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quote:Originally posted by Billye:I am new to this site, but feel that it will be very helpful to me. My Mom has the early stages of alzheimers and is VERY defensive. She lives about 150 miles from me so I don't see her but about once a month, but talk with her each day by telephone. She is at the point that thinks my brother is stealing from her ( which I'm sure this is not true), doesn't pay her bills, still determined to be in control of her life. She doesn't take her meds as prescribed, but always assures us that she does when my brother and I have proof that she doesnt. Still drives a few places, but can get lost very easily. I'm sure that sometimes she gets lost and we don't know anything about it. This disease has really made her "mean" toward us 2 kids, which is not like my mom. It's like someone we don't know. My heart is broken over this and i'm having a rough time dealing with it, as well as my brother. We have tried to talk to her about assisted living and she was very definite about it. ..NO! I feel really helpless being so far away. She has an answer for anything you ask, she covers this up well.I've also noticed that her attention span is very short. She is constantly flipping through the TV. Any words of wisdom from you girls that have gone through this. I love my Mom so much and want to do what is best for her, but it's hard when she is so defensive.Billye
quote:Originally posted by Mary O:Our family just notified the DMV about FIL. They sent him a letter telling him he had to be retested. He assumed it was just due to his age. He failed and they suspended his license. We thought it would be a huge blow up but we were wrong. He has started riding his bike again and walking. Maybe deep down he knew he had a problem but didn't want to admit it to us or himself. I wish you luck with this issue. It is tough to take away someones independence but you could be saving the life of your loved one or someone else.Good luck!