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He weeds the grass by hand ever day for three or more hours a day.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: loveofmylife

Hi-just read your post. Thanks for sharing. I would give the doc a call because it sounds like he is obsessed with this project. There are medications that can help, even short term, sort of like being treated for OCD. My husband had a bit of that and seroquel helped snap him out of an obsession. Keep sharing, we are all here for you.
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Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
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Originally posted by: Patti Dicken

My husband has Frontal Lobe Dementia & is currently not on any medication snce he was seen by Sleep Disorder Specialist in the spring & recently was dx. with severe Sleep Apnea. His primary cre doctor didn't want to try any medications with him utill we had the results of the sleep study. He was trie on Aircept & Namenda back in the fall but both meduications made him sleep more then his usual 12-14 hours per night.

Lately he has been obsessed with pulling up all of the weeds, crabgrass etc in our yard. Our son cuts the grass every two weeks but DH says he dioesn;'t get it short enough. DH alsop is busy constantly piking up[ peces of fuzz, lint or whatever his imagination tells him is on our carpets when he can't be outside due to rain or weather. We ive in Ga. & t can get to 95 egrees here in the summer, plus the fat that he has Congestive Heart Failure worries me all the more.

He won't stop when I ask him to or try to distract him & thinks that I am just an "old Bitch" who won't help him. I have even caught him sneaking out at night with a flashlight to continue with his weeding. Yesterday he was pulling up our extdoor neighbors lawn (our neighbor had an ijury several months ago & is a long term rehab program) who isn't aware of wht is going on with Bill.

Thanks for listening to me.

Patti
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: DLMifm

quote:
Originally posted by Rkg:
quote:
Originally posted by RevSasha:
Right now the crabgrass is winning in our yard. I wish I could get my DH to pull it.


Me too! Wink

It is advised that if you are Humor Challenged discontinue reading my posts immediately.

My first reaction was, wonderful, rent him out. We have a neighbor down the hill who spends hours a day sitting on the lawn or sitting on the sidewalk pulling weeds.
The closest I come is the two bushy tailed rabbits who visit our lawn.

OCD's are tough. I wonder what people think about as they repeat tasks over and over. I don't mean to belittle the problem.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: RevSasha

Right now the crabgrass is winning in our yard. I wish I could get my DH to pull it. However, I understand your concerns. Whenever I encounter unusual behavior with my DH, I use the three questions in Creating Moments of Joy (the best caregiver guide so far for me). The questions are: Is he hurting himself? Is he hurting me? Is he hurting anyone else? I would also add does it matter whether he does what he does or not? We have to pick our battles very carefully otherwise we can easily let it all overwhelm us.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: JAB

Hi, Patti. If I understand you correctly, the PCP didn't want to try any meds until the sleep study was done ... and now it's done.

I would talk with the doctor about trying an SSRI. Frontotemporal dementia (FTD) patients often respond well to these drugs (unlike Aricept, which is actually contraindicated for FTD patients) -- and SSRIs are also prescribed for OCD, which some FTD patients do develop.

See "Psychopathology of Frontotemporal Dementia" at:
http://alzheimers.boomja.com/F...Overviews-26296.html
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Starling

My husband used to do a lot of the things you are describing. He has Vascular Dementia, so it isn't just someone with the kind of dementia your LO has that does these things.

I know it makes you nuts, but as long as he isn't doing damage that can't be fixed, or doing damage to himself or someone else, the best thing to do is just to let him do what he wants to do.

Pick your battles.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Rkg

quote:
Originally posted by RevSasha:
Right now the crabgrass is winning in our yard. I wish I could get my DH to pull it.


Me too! Wink



Now to get serious, there is actually a name for this. Sorry I can't think what it's called, but yes they can get obsessed with lint, crumbs etc. Hang in there, it's just another part of the disease. I would let the Dr know though.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: jfkoc

Hi Patti and welcome to our journey. First of all I would direct you to a current thread "New Here " that is discussing VD.

