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His sweater
Posted: Saturday, February 22, 2020 5:13 PM
Joined: 8/23/2014
Posts: 47

I hosted a "game night" last night for several women from our church. The few days prior were filled with cleaning and baking in preparation for the event. Being so busy left my DH wondering what was going on. He's mostly non-verbal but he kept coming up to me and making motions as to " what are you doing that for?" I repeated many times that we would be having company and I was just getting ready. I am never sure of how much he understands.

I was helping him put on a fresh pull up just before the company was due to arrive and he starts to unbutton his sweater. I asked him if he was warm.(he's always cold). No reply or indication that he even heard me, but he went to the closet and pulled out another sweater. just then I realized that he wanted to wear his "good sweater" instead of the everyday one. He wanted to look his best and I almost cried! I was torn between feeling bad that I didn't think of that myself and elated that he cared enough to do it on his own. 

The night was a good one for all.

Posted: Saturday, February 22, 2020 6:02 PM
Joined: 3/28/2018
Posts: 307

Sweet...I would go with "elated that he cared enough to do it on his own"!
Posted: Saturday, February 22, 2020 6:08 PM
Joined: 12/18/2011
Posts: 11427

Hi Sherrnel,

 I'm convinced that our loved ones with dementia know more than we think they do.  How sweet that your husband wanted to get dressed up, too.  They never cease to amaze us, do they?

Posted: Saturday, February 22, 2020 7:16 PM
Joined: 12/21/2018
Posts: 418

Yes, be elated! Treasure the sweet, sweet gesture by your DH.
Posted: Saturday, February 22, 2020 7:20 PM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 18048

lovely !


Posted: Saturday, February 22, 2020 8:06 PM
Joined: 10/31/2019
Posts: 55

This is really touching. Thank you for sharing.
Posted: Sunday, February 23, 2020 5:41 AM
Joined: 4/2/2018
Posts: 2476

What a nice thing for him to do! Treasure these moments.
White Crane
Posted: Sunday, February 23, 2020 6:13 AM
Joined: 2/27/2017
Posts: 111

How lovely!  A treasured moment.
Posted: Sunday, February 23, 2020 6:23 AM
Joined: 10/24/2019
Posts: 128

Celebrate!  That’s a special moment!
Posted: Sunday, February 23, 2020 6:54 AM
Joined: 3/15/2018
Posts: 374

Oh what a wonderful reminder that we cannot assume anything! Thank you for sharing! I needed that!
Posted: Sunday, February 23, 2020 8:44 AM
Joined: 3/7/2012
Posts: 2469

Thank you for sharing. What a wonderful sweet thing he did. The simple act of changing his sweater is so very touching. And the bonus, the house is clean and you have a fun night. That's something to celebrate.


Posted: Sunday, February 23, 2020 10:46 AM
Joined: 12/11/2018
Posts: 159

Adorable! My DH has been asking when we are inviting the neighbors over for dinner (I really didn't think much of the request as we have never done that, neither them nor us, in 10+ years of short friendly chats as we pass each other en route to various work and life activities, etc.) But seeing how your DH was looking forward to your gathering makes me think I'd better get a move on, and plan dinner with these folks even as hectic as life is now with AD. My LO might really enjoy it, though I will have to clue them in first about the monologues and repetition that his conversation has become. Thanks for sharing!
Dreamer Lost
Posted: Monday, February 24, 2020 9:40 AM
Joined: 3/7/2019
Posts: 400

oh how sweet!  My DH has so many really nice clothes from work (just stopped 4 yrs. ago) so I continually dress him in his nice business shirts (still take to the cleaners) with his blue jeans. They hang out as he doesn't tuck anything in anymore and they are button up so easy to put on and take off.  He still likes to look nice and often acts/feels better after getting dressed.  If he spills something on them, who cares, as he has so many.  Glad you had friends over.
Posted: Monday, February 24, 2020 3:00 PM
Joined: 6/12/2016
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TThank you for sharing this beautiful story with us. You have warmed my heart.
Posted: Tuesday, February 25, 2020 12:53 PM
Joined: 5/7/2018
Posts: 393

I found this to be so touching and sweet. Treasure it forever.