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quote:I will consider your advice about spending down though, Dot, for my question on another thread.
quote:Originally posted by lurk:Well, maybe the home ownership makes the difference. When my Mom passed, Medicaid took their fair share from the sale of her home. I believe in paying for our own needs, but my sisters and brothers needed that money so much that I felt badly for the decrease
quote:Originally posted by flowerlady: So I need to know other than meds which I do take, how do I let things just slide off my back? <><>I have trouble letting things go. I find comfort food helps (yes I am gaining weight) or drinking coffee. My wife is usually sitting on the sofa with one question after another. I go over and sit beside her, hold her hand, and let the questions flow. Excuse my self and bring back a couple of glasses of cranberry juice.<><> My husband is not out of it so is not like he would have a companion or sitter or whatever.<><><>the local JFservices has a friendly visitor program. I have a young college age woman who comes to visit. She's going for a grad degree and we're part of her studies <g> so there is no issue about having a sitter. JFS said the men volunteers than women. They do extensive screening and a good background check.One day each week I have a lady from HomeInstead who comes for an afternoon (gives me time to get out..) My explanation is I am so behind I need help. Of course they spend time chatting, reminiscing and playing games. DW understands that I need help with house things so there is no push back.<><><>I surely need the support.Me Too.
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quote:Originally posted by flowerlady: I may have just run in the store but guess it seems I am gone for a long time. He worries like that about me. So I need to know other than meds which I do take, how do I let things just slide off my back? I would like to be able to go and visit other people but now it is difficult. My husband is not out of it so is not like he would have a companion or sitter or whatever. .flowerlady
quote:Originally posted by Cathy J. M.:Even if your income is too high to qualify for free care, it's well worth spending some of it to hire someone.
quote:Originally posted by fluffy:Pompano- How would divorcing a 94 yr. old man look? His three children would have a field day with that. I am not contemplating divorce. Not after 38 yrs.It's just hard for me to jump at everything he wants due to my own physical problems.Since writing this post I have put him back in day care 3 times a week. I have to take hium inthe morning because I never know how longn it will take me to get him ready but they bring him home around 4:30. Says he doesn't like it, too many old people around(lol). I thinkj it's because he doesn't have me to do everything for him. He is so attached to me it isn't funny.