After that I would suggest checking with your husbands Dr for his heart failure. Physically there may be no problem with his outside activily. It might be very good exercise. I wish my husband with heart failure and diabetes would do something. He will only move if I am by his side.

Then check with the Dr caring for the dementia.

If you find out it is OK for him to continue then let it be and try to enjoy the free time it gives you. It would be a good idea to have a chat with your neighbor.

If you find out it is not OK let us know. We can suggest a lot of ways to keep him busy.

Please try not to worry until you know that you need to.

BTW: I am headed outside to spray weeds. I have only waited 4 weeks for dear one (not so loved this morning) to get with it. LOL
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: jfkoc

The same PJ's? LOL
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: loveofmylife

If we all don't keep our sense of humor we might as well pack it in. I have been in the hospital with him for six weeks and I sleep in the hospital bed with him because he won't let me leave his side. I have been in my pajamas for months because he won't let me leave his side, he cries when I do. Him pulling weeds for hours on end without me is like a "heavenly thought". xox
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: loveofmylife

HAHA.... I must admit though....that I started out looking pretty good, even wore heels. Oh those were the days my friend!
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: lurk

I've probably told you before that I have CDO, which is OCD in alphabetical order--as it should be!
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: DLMifm

quote:
Originally posted by sammy123:
If we all don't keep our sense of humor we might as well pack it in. I have been in the hospital with him for six weeks and I sleep in the hospital bed with him because he won't let me leave his side. I have been in my pajamas for months because he won't let me leave his side, he cries when I do. Him pulling weeds for hours on end without me is like a "heavenly thought". xox


We haven't reached the hospital bed stage yet. Wife demands to sleep on living room sofa which won't hold two. I live/sleep in recliner next to the sofa that my son bought me to sleep in when I had multiple bypass surgery back in 97(?). It goes almost flat and I can sort-of curl up.

She calls for me when she is sunrising and doesn't know where she is at. If I leave the room she will show up looking for me. It gets more like specialing every day.

"Touch Many ... radiate your warmth." --Jolene Brackey
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Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: PANDORA BOX

hi patti
my hubby is obsessed with folding things...he folds clothes......he folds clean cloths...dirty clothes...puts them all together....i never know which is which..and he puts them all of the house...so you never know where your clothes are......well...most of the time i just let him do his thing...it does not matter..so far he has not found the clothes in closets........i say just let your husband do his thing......save your energy.....good luck
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: DLMifm

quote:
Originally posted by PANDORA BOX:
hi patti
my hubby is obsessed with folding things...he folds clothes.........most of the time i just let him do his thing


Try this <grin>

Get three large open top laundry baskets.

Set one filled with unfolded clothing, towels, what ever.
Set one empty basket next to it and ask LO to fold and put folded stuff in empty basket.

Keep third basket in reserve (out of sight in another room).

When the supply of un.fold stuff has almost finished bring in the empty basket.

Take folded basket to another room. Re-Mess Stuff up and dump into messed up stuff LO is folding and keep the empty for next cycle.

This is similar to a technique described to a support group where a facilitator had used it to keep some clients happy and busy sorting towels.

do the unfolding privately

DLM
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: JAB

quote:
When Iasked the pcp about possibly plaing him on a SSRI (like Seroquel)

Seroquel is not an SSRI -- it's an atypical antipsychotic.

SSRIs are a category of antidepressants, and include Prozac, Paxil, Zoloft, Effexor, Celexa, Lexapro and Luvox.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Patti Dicken

Hi Everyone,

Thanks for all of your responses & advice. I di call his pimary care doctor & we avean appointment to se\e him on MOnday. Hopefully by then the pcp will have had the chance to peak with the neurologist who ordere the sleep study & has the results. When Iasked the pcp about possibly plaing him on a SSRI (like Seroquel) he pointed out to me thatsome of thos types of mdications can cuse strokes or other problems, not to mention what they may with whatevr treatment is used for the recent diagnosis of "Severe Sleep Apnea". So as usual for my hubby & his health care things are like a big puzzle with only half the pieces.

