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What have you learned about living alone?
A losing hand.
Posted: Friday, March 4, 2016 3:19 PM
Joined: 1/16/2013
Posts: 364


I  learned that I shouldn't buy as much food It either spoils or expires. And since my wife is gone I don't cook anymore. I mostly eat sandwiches or fast food. I guess I'll learn other things and maybe someone else will clue me in before I make more mistakes. 

Thanks.

 


Lesley Jean
Posted: Friday, March 4, 2016 11:47 PM
Joined: 2/13/2013
Posts: 2965


I have learned to keep all the doors locked.  Live in a very safe neighborhood, but we have had some break ins. Less than 2 miles down the street, the McThrift Hotel, keeps taking in sex offenders and others who have just been released from prison. I don't want to to a chance of something happening. 

I have also learned that night time can be very lonely.  I try to keep busy, doing things that need to get done. It helps and things are getting done. 

LJ


Ukie
Posted: Saturday, March 5, 2016 7:43 AM
Joined: 12/16/2013
Posts: 352


I've learned that I am adaptable. Adjusting/accepting to living alone but not necessarily enjoying it. I now have time for myself which is nice. LJ, buy a can of Hornet/Wasp spray. You can use it for protection. Sprays up to 15 feet. Just as good as pepper spray. Just a suggestion.
socwkr
Posted: Saturday, March 5, 2016 4:17 PM
Joined: 10/6/2012
Posts: 924


This is a great question.  

I thought that I might be afraid, but I'm not.  I did buy pepper spray from our local hunting store, and I keep it in my purse.  

I found that I wasn't eating very well, mostly oatmeal or sandwiches, easy stuff but not always nutritious.  I now receive a weekly box of groceries from a company called Blue Apron that has six very nice meals that I can easily cook.

I also discovered that I lost my exercise buddy.  My husband (blind) went to the gym every day and guess who got to drive him (me!).  He was also very competitive so he always wanted to do more than me.  I tried the local Y and even joined a local fitness center but I haven't gone very often.  I recently rescued a golden retriever, and the dog needs a daily walk, so I think this might help.

It's been a year now since my husband passed, and I haven't thought about dating or seeking a new relationship.  I think that I'm happy right now by myself, and I can stay this way for a while.  I think that if God has a plan for me to meet a new person, it will happen.  Otherwise, I'm not doing anything actively.  I have a few good friends, go out to a nice dinner every week with my daughter and her boyfriend, plus I still work full time and also have a part time job.  Staying busy is definitely important.

I also discovered that I enjoy gardening.  I had time this summer so I started a vegetable and flower garden out of hay bales.  It was so successful that I'm going to double the garden this year.  I've been out buying seeds and looking forward to the activity this year.  Plus, it's a project that you have to work on everyday.  

Hugs to everyone, Debra.



Lesley Jean
Posted: Monday, March 7, 2016 10:55 PM
Joined: 2/13/2013
Posts: 2965


Ukie, 

Thank you. Good idea!

LJ 


A losing hand.
Posted: Tuesday, March 8, 2016 10:27 AM
Joined: 1/16/2013
Posts: 364


L.J.,   Your right about the lonely nights. And the house always seems so quiet.

 Ukie, I think were all adaptable because we have no other choice.

 Debra, It's good that you still have a job. Helps keep your mind off things. Everyone says it's important to keep busy. I know it is and I was always a person that kept busy and never sat around. Now I want something to do, and when I have something I don't want to do it.  Isn't that crazy?


A losing hand.
Posted: Saturday, April 9, 2016 8:39 AM
Joined: 1/16/2013
Posts: 364


Today is 6 months my wife is gone and I don't feel any better. Another thing I learned about living alone is   IT'S REALLY LOUSY.

 

 


Sea Field
Posted: Saturday, April 9, 2016 5:01 PM
Joined: 8/5/2012
Posts: 1872


ALH,  milestones can be rough.  Please know there is one more person here wishing you well.  Hopefully it will start to ease up a bit.  

Doubt if that ache will ever go away. How could it?  But maybe we eventually learn to live with it a bit better.  For me, one year is a bit easier than 6 months.   Except for on a bad day.