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Hubby won't go to the doctor
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:21 PM
Originally posted by: biccoastal

My DH refused to go back to the first neurologist. I found a new one. The second one gave the same diagnosis and advice but he had a better bedside manner and hubby will see Neurologist #2 willingly.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:21 PM
Originally posted by: GrumpysGal

It's so hard. My husband was very angry with the Neurologist. Mostly at first as he was in denial one minute, and then tell someone he has AD. After his drivers license was revolked, he blamed the neurologist. Said he would never go back to that DR.
Is your husband angry or depressed? Is he in denial? Mine was angry all the time. Now he is on Prozac and has calmed down. Our primary care Dr. put him on it for depression which anger is a part of. I told the primary Dr. that he didn't want to go back to the neur. and why. Saw the neurol. on Monday. Wasn't happy about going and still not happy with him but was a lot better.
Just some things to think about.
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Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:21 PM
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Originally posted by: YS

Hi everybody. My husband, who is 64, was diagnosed with dementia a few months ago. He is on the Excelon patch and had a follow up appointment with his neurologist today. He absolutely refused to go. I tried for an hour to get him in the car, but with no luck. It has been difficult convincing him to go the doctor in before but I managed. Today, it was impossible. Can anyone with similar experience give me some pointers?
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:21 PM
Originally posted by: YS

Thank you all for your suggestions. I really appreciate it. My husband doesn't want to go to ANY doctor and in fact is getting hard to get him to go out of the house at all (a bleshing and a curse). I will take some of your sugestions to speak to his neurologist,his primary doctor etc to see what can be done. Again thank you.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:21 PM
Originally posted by: Cathy J. M.

YS, it's possible that your husband just doesn't like this neurologist.

I took my partner to a brain specialist early on, so her official diagnosis was MCI (Mild Cognitive Impairment) -- not nearly as scary. The specialist has never confronted her with any more serious diagnosis since then, tho she figured it out at one point and the diagnosis has been in writing (on various orders and records) for a couple of years now.

Instead, the specialist asks her how she feels, how she's doing, and is very respectful and helpful. It's a plus that he's a geriatrician even tho he specializes in memory issues -- so if she has a complaint about her feet, he deals with that as cheerfully as a complaint about her memory. I keep him informed of my observations and concerns by email and attachments, and love the way he supports both of us on this journey.

So -- maybe a different doctor will have better rapport with your husband. Of course, it's essential that the doctor have good rapport with you too.
Anonymous
Posted: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:21 PM
Originally posted by: Starling

Another option is a doctor who will come to see him at home. And yes, that has begun to exist again. Talk to your local doctors, pharmacies, and insurance company to find a doctor with that kind of practice.

He may or may not need a neurologist once you have a diagnosis and your LO is on medication. In my husband's case there came a point where going to his family doctor was the right option for us. That practice had a lot of experience with dementia.

My advice is if you are happy with the neurologist, stay with him. If you aren't happy or can't get your LO to go to him, find a family doctor with dementia experience (and you might already know one).
 
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