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sharon11daugherty
Posted: Friday, December 18, 2015 5:57 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


It occured to me today that I might have to look at this time of LO journey a little differently.

According to best practices my LO got an A+. GOLFER, LOVED FISH, LITTLE MEAT, READ 3 OR FOUR BOOKS AT A TIME, very social.

So .......did that life style prevent the aggression of this disease till February 2015?

Not knowing he had the disease did the statin drugs    (×15yrs  make it worse?)

I find it interesting, as I told LO today, that he very easily could have gotten the disease years ago, but because of his extremely healthy lifestyle it was hiding. Feb 2015 it hit hard and fast, taking us from stage 3  then to 6 now.

I am thankful for many things,  I just added a few more to my list!


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Friday, December 25, 2015 8:29 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


Chrismas at our house was quite different this year.  This was the year that 

Alzheimer s' came, Uninvited of course. Hubby could not wait to open his gifts. We used to always take turns,  youngest to oldest......not today...Hubby started in with vigor, we all laughed and said this year the oldest would start. He had no thought of what he gave or what he hadn't.  What freedom. We ate together and napped in between. He endured me putting together a train set...not easy but successful!

He was not anxious or uneasy. It was a Blessing of a day. Thankful again.


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Thursday, December 31, 2015 12:35 AM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


Tomorrow at this time we will be bringing in the new year. I find it difficult to imagine what this year will look like. I have learned much about myself this year. I do not like making decisions.  For years I felt like I didn't get to. What a silly deal!

I never worried about $. He did. Now guess who has to daily toss that worry to God?

I have found  extended family to be about as helpful as an old shoe. No clue.

I have found friends tire easily of the dailyness of this disease. I think that is why this board is so important.  No one person could have all the smarts of all of you! What a gift this has been for me. I mostly hang out in the "just want to be friends thread."

I find concern, love and genuine friendships develop there. I think sometimes I need that the most. I need to be reminded that I do matter to some people even if just in words currently. My world is getting smaller and this has enabled me to enlarge my territory.  As LO slowly leaves the life that we have shared, I find my future is one that I will need to prepare for....differently.


Lorita
Posted: Friday, January 1, 2016 9:42 PM
Joined: 12/18/2011
Posts: 12190


 Hi Jim,

I came over to read musings and just read that you don't think much of Oklahoma and Texas.  Why are these two states not in your favor and places to avoid?

The people are very friendly and so generous.  Both states are beautiful, some parts more so than others.  We have beautiful lakes and rivers, forests, plains, beautiful farms, ranches and cities.  Of course I'm prejudiced, being born and raised in the Sooner State.

You should come and visit- you'd change your mind.  In which state do you live?

 


Jim Broede
Posted: Saturday, January 2, 2016 4:28 PM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


It’s the political climate that turns me off, Lorita.  Far, far too conservative for me.  Makes me feel uneasy. But I could adjust. If I met people like you and Sharon.  Meanwhile, I’m nestled in Minnesota. With frequent trips to Sardinia (Italy) to be with my Italian amore.  I know socialists and communists in Sardinia. They are closer to my political persuasion. --Jim

 


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Saturday, January 2, 2016 8:09 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


I wish I was more enthusiastic about politics. I have been saddened by it. People, human beings are so imperfect.

 I loved politics in junior high school. All I knew was John Kennedy was president and he was nice.   I thought I knew...ever since his death I have been so disappointed in our leaders. It was then I started to pay attention. When young and free in the Haight Ashbury free days,  ho ho ho it was' in' to think everything was good.  Planned Parenthood...woot  woot, that was the place to go. In California every race is represented, there the only prejudice I saw was only on TV.

I moved to Baltimore...whew.... I got fired from my job because I told the head nurse that the night nurse was having her aides, all black by the way, do her job~ so much for freedom. 

