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quote:Originally posted by Ellen Lee:HOME IS A CHILDHOOD MEMORY AS I AM THE MOTHER HE NEVER GOT ALONG WITH BUT PLEASE KEEP HIM WITH YOU AS LONG AS POSSIBLE I SO DO NOT AGREE WITH PUTING THEM IN A HOME SORRY STEP UP YOU DID NOT SIGN UP FOR THIS BUT IT IS LIFE
quote:Originally posted by Marion E:Thank you so much for your reply. I plan to have in home help. I signed with an agency. Up until last week I did not think I needed the help but now I know I do. I called the doctor this morning and was able to get an appt today. I do not know where you are, but ask the MD to admit him now. and where the best place to hospitalize your husband might be. The specialist (neurologist consult MD will get him on the proper medication so he will be less agitated. An agency person will then be available should the doc say you can manage him at home. Otherwise the doc may say, your husband must MUST be in a secure environment. You have gone way beyond what anyone would expect and by home, he means, "comfortable"He has no clue where home is nor would we when we get that ill. Bless you and email me at email@example.com if you wish. I live in Tennessee but would be happy to research the medical community in your area for you since you are so very very busy. "I have been to the bottom and it is solid". Dottie PI think what really is a sad is that he cannot relax. Even when sitting he is constantly moving things on the table beside him or packing a bag to "take home". Marion
quote:Originally posted by KittyHawk:Hi Marion,I have never posted anything on this board, although I have read others thoughts every day. You really hit home to me, since I am living with my 72 year old husband with 6 years into this horrible disease. He no longer knows where he is - only wants to go home. Asks where his Mom and Dad are all day long and doesn't know any family members or myself at times. Knows he needs me, but no longer thinks I am his wife (of 45 years). We have had such a wonderful life with great memories - unfortunately, those memories are only mine now. Thank you for your input - good to know others are feeling our pain.
quote:Originally posted by Dorinne:Lurk and Ipoe,One way to find the stages is:cl at top of this page on the alz assoc. on the right.There main pg will come up, cl alz disease, where it shows different topics, read the drop down menu until you see "stages" and cl that it shows stages and read down the page.Maybe you already know this but this is one way.I hope that will help. There is another site but can't think of it now.
quote:Originally posted by lurk:I have the "stages" information that JAB indicated bookmarked, but I can't reference it as I don't know how. But it's on the threads over and over.
quote:Originally posted by JAB:Ah ... no. Pain in the ...
quote:Originally posted by Marion E:this is my first post. My husband is 71 and has AD. The AD is progressing rapidly now. He has been taking Namenda and Excelon since 2006 when the diagnosis was made. Just last week he started to get angry with me. I cannot convince him that he is home and he becomes upset when I won't take him "home". I have gone as far as driving a few towns away and coming back home. That settles him for a short time. He still knows our address but does not believe that our house is his home. This begins from early morning and is causing me so much stress and is exhausting me. Also, he is convinced that there are other people in the house. Not actually seeing them but saying "where did the people go ?". He mentions his Mother a lot and wants to visit her so I have to tell him that she passed away. I just wonder how much more I can take without breaking. I have help from family; but, as you all know the day to day of this disease is so hard on us. I feel alone, afraid and frustrated. I have been reading posts for months and all of you have helped me through other rough patches. I knew now was the time I had to write. Thanks you for listening.Marion