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Originally posted by: only me
MY HUSBAND DOES NOT WANT TO BRUSH HIS TEETH,BATHE,CHANGE HIS CLOTHS. PUTS CLOTHS ON TOP OF OTHER CLOTHS. DO I JUST LET IT GO? Eats with a knife when we are out and so much more.I am not sure what stage he is in?( only child )
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Originally posted by: quarterhosslady
My Dh husband struggled with this, but now I have put it into his routine. When he is in the bathroom, I brush his teeth, comb his hair, and shave him all at once. The same time this is done, we change clothes, wash his face and back, and put his shoes on. This routine didn't just happen, we started with a battery toothbrush. At first it was just get it over the teeth fast and get out. But, now because he expects to be pungled around he will just sit there patiently because it is pat of his daily routine. Now I can spend time and get him really cleaned up. I also floss at this time. This is good for me, as I know he is clean and I am through until the next meal.
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Originally posted by: Cathy J. M.
The layering of clothes sounds as if he's stage 6 or close to it.
Sometimes it's best to let something go; other times it's possible to gently and matter-of-factly get something done -- showering, for example.
How recently has he been to the dentist? Sometimes a dental technician and dentist can motivate a person to brush. Meanwhile, try a mouthwash. You might also try something like "Time to brush our teeth. You brush yours and help him get started next to you -- put the toothpaste on the brush, put it in his hand, etc." No arguing or begging, just "now we're doing this."
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Originally posted by: RHW
Putting the toothpaste on the brush and handing it him works for my DH. I just have to catch him in the bathroom at the right time. I have to be quick but it works. I also got him one of the battery run toothbrushes and he seems to like it. I notice that he brushes a lot longer with that than he did his regular brush.
Just asking him to brush his teeth does NOT WORK!
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Originally posted by: Mimi S.
Hi M. Bard,
I don't have an answer to your question. I hope someone will be here with some ideas.
I just want to welcome to you to this great group.
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Originally posted by: Memaw2287
M Bard, how long has your husband been where he is? Has this been a long-term problem or something relatively new?
One possibility would be to have the aide with you a few times when you are brushing his teeth, then try a few times (without really making a big deal of it) just standing there with him while the aide does the actual grooming. If the aide sees how the you handle it and the husband gets used to the aide being present, it might become a new habit for him. Sometimes it's a matter of letting our ADLO adapt to someone else handling personal grooming.
If that doesn't work, you may want to seek advice from the Director of Nursing. He/she may have some ideas for you.
One thing I have requested for Mom is that she be given water to drink at the end of every meal. It helps to flush the mouth a bit. That won't replace dental care, but every little bit helps.
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Originally posted by: M Bard
My husband is living in an assisted care, memory area facility but will not allow anyone to help him with his care so I have to do what I can when I am there which is 3 or 4 times a week...has anyone found a way to get them to agree to help from anyone other than themselves?
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