Back to California,  everything is ok.....everything is not ok when you are raising children. Then 35 yrs later to Oklahoma.  Perhaps one would have to live with me to experience the day to day love of others. Everywhere you go, kindness. Military people abound and are continually thanked for their service. The elderly are so respected. Many my age have their folks at home and they love them. Seldom do you go in a home that does not have furniture from years ago. The antique stores are few, because people pass things down for generations. Politics? I vote and read what I need to to be informed.  Guns? I have never had one and never will, no need. I love paying my taxes because I am concerned for schools and all the other good things I want to see accomplished. Our state leader is a woman, doing a good job. Thats about as political as I am. I believe that health care should be free to all who need it. I appreciate the fact that my childrens HIV meds have always been free through Ryan White. I believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. I don't know if that puts me in a political grouping. I have worked my entire life, never needed unemployment or any benefits.


Jim Broede
Posted: Saturday, January 2, 2016 11:44 PM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


The thing I hate most about politics. It is what it is. And as an individual, I have no control over the political realm.  All I can do. Is to watch. To observe. And to accept the political outcomes. My vote. My voice. Won’t be counted or heard. I am not a political animal. And have no desire to be one. In order to have an effective say, I’d have to devote my life to politics. And pay a far too high price for political power. I prefer keeping my soul. Better to find a more reputable and satisfying and honest way to make a living. --Jim
sharon11daugherty
Posted: Sunday, January 3, 2016 2:25 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


The closest I got to politics was when I was President of my Jr. High school. Everybody wanted to be greeted and be a smile friend. I had many things I needed to do extra. No one helped me besides 2 teachers that I grew to love. I realized much like the Little  Red Hen, many want to be a part of things, but with minimal effort. Thus my political life ended. High school was just about me and my part time job.
sharon11daugherty
Posted: Tuesday, January 5, 2016 9:25 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


It seems like we should have information written for new people who start on these threads. I love to ask questions so I have, and so many have given me all the definitions used and other tidbits of information. It seems like our LO's at each stage have needs specific to that stage. I often feel like I repeat my answers to share info with others experiencing some of the things I have lived with.

 In the beginning, I did not know I could just type a word and get a response. I was so worried about the sleeping but now there are many with sleeping mates.   I assume that many have come to the threads thinking we are a closed club, as they see Letters etc.  I was very skeptical at first , I did not want to share much of anything, thinking that something weird might happen. I feared writing anything in the information box. I am not sure what I feared. I had been through so much with LO I just could not handle one more upset , I guess that was normal.  Just wanted to share in case there is a remedy.

I have found that now these threads are my dear friends. Family continues to visit with a phone text now and then. No thought of respite. 
.They ask more than the routine question.....Does he know you? It seems like as long as I answer ' yes 'my acquaintances are happy. I would say friends, but I have learned after being home for 6 months who my few good friends are. Like many here, Loneliness is one of the hardest things to get used to. 
I am grateful for the friends that have stuck by me and LO they are a supreme blessing.

Jim Broede
Posted: Tuesday, January 5, 2016 11:16 PM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


 

 

Just a reminder, dear Sharon. There is life after Alzheimer’s care-giving. Good life. That’s why I stick around.  Here in musings.  To give encouragement. To exude good vibes. I pulled through. By reminding myself. That  I was the lucky one. To be the care-giver. Much better than being the Alzheimer-riddled one.  I also learned. Before it was too late. To get respite. That 24/7 is impossible. Prohibitive. Absurd. Self-destructive. Ten hours a day. With Jeanne. Was more than sufficient. Made me a far better care-giver than when I was on 24/7. Put the emphasis on quality. Not quantity. Jeanne’s demeanor changed for the better. When I was rested enough. To take proper care of Jeanne.  Every day. Without miss. For the last 38 months. My 24/7 stint wasn’t always proper. There were lapses into bad vibes. Seems to me that not even a saint can hold up over a steady 24/7 grind. Anyway Alzheimer’s was a blessing. Met my Italian amore Cristina. On this very message board. Her mother had Alzheimer’s. Six months after Jeanne died. Cristina and I met. In Venice. Then spent weeks together. In the Italian Alps.  We go back and forth. I go to Sardinia. Cristina comes to Minnesota. Often we meet. In exotic places. Travel together.  In Germany. Italy. Scotland. Iceland. The Grand Canyon. Yellowstone. We are together. Daily. If not in the flesh.  It’s by video. On Skype.  Once upon a time, I would have judged Alzheimer’s to be a bad experience. Now I know better. The ‘bad’ often evolves into good. Yes, the very good life. Full of love. Imagine that. I’ve been twice blessed. Two loves. In a lifetime.  Reason to keep the faith. --Jim

 


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Wednesday, January 6, 2016 12:36 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


Thank you Jim. Your writing takes me back to the sounds and sights of Italy....such a wonderful time we had for about a month, traveling. Thanks for your on going encouragement. My life has been so amazing. I can't help but look forward to what is to come.

