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What will the End Look Like
quote:Originally posted by Ginkdeal:We lost our darling mother in law a week ago Sunday. MY FIL cared for her at home and right up to the end she was in her bedroom. I do, however, have a suggestion for other families. You ALL need to discuss what will happen at the end and what the end will look like so that ALL of you know it is rapidly approaching. My FIL called hospice on a Wednesday and she died the following Sunday. Dad wanted her home, and so she stayed with loads of help. I do think the strain on him was enourmous and I suspect we will begin to see the results in a few days. I think everyone in the family needs to know EXACTLY what the end signs are. With us, Mom stopped eating and drinking and Dad with the support of his children, elected not to have a feeding tube inserted. My husband and his brother were able to race home and sit with her and tell her goodbye. She died about 36 hours later. This is not an easy process, particularly watching the care giver stave off death. But death wins, and I truly believe she is released and is off playing bridge with old friends and laughing and carrying on. She's graduated and we are the ones left behind.
quote:Originally posted by MomsSon:My deepest sympathy, I a lone-son carry for momnow; think advance stage, We went through theearly delusions with distractions and therapyof color smells, and music; Lighting and all inall her essence is still here, She has always been a sweet smling sunshine, and I have done all I can to preserve it. Now only here speechis now totally inaudible. We pretend mostlyand go with the flow,.. But Since I am in this for the long haul, literally moved out of townto settle in for a great moms who's sacraficefor me,.. I really want to be there for her;How will I know? when then end time is near?