BTW he weeded & raked for so long yesterday that when he came inside his left hand which he is having Gout with was
  
very swolleen & givng him a lot of pain. After taking two of the pain pills & sleepig with an ice pack on it he is feeling a little btter but decidd that maybe he shouldn't do any yard work today.

Patti
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Patti Dicken

I'm sorry I didn't realize that /Seroquel wasn't an SSRI. He is already taking a very low dose of Celexa for over a year. It has helped make him less irritable until lately.
Currently all bets are off as far as his mood & demands go.

Thanks again tio everyone for all the information & support.

PAtti
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: DLMifm

How is the grass doing these days <grin>

Ain't caring great fun <grrrrr>

We are think of you.

DLM
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: DLMifm

quote:
Originally posted by Patti Dicken:
Thanks for asking about the grass. He was wanting our son to cut the grass when he came home from work at 8:30 p.m. LOL I finally lost it & told him to get the mower out & strap a flashlight to it & I would mow the grass. He realized that he was being foolish & that I can't mow the grass due to my COPD & it was pretty dark outside. Not to mention the fact tht he has over 20 flashlights & I am not allowed to touch them. Plus we never use the flashlights because we don't want to waste batteries.LOL Son is sick with a cold so I don't know whether he will cut the grass to da y or not. According to DH the grass is knee high. NOT

Patti




Anyone have sheep or goats to bring over <grin>.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: DLMifm

quote:
Originally posted by Pamella:
I just found this discussion and just want to add a little something. My husband picks up leafs all day long. He has a little bucket that he starts with. When that is full he will empty it in a larger one. He will have every leaf picked up and then will search under plants and then in bushes and everywhere.

I feel it keeps him busy and it is physical activity and it hurts noone.
I know where he is and what he is doing. If I can get him to work on the front yard instead of always the back. Smiler


If only I could find someone with a little bucket that likes lawns and would search for night-crawlers at night<g>. They make great fishing bait.

BTW, have your tried him at stringing beads as a indoor activity. As fall approaches making a collection of pressed leaves might be a goal.

DLM
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Pamella

I just found this discussion and just want to add a little something. My husband picks up leafs all day long. He has a little bucket that he starts with. When that is full he will empty it in a larger one. He will have every leaf picked up and then will search under plants and then in bushes and everywhere.

I feel it keeps him busy and it is physical activity and it hurts noone.
I know where he is and what he is doing. If I can get him to work on the front yard instead of always the back. Smiler
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Mercy Grace

quote:
Originally posted by DLMifm:

Anyone have sheep or goats to bring over <grin>.


You have the greatest sense of humor. I find myself searching out your posts for extra laughs beyond the WACCO's thread. (You have great advice too.)

Love,
Mercy Grace
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Patti Dicken

Thanks for asking about the grass. He was wanting our son to cut the grass when he came home from work at 8:30 p.m. LOL I finally lost it & told him to get the mower out & strap a flashlight to it & I would mow the grass. He realized that he was being foolish & that I can't mow the grass due to my COPD & it was pretty dark outside. Not to mention the fact tht he has over 20 flashlights & I am not allowed to touch them. Plus we never use the flashlights because we don't want to waste batteries.LOL Son is sick with a cold so I don't know whether he will cut the grass to da y or not. According to DH the grass is knee high. NOT

Patti
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: DLMifm

quote:
Originally posted by ipoe:
Hi, I wish my DH would do something like that..i doesn't want to do anything at all. just walk around the yard and back and forth to the garage and sit in the car..then sometimes he will almost cry and say, "I <><><>
I have tried to keep them down a little, but it is overwhelming for me..who wants to come to your house and cut weeds? not many..this year we were surrounded on allside by fields of ragweed..neither of is allergic tho..


Since becoming a carer I find myself in his shoes. Our little half acre is barely under control. It isn't that I don't have anything to do. I just don't do it. The house roof is old, the roof over the garage is leaking. I must find someone soon to fix/replace the steps to the back. yard. My priority is cash for DW's care and f... the rest.

