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19-year-old daughter lost father to EOAD
3solo
Posted: Thursday, February 20, 2014 12:46 AM
Joined: 2/20/2014
Posts: 1


My father was diagnosed at the age of 56 on Valentine's Day of 2008.  He passed away January of this year. I am 19 now but was 14 when he was diagnosed.  I've been lost and confused for a long time, probably most evidently when my dad's Alzheimer's and dementia entered the later more severe stages of the disease.  
Though I had a lot of time to prepare for his passing, I now realize that no amount of time can prepare someone for the suffering and loss of a loved one.  I felt lonely throughout most of this journey, and even more so now.  I know people look at me and pity me as being the girl who's father died.  I can't relate to people my own age and I'm really struggling to enjoy my life in college.  
Any words of wisdom, whether comforting or advice-giving, would be greatly appreciated.

Iris L.
Posted: Thursday, February 20, 2014 1:37 AM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 16498


3 solo, I am so sorry about the loss of your dear father.  I hope you can be comforted by the many memories you have of your dad..

There is a board here for members who have lost a loved one.  Feel free to reach out to them.  Let them know how you feel.

Iris L.

quits
Posted: Thursday, February 20, 2014 8:42 AM
Joined: 12/30/2012
Posts: 3519


I am the wife of EOAD husband, but also mom of a college student. 

My daughter was 13 when her dad started this journey. She is now 23, living at college and she has said that her friends can only relate to having a grandparent with the disease, not a parent. 

Praying you find some others on the caregiver board. I know there is a post about a blog for people your age in the caregiver board.  

I am sorry for your loss. I am sending you a Mom hug. 

LaQuita 

ps. here is the blog info

http://dementiastuckinbetween.blogspot.com

There are new updates to our blog!!! We have reached over 8000 views in 2 months.  We are advocates for our parents and we try to spread awareness and support. This is a great resource for young people who have a parent affected by dementia.  If I can't save my father ( suffers from FTD) then I will do anything possible to fight for awareness.  Please feel free to share!