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Needed respite How do you know when it is time for one?
quote:Needed respite How do you know when it is time for one?
quote:Originally posted by Roger G. care partner:Cathy,Some people with Ad can not relate well with others.........Why put her throught that misery and anger.........and then the caretaker leaves she is riled and very loud. Does not do her any good. Phyllis and Roger
quote:Originally posted by Sam~TX:Cathy,Apparently you have not been introduced to rages. Violent, aggressive rages. I have. Not something I want to experience again. And, NONE of the meds for them work for my sweetheart. In fact, they do exactly the opposite. YEs, it could be MUCH worse!Sam
quote:Originally posted by Sam~TX: I've tried to bring in someone and she went ballistic while I was interviewing them. Sam
quote:Originally posted by Roger G. care partner:Sam, I guess Cathy just does not understand your situation. Everyone is different and what works for one might not necessarily work for another.Phyllis and Roger
quote:Originally posted by Sam~TX:Oh dear. Seems like I may have inadvertently opened a can of unsavory worms. Let me make ONE more post, and then I'll drop it. HOpefully I'll make it clear enough that even a "blonde" can understand.
quote:Originally posted by Roger G. care partner:Linda G2,I guess my only question is????????Why does everyone have to keep questioning Sams decisions?We all have very hard decisions to make. If a person makes a statement. Well then leave it at that. If they ask a questions, answer it.Am I missing something here>Phyllis and Roger
quote:Originally posted by JeanAnn:Hello. I am new to this discussion. However I do have a situation that maybe someone can help me with. I had been caring for my ex-husband for the last 5 yrs. who is 54 yrs. old. In Aug. 09 I had to make the decision to place him in a nursing home, where he stayed for approx. 1 month, then was moved to the behavioral unit at our local hospital. He was aggressive in this unit so after about 6 wks. he was moved to a mental hospital in Rusk, TX. where he is now. They tell me there is nothing else they can do for him, he needs to go to a nursing home. His social worker and myself have contacted over 80 nursing homes and none will take him due to his age, his aggression, his mobility, etc. He has to have one on one at this time. He does not talk, can not bath himself, etc. He walks constantly looking at the floor. I do understand the nursing homes position and responsibilty to the elderly patients. Does anyone have any suggestions?
quote:Originally posted by JeanAnn: I do understand the nursing homes position and responsibilty to the elderly patients. Does anyone have any suggestions?