I use Facebook to keep up with 'my kids' and friends back Iin California.  I told you about living in Md. When we lived there, in the 70's there was a young girl that broke her neck swimming. JONI Erickson, was her name. She became paralyzed from the neck down. Her story became  public and I made it a point to keep up with her. She began singing, I bought her tapes. I was not a Christian at the time but her story was the beginning of many that would bring me to a relationship with God. Her singing was beautiful and she began to paint, using her mouth! We bought one of her paintings. She went on to create Joni and Friends. A respite for families impacted by special needs. My family became one impacted by special needs x3. 

When my foster daughter invited me to her college graduation,  yep  Joni E. TADA was the speaker. At that time she was battling breast cancer. Her faithful hubby of 25 years was beside her. What a great time that was. Well today, I recieved a pic and note. One of the girls that I knew that could not get enough of playing with my babies, has grown up and works in the same ministry as Joni! There was a pic on facebook with this little note. Not bragging on me , but how God uses us. Here is Joni, 35 years after loosing all ability from her neck down. My young friend is the redhead, her dad wrote me the note.


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sharon11daugherty
Posted: Sunday, January 10, 2016 4:35 PM
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Just a note to Joyce, in case you pass by. Thinking about you and Hubby. It was so hard for me in the beginning. Feel encouraged. 

 


montgal
Posted: Monday, January 11, 2016 12:07 AM
Joined: 6/19/2014
Posts: 40


I am passing by. Have not posted recently. Everything is about the same. DH continues to sleep a lot although we do get out for drives and errands.  I miss his smile and laugh. I miss his touch although he does like lots of kisses. But he doesn't like hugs anymore. He is starting to talk about his Mother more. Starting to forget more and more people, esp. when he doesn't see them or talk to them.  Doesn't remember most of our married life. I am feeling more and more alone. I spent Christmas Eve by myself listening to church services on the radio.  He did open gifts the next day but not excited. Yes, some friends and family seem to have little interest. I think that someday I might get involved in a volunteer group that calls and visits caretakers that have absolutely no family around. Someone has to care. I keep thinking that if I were a friend out there, that I would be arranging times to visit or call my friend who is caretaking 24/7. I just could not be that busy that I could not fit it in my retired schedule once every week or so.

Sharon, I know that there has been info out there about statins causing dementia. But both Mayo and Johns Hopkins says there is no truth in it. In fact they talk about studies that say the exact opposite. The drug helps with memory, esp. long term. We have both been on statins for many years.

I have my book reading and get lost in that. So many good books out there. Thank goodness that I do have this interest that puts me in a different place. I guess it is my way of escaping. Even tho I am lonely, I am lucky right now that the care for DH is somewhat minimal even tho I do everything for him and for us. You know what I mean! Which allows me the time to read or watch something in the evening. Of course I have no socialization so have the time.

Blessings for the New Year to everyone. We will get through it with God's help. 

 


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Monday, January 11, 2016 10:22 AM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


Thanks for your note. I can dito all you are saying. Except my hubby remembers allot more than I. He always has.

 My dearest friend is now unable to move, as her cancer treatment to her brain, or the cancer has made it impossible.  First and foremost I want her and her hubby to know I am present and available.  This has shown me how important it is to "be".  Thankfully she has caretakers, although it was always going to be me. I had cared for her mom until she was 101! Often LO does not want to go, so I go alone. I have made this my only priority outside of my home.  I still can go to church alone as it is so close.

