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Posted: Thursday, August 8, 2019 9:42 PM
Joined: 2/17/2014
Posts: 122

It has been over 2 years since my husband, Jim, passed away on January 1, 2017.

Even though the second year is easier to deal with than the first year of the loss of my dear husband Jim,  it is still very difficult to get use to living my life without Jim!

Unfortunately, this past 1-1/2 years I have have had alot of medical challenges which only makes the grieving process more difficult.

Would love to connect with other widows to support each other.




Posted: Friday, August 9, 2019 2:17 PM
Joined: 8/9/2019
Posts: 1

I also lost my husband on January 1, 2017. He died unexpectedly. It has been a long journey for me since his death. I miss him so much! I assist my mom who has dementia. I also assist my daughter who is raising our 4 year old grandson with autism.
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Posted: Tuesday, August 13, 2019 6:51 PM
Joined: 2/17/2014
Posts: 122


Sorry it has taken me awhile to respond,  I was a caregiver for Jim from 2011 to January 1, 2017 when Jim passed away.  Now, I need caregivers to help take care of me 7 days a week!

So sorry to hear that your husband died too.  What did your husband suddenly die from?  It was not a happy New Year for both of us!  I miss Jim so much!

I am glad that you are able to help your mom who has dementia, and also take care of your grandson who has autism.  My grandson has autism too.  My grandson is 6, how old is your grandson?

Looking forward to hearing from you!




Posted: Monday, August 19, 2019 12:39 PM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 21242

Hi Vicki.....

My husband died almost 4 years ago. I miss my husband every day. Sometimes at night I just know I can roll over and touch him still.

My health is slipping a bit also.

Please feel free to PM me and do stop in on Lorita's thread on Spouses. We chat about anything/everything.

Posted: Friday, September 27, 2019 1:44 PM
Joined: 9/5/2018
Posts: 94

Dear Needing...there are so many of us out there that feel as you do and looking to others in our lives for support, but that has mostly come up empty for me as well.  Unless you live and walk in the dementia shoes, you can't possibly understand how different this type of loss is.  I was in so much pain a year ago when my life partner passed that I didn't think I would survive.  I lost him on November 4, 2018 but it feels like yesterday to me.  After 10 years of being a 24/7 caregiver, my health took a nosedive in March, 2019 and I am still trying to recover from that and deal with the grief of feeling his loss daily.  My doctor said my body reacted like it had hit a brick wall at 100 mph, and it will take months to come back to something more normal...whatever that is.  On top of that, our kitty just passed away 3 weeks ago with no warning or symptoms of disease.  So, the hits keep on coming and surviving gets a bit more difficult everyday...but we will survive perhaps somewhat worse for the wear.

Please know that we are all here to lend a listening ear and a heart filled with compassion for your loss and new albeit empty life without him.  I had no one to support me emotionally when he was alive and no one to support me now so I feel your loss and your pain first hand.  My "closest" friend told me in no uncertain terms that it was time for me to "get out there and circulate."  People just don't or can't understand this type of loss and trying to explain it only makes it worse.  Stay here with us because this website is a very safe and warm place to land when daily living becomes mostly unbearable.  Here you are supported...unconditionally!

Mrs. O
Posted: Saturday, October 26, 2019 2:48 PM
Joined: 8/1/2017
Posts: 309

Caring Mate... and everyone else too-   One friend told me that life just keeps throwing bricks at you, and the best you can do is try to build a house with them. 

Take it for what it’s worth to you. 

Posted: Sunday, October 27, 2019 2:24 PM
Joined: 12/7/2016
Posts: 46

so very sorry for your loss.