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Melody Beattie on Grief and Action
George K
Posted: Friday, November 22, 2019 5:10 AM
Joined: 12/16/2011
Posts: 2823

Grief and Action

Trust in God and do something.
  —Mary Lyon

It's important to let ourselves grieve as a passage between yesterday and tomorrow. But we do not have to be controlled unduly by our grief, or our pain.

There are times when we have grieved, surrendered to the heaviness, tiredness, and weariness of a circumstance long enough. It becomes time to break out. It comes time to take action.

We will know when it's time to break the routine of grieving. There will be signs within and around us. We will become tired of the heaviness. An idea will occur; an opportunity will present itself. We may think: “No. Too much effort...”  Do it anyway. Try something. Reach out. Stretch. Do something unusual, something different, and something special.

A new activity may help trigger the transformation process. Stay up two hours later than usual! Make an appointment to do something for yourself that is different from what you usually do. Visit someone you haven't seen in years. Do something to encourage and help the new energy coming your way.

We may not feel like breaking out of grief. It may feel safer, easier, to remain in our cocoon. Begin pushing out anyway.

Test the walls of your cocoon. Push. Push a little harder. It may be time to emerge.

Today, I will trust God and the process, but I will also take action to help myself feel better.

Posted: Friday, November 22, 2019 6:01 PM
Joined: 2/16/2017
Posts: 1836

Thank You George,  

This sounds like you are talking directly to me. It has been just a little over a year and a half and I am still trying to let go. I am still waiting for those signs and hopefully I will recognize them when they come.  Your message was very nice. Thank You