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Don't Take For Granted
LizG55
Posted: Thursday, January 13, 2022 11:40 PM
Joined: 3/2/2020
Posts: 149


No matter who the person is in your life who has dementia, no matter how bad it gets for you as a caregiver, remember this especially at the hardest of times: 

 
Don't take for granted you can take a shower by yourself.
You know what soap is
You can prepare a meal
You can assist your patient even if it's limited.
You can care for others besides yourself.
You can get to that pile of paperwork on your desk and eventually take care of it. 
You can write a check
You can still count.
You can take a screwdriver and fix things. 
You can watch a TV show of your choice or read
You can still socialize with people in some fashion
You can make decisions, it's the fact that you are able not the outcome of the decision.
You don't need someone to make up your medications /supplements
 You can dress yourself and have privacy when needed.  

The list is endless... feel free to add.....

Our lives may be lacking rest, suffering severe exhaustion and frustration, feeling hopeless more times than not.. but it's at these times especially, we need to remember what we can do not what we can't do. Be glad we are not where they are. 


 

 


SusanB-dil
Posted: Friday, January 14, 2022 7:38 AM
Joined: 9/10/2021
Posts: 270


profound.  so true.

still use a phone (ok, maybe part of socializing, but maybe count as using some technology.) - do handcrafts...  can still recognize loved ones... or can still recognize scam calls


Unknown By Man
Posted: Friday, January 14, 2022 8:09 AM
Joined: 12/23/2021
Posts: 97


You can still recognize yourself in the mirror. Thankfully my mother is not at that point yet, but I have heard some stories and I think that is what would scare me the most.
Sayra
Posted: Friday, January 14, 2022 9:29 AM
Joined: 8/10/2016
Posts: 3589


Yes Liz these are things we need to remember
abc123
Posted: Friday, January 14, 2022 9:29 AM
Joined: 6/12/2016
Posts: 2336


Dear Liz, Thank you for this post! It will help me to stay thankful of my blessings! I have so many, they are countless. 

I am thankful I can use the toilet and clean myself.

I am thankful for each and every person here who is on the same journey.


mommyandme (m&m)
Posted: Friday, January 14, 2022 3:26 PM
Joined: 2/16/2020
Posts: 526


Knowing this about my mom is the reason I became her caregiver, I’m reminded every moment of what I can do and she can’t.  I’m thankful I’m able, of course, and work very hard not feeling guilty about that.  

Sure don’t need any reminders in the meantime.  Rejecting my feelings or pushing them down is not helpful. I’d rather vent to people I can trust about any despair I might feel.  

Should I feel guilty?  Who should I trust? 

Thanks for the reminder… 


BethMimi
Posted: Saturday, January 15, 2022 7:40 PM
Joined: 9/15/2020
Posts: 35


I think of this often.  Thanks for sharing LizG55
merrycaregiver
Posted: Saturday, January 15, 2022 10:01 PM
Joined: 1/1/2022
Posts: 26


Thanks for the inspiration along with the reality
LizG55
Posted: Sunday, January 16, 2022 12:26 PM
Joined: 3/2/2020
Posts: 149


Hi Sayra... yes this is so true. I hope you are doing alright, nice to see you.
LizG55
Posted: Sunday, January 16, 2022 12:28 PM
Joined: 3/2/2020
Posts: 149


Unknown right io hadn't thought of that since he still can.
LizG55
Posted: Sunday, January 16, 2022 12:28 PM
Joined: 3/2/2020
Posts: 149


abc123... right I was thinking about that too....
LizG55
Posted: Sunday, January 16, 2022 12:30 PM
Joined: 3/2/2020
Posts: 149


Merry caregiver, thank you for your reply and everyone else
Stuck in the middle
Posted: Sunday, January 16, 2022 1:16 PM
Joined: 6/4/2017
Posts: 1837


That is why every adult needs to give POAs to someone they trust.  One slip on the ice, one knock on the head, and that can be you.