I am going to start calling, some ladies that I know that are homebound for one reason or another. I know when I was raising little ones, this was my main avenue of socialization. ( the phone)This, has shone me, like you, that there is a great need in the world for connecting with caregivers. Positively.  I do not want to share grumbling.

  I am currently reading a book called Fervent by Prisilla Shirer. And I am also reading Knit Together by Macomber.  I love encouraging books. 

What books do you enjoy?  

 The silence is so loud here, and yet...I am finding that it has allowed me to get to know God better. The simplest things he takes care of. The other day I needed to give my friend an enema and right before I left LO had a B M and needed help. I was so thankful that, like this, things are taken care of, before I even think of them.

I hope you ' graze' by soon, as we are in similar situations it is nice to hear from you. It feels like a coffee time with a friend.


Iris L.
Posted: Monday, January 11, 2016 1:21 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 16608


Happy New Year, Sharon, Jim and Montgal.


I have not visited Musings in a while. 


I often read of spouses complaining of being lonely, because their LO cannot interact as much as  before. They (the caregiver) must make all decisions alone.  I have been alone for over 15 years, since my divorce, and I was emotionally alone for years during my marriage.  So this is not new to me.  One cannot blame dementia for all loneliness.


I had a friend who used to call me, but she proceeded to unload her problems onto my shoulders.  I got so that I would avoid her calls.  If someone is calling a homebound person, the conversation should  be upbeat, I think.  At least, not depressing and demoralizing.  I have telephoned ill people, and worked to think of upbeat, lively things to talk about.  


Also, listen to the person.  She may have something she wants to say.

 

I live in CA and often think about moving to a better state.  I spent time in Texas when I was on active duty in the military, years ago.  Many Californians are leaving for Texas!  CA was a lovely state to live in when I moved here 40 years ago.  Now, it is chaotic.  


I am reading Days of Grace, by Arthur Ashe.  It was written at the time when he had to disclose having contracted AIDS from a blood transfusion after an operation.  He was anemic after the operation, and was given two units of blood.  It was not an emergency, he probably could have done well with nutritional support, but he got the blood, and he got AIDS.


When I read books like that, I don't remember what I read, but I enjoy the story when I first read it.  


Iris L.

 

 


Jim Broede
Posted: Monday, January 11, 2016 9:09 PM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


Can’t say that I’m ever lonely. Even when I’m alone. Though I can feel slightly lonely. When I’m in a crowd of people. With whom I don’t connect. Anyway, being alone. Is a wonderful opportunity. To occupy  my mind. With positive thoughts. Without interruption. I get lost. In a wonderful state of solitude. And I muse. About my Italian amore. I write love letters. And other missives. Yes. These are reminders. That I’m in love. And blessed. With an imagination.  That allows me to connect to magnificent spirits. Not least being Wolfgang Mozart and Leo Tolstoy. Fascinating stuff, indeed. Little wonder. That I’m never lonely. --Jim
sharon11daugherty
Posted: Tuesday, January 12, 2016 7:25 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


I wonder how  lack of socialization and  loneliness  are related. Distant cousins?

Jim, I was wondering if  it is a female thing?  Most men, including my LO never have many close friends. Whereas, women, routinely have close friends. We enjoy sharing opinions, experiences etc. with each other. I know many times before making a decision I would routinely ask for anothers' experience.  I have always enjoyed a group of women. I have been blessed with dear friends over the years that have stayed in contact with me. 

Iris, I will have to read that book. Because many of my children were born in San Francisco during the time of  Rapid Infection     {1988 to 1995}I would have been afraid to read that account back then.  One of my foster children died of AIDS but many others have continued to do quite well and now are in the late 20's  I see them all as miracles. 

Iris, thanks for the visiting advice. My current friends are 99 and 86. Actually we talked today and I told them to come visit me , since I was home and it was hard to leave.  I think they found that kind of funny, since they are so old and can get out!

 


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Thursday, January 28, 2016 12:37 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


A new friend shared this with me and if I type it here I will remember. I did write it in my favorite thread. My sweet LO is at the place where this is our day. Sitting beside him hours a day has become my new normal.This is helpful for me to remember on a daily basis.

