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2 trips to the ER
Posted: Monday, August 1, 2022 5:33 PM
Joined: 5/31/2021
Posts: 73

DH ..92...for the first time wandered out of the apartment and tried to open up the car doors.We live in independent living and a neighbor noticed him and helped him lay down  on the grass and they knocked on my door ( I had been napping as I have fibro and CFS )and we called EMS. DH had brain surgery 4 yrs ago and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 6 yrs ago. Emergency room found nothing and I brought him home only to call EMS a second time as DH could not walk. His right foot was all swollen. 2 trips to the Eroom and 12 hrs later he was admitted as they found he has 2 foot fractures. Have no idea when that happened as noone who helped him saw him fall. 

So I am a nervous wreck and no family here. I pray they will send him to rehab as I know I can not take care of him. I am 82 and have medical issues. Also DH has  explosive diarrhea due to Crohn's disease. I am at the end of my rope and just need some virtual hugs. Only good part is the hospital is across the street. I have his will which has a Do Not Resusitate directive on it. I can't imagine living without him but I can't imagine living with him and taking care of him. We moved here 3 and 1/2 yrs ago after his brain surgery and they also have AL and memory care . I sure don't have the funds for 2 apartment for me and a place for him. Thanks for reading.

Posted: Monday, August 1, 2022 5:35 PM
Joined: 5/31/2021
Posts: 73

.My niece is the main communicator with the hospital as this was her line of work before she retired. The latest is the ortho Dr will decide if he needs surgery for his foot but the nurse told my niece there is rehab in the hospital and that would be covered by my Medicare Supplement. She let it be know that no way can he be released to my care as I can no longer do it. After the rehab not sure where he will go but no doubt to skilled nursing as that takes Medicaid or maybe a memory place. Day at a time for sure. I do not have unlimited monies.
Stuck in the middle
Posted: Monday, August 1, 2022 7:19 PM
Joined: 6/4/2017
Posts: 2033

Big hug, (Elshack).  Another for your niece.
Posted: Tuesday, August 2, 2022 1:03 PM
Joined: 9/10/2021
Posts: 426

Hi Elshack - yes, that is so much to deal with...   ((hugs))

It sounds like it is working out and your niece is being an advocate for you both.

Posted: Tuesday, August 2, 2022 11:03 PM
Joined: 8/28/2021
Posts: 62

When Mom needed to be in memory care, Dad moved with her. They got a semi private room. It's something to consider because it's cheaper than 2 separate apartments.
Posted: Wednesday, August 3, 2022 7:54 AM
Joined: 5/11/2022
Posts: 172

Big hugs to you!!! So sorry you're going through this! How are you and yours holding up today?