerprint. Do what is right for your soul." Please take the time you need to process through this forever change.
Keep It 100
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 4:52 PM
Joined: 2/26/2017
Posts: 383


Sorry for your loss. Blessings to you.
demiscared
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 4:57 PM
Joined: 8/26/2015
Posts: 19


Condolences to you.  You have done a wonderful job taking care of you DW.  Many blessings to you.
Seasons In The Sun
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 5:45 PM
Joined: 5/21/2018
Posts: 208


Army_vet60,

                         I am so sorry for your loss. . Stay strong and remember the good times.


Marabella
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 7:11 PM
Joined: 2/2/2019
Posts: 131


ArmyVet, My thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you. May you find peace, strength and healing. I admire your courage, your dedication and commitment.
Mimi2
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 7:36 PM
Joined: 5/8/2018
Posts: 51


Please accept our most sincere sympathy for the loss of your dear wife. She no longer suffers...she is free.  Rest and rejuvenate praying comfort and peace for you.
jb crick
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 8:37 PM
Joined: 8/2/2016
Posts: 507


ArmyVet,

So sad to hear of your loss, please accept my condolences. Take care of yourself and let the healing begin for you. Blessing to you, John


Louis Baldovino
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 9:05 PM
Joined: 8/2/2018
Posts: 2


So sorry for your loss. I understand completely as I am going through the same experience of a LO. My wife has Alzheimer's disease. The brain doesn't show much damage but her crying in despair and desperation to survive is heart rending. Especially after doing all I can to relieve her stress and encourage her to rest. I usually change her environment by going out to relieve her and take her mind off her dilemma. Today, Now is the worst. I'm tired and worn out and trying to do the best I can to help my lovely wife! It has been a terrible experience as you may well know. You are relieved of your caregiver duties now and she is now at peace.

I pray only that I can stay compassionate and stay in control of my emotions. I don't think about the inevitable. It will come nevertheless. I pray for peace and obviously in this evil world it can not happen without a fight to quell negative reactions. Bless you! It is time for your peace and quiet. You have good memories as you say. Rely on those for grief therapy. I do that now to keep my mind off this 24/7 event. I try to keep it light, doesn't always work but seems all I can get. 


Army_Vet60
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 9:30 PM
Joined: 6/21/2019
Posts: 363


I appreciate everyone's best wishes.

My wife died this morning at 7 am. I sat by her all night and have never felt so helpless.

I spent the morning with Hospice and then the Funeral Home people who took my wife away.

The afternoon was spent making arrangement for her viewing next week.

I feel lost and empty - I suppose I haven't had a chance to process what's happened.

I expect to feel all of it tomorrow...

Again, I appreciate everyone's best wishes.


Nowadays
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 9:47 PM
Joined: 1/1/2015
Posts: 33


ArmyVet,
Deepest sympathies to you. Your wife is free indeed and you were her champion. Wishing you peace as you carry on. One free moment at a time.

Oespups
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 10:31 PM
Joined: 6/17/2017
Posts: 98


My deepest sympathies army-vet...  Your wife was wonderfully blessed to have you in her life, and to have you when she needed you the most.  You were there for her 1000%...   Please, know that you did everything, and please, let us know how you are doing.  Hugs dear fellow!
eaglemom
Posted: Saturday, August 24, 2019 11:07 PM
Joined: 3/7/2012
Posts: 2344


I am so sorry to read about this. Please accept my deepest sympathies. Of course your numb today, and will be for several. In trying to make arrangements, etc. do take time for yourself. 

eagle