Do not ask em to remember, Don't try to make me understand

Let me rest and know your're with me, Kiss my cheek and hold my hand

I am confused beyond your concept, I am sad and sick and lost'

All I know is that I need you, to be with me at all costs

Please do not lose your patience with me, Do not scold me or curse or cry

I can't help the way I am acting, I can't be different through I try

Just remember that I need you and the best in me is gone

Please don't fail to stand beside me , And love me til my life is done.

 


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Friday, February 19, 2016 1:42 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
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It has been awhile since I wrote here. I want to keep It up so I will remember things. It is easy to lose all track of time during this journey. Each day is so different for me. Today I finished a book I got out of the library.  Believe it or not it was by Dr Ruth on Alzheimers. It was actually very good. I found it stressed taking care of yourself first. Well, we have all read this, but putting it in to practice is another story, right? She said to make changes now. Eating choices, activities etc. I think I needed to hear these things again in order to put feet on those words. What I deserve is often not the ice cream LO wants.  Exercise, walking is easy.  She said that while we will grieve on and off. Jump out of it when you can. Do not wallow too long. I guess every couple months we each need  to evaluate where we are....not putting all our focus on LO that we cannot fix...but thinking of ourselves and what we need to put in our lives or take out to make our physical, spiritual and emotional state improve.

LO at this  point needs help in all avenues of his care. Walking is becoming more difficult due to vision and balance. I have a walker ready in the shower for that time he begins to require it. His personality is very pleasant and subdued. His waking time has increased dramatically.  He is very reliable at home, which I am pleased about for as long as it lasts. The meds have given him great control over anxiousness, paranoid behavior and anger. Our days always begin with prayer, which I know has given him peace during this time of his life, when all freedoms seem to have been taken from him. I purchased a parakeet which has added a level of 'new' to our otherwise predictable days. I have wanted one for a long time, but I was never home 24/7 to be a good trainer. LO walks by and makes an effort to check on her. He thought I had a 'senior' moment when I showed up with it yesterday! 


Jim Broede
Posted: Saturday, February 20, 2016 5:35 AM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


Yes, it’s a mental and physical malady. Care-givers that never learn to take care of themselves, Sharon. Makes them less effective care-givers. Strange as it may sound, I learned to enjoy the act of care-giving. But it wasn’t until the final three years. When I was getting proper respite. I did far more. When I was on 8-10 hours a day. Instead of 24/7.  Yes, sometimes less is more. --Jim

 


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Monday, March 7, 2016 10:34 AM
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Well if I don't write anything I will have to hunt for my title. Days and weeks go by and it continues the same.  I have been able to get out and about quite often. I am taking your good advice Jim.  LO is continuing to sleep and eat at intervals, conversation is usually about 3 sentences if that. I am so thankful for my young adults at home that keep me stimulated and accountable.  Today weather is questionable. Tornado warnings maybe... and I thought about getting LO in the shelter...I bet that would be real hard for him. Our neighbors have an above ground that might be more appealing. I will check with them on the possibilities of that. We have only been in our shelter twice in 10 years. It is underground in the garage.
Jim Broede
Posted: Monday, March 7, 2016 9:59 PM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


Life is what it is, Sharon. And when things go awry, we have to make the best of it. All the wishing won’t make it go away. If we live long enough, our most dear and precious loved ones will succumb to something. Before our eyes. Something as dreadful as Alzheimer’s. But I have no regret. That it was dear Jeanne. That was riddled with dementia. And not me. Better to be the care-giver. Than the victim. That may sound selfish. But that meant the onus for caring fell on me. And I learned to accept it. As a mission of love. Better that than having someone care for me. Meanwhile, you are doing a splendid job. Caring for your dear husband.  In large part. Because you know how to take care of yourself. Indeed, you are a wise and loving woman. That’s a nice combination. --Jim

 