{who wants to come to your house and cut weeds? not many}
There are still wonderful people who come out of the heavens. A woman who is caring for Dot appeared three weeks ago with two girls and they spent hours weeding and cutting the grass.

Another elderly carer who come here as well as caring for a ninety year old mother tells me she lives under a leaking roof and puts a tarp over her bed. Yet she is upbeat and would give us the shirt off her back.


Maybe I should play the lottery <g>

DLM
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Cheryle Gardiner

quote:
As fall approaches making a collection of pressed leaves might be a goal.


Heck, as fall approaches, he'll be busy all day, every day!
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Pamella

OMG, I almost forgot about this...last year he collected branches and then would cut them into 2" pieces and one day I found that all my flower beds were full of it. Mulch? I wonder if he will start to do this again. He is also obsessed with recyceling. I am pretty good at doing it but he will search the garbage and find something I missed. You have to love the things they do as long as they are happy doing it. By the way...I love fall but dread winter!
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: ipoe

Hi, I wish my DH would do something like that..i doesn't want to do anything at all. just walk around the yard and back and forth to the garage and sit in the car..then sometimes he will almost cry and say, "I don't have anything to do." He was always a busy man..taught school and also took care of a 75 acre farm, had cattle, etc. now, he doesn't want to do a thing..i will say "do you want to dry the dishes? or fold towels, etc. and he will always say, he doesn't know how....He always tried to keep the weeds down on our 20 acres we have now..but now the weeds are going to take us and we will have this little oasis in the middle of it all..I have tried to keep them down a little, but it is overwhelming for me..who wants to come to your house and cut weeds? not many..this year we were surrounded on allside by fields of ragweed..neither of is allergic tho..
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: jfkoc

I have a 6' wading pool in my house under a leak. Had a 3' one but it overflowed!!!
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: meeko11

What a memory you have. No-the project was a disaster. KFC really screwed up big time. They never expected the response for free food and couldn't honor the coupons.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: meeko11

When this thread first appeared I ignored it. I am in the "after" stage. I peeked in this morning and was amazed with the amount of humor mixed in with some sound advice. This site is what preserved my sanity Wink
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: DLMifm

quote:
Originally posted by meeko11:
When this thread first appeared I ignored it. I am in the "after" stage. I peeked in this morning and was amazed with the amount of humor mixed in with some sound advice. This site is what preserved my sanity Wink



Was your KFC coupons hand out project successful ?
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:17 PM
Originally posted by: Patti Dicken

Since I started thia post 4 weeks ago I thought I would post an update on how things are now. I was able to have Bill get in to see his primary care doctor around the third week in August. His doctor decided to increase his dose of Celexa from 10 mg. to 20 mg. since it has helped Bill with being iritable in the past, plus it had been over a year since he was startd on it. It does seem to be helping little bit as long as I try to avoid subjects that may cause him to get upset over for example cleaning out his closet & getting rid of clothes that no longer fit him or gettingr rid of the hundreds of model railroad magazines etc.

On another note he is not weeding for hours at a time any longer & is only doing his weeding in the late afternoon & not during the heat of the day. I can't recall if I mentioned before but he is suffering with severe gout in his let hand & when I mentioned the constant weeding he was doing to his pcp doctor he immediately told Bill not to weed more then 2 hours a day if he wanted the gout to improve. He also told Bill that if he heard about him getting on the roof of our home or usig the ladder again he would have the ladder taken away. So far this little talk with his doctor seems to have helped for now.

He also will see the sleep disorder specialist in late Oct. & then we will see what type of device he will use fo his sleep apnea. He did go for a second sleep study 2 weeks ago to see how he would do with a Bi_Pap machine but they were not able to get it to stay in place. He is suppossed to sleep with 2 liters of O2 but told me tonight he isn't going to do use the O2 any longer. There is no reason that he can think of to tell me.

Patti
 
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