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Very lonely existence
quote:Originally posted by Starling:What you are feeling is grief. We mourn well before the patient dies and pieces of our lives disappear. We are widows long before anyone realizes it.When I placed my husband a year ago I began to recognize that essentially I was a widow. I'm lucky that almost everyone I've said that to has just nodded and agreed with me. Almost everyone understands. But I'm living in an empty house. His body isn't here any more than his mind is. The loneliness starts a lot earlier as the relationship dies.One of the best thing about the online support groups, this one and others, is that you begin to see that you are not alone. And it isn't that life as a caregiving spouse is harder than life as a caregiving daughter is. It is different. Pain is pain. Grief is grief. Losing the relationship with the person who was your partner in life for 50 years is different from losing the person who was your parent and your rock when you were a child. Not easier. Not harder. Different.
quote:Originally posted by jan9231:I just want to be loved back!!!! That says it all.
quote:Originally posted by terromari:I dread the time he does not know me.
quote:I go Meijer to shop cause they have a wheelchair I can push him in while we shop for groceries.