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Tuesday, March 8, 2016 5:11 PM
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Jim, I feel the same way you do. Sometimes I feel guilty about it. Mainly because I think he would have a real difficult time if it was me with the disease. He likes routine, and every day is a different routine, what one should do the other doesn't want to do. I just put of things for as long as I can, the mention the  clothes or the sponge bath. I am glad I am the caregiver. My life has always been flexible and I like change. Today a dear friend had to have surgery on his hand. He has 3 wonderful girls and his wife just happen to go on a mission trip to Mexico on Saturday. I made some wonderful shortbread cookies and ordered them pizza. It felt so good to do what I used to do before this kind of took over my days.   I am feeling more free to do things now. Things are stable and I want to take a little advantage of having others in the home.  I even took some cookies to my 99 yr. old friend, I hadn't seen in a month.  A month is a long time when you are 99. She is finally slowing down.   I heard a good story today.

A couple had their anniversary for 40 yr. of marriage. The good fairly came to then and said they each got one wish.  The wife asked for a round the world cruise. The fairy put the tickets on the table.  The husband said he was sorry, but he really wanted a wife 30 years younger than the one he had.  The fairy thought for a moment, felt bad, but made him 92!


Jim Broede
Posted: Saturday, March 19, 2016 7:17 AM
Joined: 12/22/2011
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If I could live as long as Methuselah, age 92 wouldn't be so bad. I'd still have plenty of time to figure things out. Meanwhile, just imagining it. Is good enough for me. Imagination is my saving grace.What about you, Sharon? --Jim
sharon11daugherty
Posted: Wednesday, March 23, 2016 11:16 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
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I have been on a slight vacation, Jim.  I think it was between netflix and scrabble. I think sometimes I need to escape to LaLa Land. Tonight it is basketball, I do love the Warriors, my home team of long ago, but mostly Steph Curry.. Sweet man to follow. 

So glad you are still Musing. I think at sometime I need to get into a routine, the minute I start.....it changes. LO is sleeping more nowadays, I didn't think it could be more, but it is. My best friend is also declining from cancer and can no longer speak. My days include both of them .  I have been getting away allot more. Thanks to your encouragement. I have also invited some gals over on Monday night. We are reading a book together. I love to laugh with the girls.  It certainly helps with my aloneness   if that is a word. 

Our Anniversary of 43 years will be next week. I am so thankful for all the wonderful years. Italy would be my favorite of places that we sure loved. I can see why you would love a woman from there. Such Depth.               I have been a little shopper..not my normal. 

My imagination has not had much time to work lately due to Real Life Thinking. I have made a list of things I would like to do.  soon.   Paint, take photos of my wild birds, etc. I have been trying to do the things ahead of time for what is coming.  I did master the zero turn tractor! I looked on UTube....I was so proud of myself.  I mowed the whole acre.  Well, I am rambling so I will stop for now. Keep musing. I come and read but do not post as much. blessings, sharon


Jim Broede
Posted: Thursday, March 24, 2016 7:20 AM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


Remember, Sharon, that you are capable of making magic happen. On a daily basis. No better routine than that. --Jim

sharon11daugherty
Posted: Saturday, March 26, 2016 3:00 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


Today on facebook there was a girl, doing a funny thing. She is being quite serious and holding a box of   Dramamine, letting everyone know that there is now a pill to keep your Drama from being anyone else's .   Drama mine..... I am thinking of that as I write this. 

I don't think everyone wants to hear my drama but it sure makes me feel good to share it. Even if no one reads, I feel like it is  just a good vent. My best friend, with cancer,  continues to decline. Her husband now accepts her end soon and her care will be much easier for him. He had been feeling like his goal was to get her better.  Freedom. When we realize that God's plan is ok. My dear 99 yr old friend, too is doing poorly. Sharp as a tac but her body is wearing out. I am glad I can call her each day and keep up with her. LO continues to sleep most of his day and night away.  

I need to go spay my weeds . I will write later.  Blessings to you today.


sharon11daugherty
Posted: Saturday, March 26, 2016 7:47 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


Spray!!!!!!
Sea Field
Posted: Saturday, April 9, 2016 4:50 PM
Joined: 8/5/2012
Posts: 1870


I kind of like the idea of spaying the weeds, rather than spraying them.

You can enjoy the weeds that are there without worrying they will spread everywhere.

