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At the end of my rope - physically and emotionally.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:18 PM
Originally posted by: Snorky

Jan, I understand what you're going through as I had the same thing last May when I had to admit my Dh to the Er because of his agitation and aggression. He was admitted and had tests for 5 days then admitted to the geri-psych unit for 5 days. They advised he be admitted to the NH and took him there by ambulance. I was thankful I didn't have to take him. He adjusted pretty well but had a lot of meds! I was upset about the way I had to get the drugs. They had to be bubble wrapped and only can order 30 days from their pharmacy. It cost more because a 90 day supply costs much less and they won't do that plus our prescription drug company we use thru insurance doesn't bubble wrap.

There were some other things. Like I couldn't post a history I made up about him in the room because of privacy. It had to be put in the closet.

It's very hard not to feel guilty but we just can't feel that way. Placing them in a NH when they get aggressive is the only choice we have. My DH is big and strong even tho he is now confined to a wheelchair and can't walk. Yesterday he kicked one of the help when she tried to get him up. Then she had him sit on the bed and he started to hit her.

I cried for several weeks and still have tears when I think about him but then I try to get busy or do something social. It's very different being alone.

I wish I could help you but just know that it will get somewhat better but it will take time to get used to being alone.
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Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:18 PM
Joined: 1/14/2015
Posts: 40463


Originally posted by: jan9231

The last week in the hospital has been a spiral of get up, get kicked down, up and down. We have Medicare plus Blue PPO and just found out today that it will not pay for rehab at all. Also found out I can't use prescription coverage in NH - the whole thing will be private pay. I've had it. I can't take him home. He can't walk with out 2 assisting and has behavioral problems that scare me. He has not slept from 2:00 p.m. Friday afternoon until 2:00 p.m. today when I left because he was extremely aggitated and I couldn't calm him. All they give him is halodol on a schedule and adivan when he gets out of control. He can't sleep. Put in request for a consult with geri-psych on Thursday. The request was processed late in p.m. Have not seen or heard from consult. I missed hospital dr. fri a.m. - I get to hospital at 8:15 a.m. every day.No dr or consult on Saturday. Nurse left message at geri-psych office today. DH is scheduled to be transfered to NH on Monday.
Today just left me empty and I had to leave. 6 hours of negative, nasty and ugly comments left me totally empty and emotionally drained. I just want to run away.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:18 PM
Originally posted by: DLMifm

quote:
Originally posted by jam9231:
Thanks Snorky. Something happened to my 'puter and I had to reregister for the site under a different spelling of name. The consult with geri-psych isn't going to happen. He does not make hospitalcalls even though I got his name from the hospital. ????????????
Went to visit NH today. I was sooooooo emotionally drained that I had a hard time even looking at the good of it.

Thanks again/


what was your previous user name?

LO is currently in a NH (yes?)

Getting doctors names from a hospital is next to worthless.

They give you names from a list. The know very little about the practice.

Doctors these days seldom go the hospitals, unless their office in the hospital medical building. You and patient go to them at their office.

The doctors from the list more than likely do not go to nursing homes.

The term brain specialists is cropping up in conversations. what ever happened to geriatric specialists, psychiatrists, and other doctors are treating Alzheimer's disease who were never called brain specialists?

Have you talked to the Azheimer's help line to find doctors who understand and treat AD?

Does the NH have a Alzheimer's unit. What do they recommend you do?

DLM
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:18 PM
Originally posted by: love lost

Thanks Snorky. Something happened to my 'puter and I had to reregister for the site under a different spelling of name. The consult with geri-psych isn't going to happen. He does not make hospitalcalls even though I got his name from the hospital. ????????????
Went to visit NH today. I was sooooooo emotionally drained that I had a hard time even looking at the good of it.

Thanks again/
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:18 PM
Originally posted by: Starling

Cathy, a lot of hospitals try to avoid sending patients to the psych unit unless they have no other choice. The hospital my husband went to had the option to send him there (which is why I was told to send him to that particular ER and not the hospital we normally used). They knew all about dementia and about the medical issues that can make dementia look worse than it actually was and tested him for everything.

They used relatively mild medications to get him under control and one-on-one aides to make sure he was safe. At no time was he ever left alone in his room. At first HE was the one with the aide. On his last day in the hospital, it was his room mate who qualified for the aide, but she was also tasked with keeping an eye on my husband.

They also knew that there were some things they could "fix" and others that were just the disease getting worse and what to do in either case.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:18 PM
Originally posted by: Cathy J. M.

You may have explained this in previous posts under different username: why is he not being sent to a geri-psych unit?

Does he already have a brain specialist who's been seeing him on an out-patient basis? If so, the specialist should be able to facilitate admission to a geri-psych unit.
 
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