Right now my weeds are underneath the snow.  Spring is slow to arrive this year.  I'm a next door neighbor to Jim.  I am in Wisconsin.  


Jim Broede
Posted: Monday, April 11, 2016 10:42 AM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


Hmmmm. So you live in Wisconsin, Sea Field. I am curious. Tell me, where. I spent my youth in Wisconsin. Went to college in Wisconsin. I am very familiar with Wisconsin. Maybe too familiar. Don't like the governor or the current state of politic. --Jim
Jim Broede
Posted: Saturday, May 7, 2016 11:20 AM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


It's time to post here again, Sharon. I'm assuming that you are alive and well and happy. But we need confirmation of that. Please share yourself. With the rest of us. Right here in musings. We feel neglected. By your absence. --Jim

P.S. I like your hair-do.


Jim Broede
Posted: Saturday, May 14, 2016 4:58 AM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


I’m puzzled, Sharon. Why have you stopped musing? Please give us assurance. That all is right. With you. And the special world you live in. And that you are getting on with life. In splendid  fashion. If not. We’ll give you words of encouragement. It is during bad times that musing is most essential. But musing is good at any time. --Jim

 


Jim Broede
Posted: Friday, May 27, 2016 4:23 AM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


This thread is one of the better examples of how to muse. Sharon Daugherty does it well. --Jim
sharon11daugherty
Posted: Sunday, May 29, 2016 3:27 PM
Joined: 8/6/2015
Posts: 1736


I   AM  BACK!  Many changes have taken place since last I wrote. Most of all the seasons have changed and the outside work has increased.   LO has required more care and constant reassurance that I am here. Even a trip to the bathroom is monitored and checked on.  Without prayer each day several times, I think this part, the shadowing, again, would make me crazy. Every day is different. No longer sleeping the 20 hours, he is anxious to always return to what I call the  'nest' . Our king size canopy bed!

Mothers' Day was spent in the Hospital following a flu spell that left me with a Potassium of 2, instead of the 3to5, it should be. 8 days of the hospital followed, 4 in ICU.5 days of High Blood pressures of continually 240 accompanied a nasty head ache.  A heart rate that was trying to keep up at 110. This was all new to me. I was fine in my head, but my body was a mess. 

My best friend flew in from California to take care of hubby. I had not amended my POA since LO declined, so that had to be done.Reminder to you readers.   

Total calm throughout the time I was being cared for. I had everything scanned and checked that could be. I am Praising the Lord that a stroke was not in the picture.  The problem seems to have been with a hormone, Spirolactone.....the minute they gave me some of that  118/80, came and stayed. I pride myself on being thrifty...Needless to say, this will be the most expensive Mothers' Day ever.  I did enjoy the flowers and friends.   

In the Bible, King Hezikiah asked God for 15 more years. I did that, the second day, when things were not looking good. I wouldn't have minded dying , but I sure did not want to leave LO without me , at this time of his life. He never had many friends, I was the main one.  I now see this time caring for LO as a gift. Not a burden, or a sacrifice , nor am I a martyr, [its easy for me to have that pity party} . Well thats what I have been doing!  What about you Jim"   any trips to see your dream girl?


Jim Broede
Posted: Monday, May 30, 2016 12:45 AM
Joined: 12/22/2011
Posts: 5462


Your absence had me concerned, Sharon. But it sounds like you’ve rebounded nicely. from your bout with the flu. It’s tough. When you are a care-giver, and in need of care yourself. Good to have friends you can rely on.  One thing about you. You have a good, positive attitude. About life. Even in the face of adversity. You are in love. With life.  Keep loving. And you’ll make it through troubled times. My Cristina will be with me. Here in Minnesota. In July and August. We’ll explore the Boundary Waters area and make it into Canada.  Life is good. For me. I sense you are going to have a good summer, too. Anyway, it’s nice to hear that you are on the upswing. Remember. To take care of yourself. First and foremost. Otherwise you won’t be able to care for your loved one. That’s what life is all about. Love. Love. Love. Makes life meaningful. To love and be loved. --Jim