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Happy April Fool's Day. Time to start another volume of our thread. This would be 18 if the one after the updates had been numbered right. Anyway, it's gone on a long time and I've thoroughly enjoyed it and still am.
There were lots of bad storms in central Oklahoma last night - OKC for sure. jfkoc- hope you didn't have any damage.
My sister called me when it started, scared to death. While we were talking part of one her pecan trees fell on the electric and phone line and she's without power. She has her cell phone and charged it at the neighbor's this morning. She's the only one in the neighborhood without power. A man was coming today to take down one big limb they were afraid was going to fall on the line - but this was a different one. I told her she might as well have both of the pecans trees taken out, at least head-high so she wouldn't be having that trouble all the time. She was almost frantic last night. She's really afraid of storms. We only had a shower here. There were severe storms just south of us but didn't make it here.
I think Liam is better this morning. I saw him start to nurse and I got busy with something else so don't know how long he ate. But, he went into the stall and began eating some creepfeed and hay. He looks better but is still breathing hard.
I was going to go to town today but I've talked myself out of it. I have feed for a couple of times and I have four calves up so there's only one out to eat out of the creepfeeder so don't have to go. Maybe tomorrow or Friday.
I think we're supposed to have some more severe storms (not as bad as last night) this evening and again tomorrow. Spring in Oklahoma is nice with the exception of the storms.
The daffodils and Bradford pears are about bloomed out. This morning I counted 24 big yellow tulips blooming in a cluster and the Royal Empress trees are beginning to bloom. I think I counted 9 or 10 clematis that are going strong. I looked this morning at the peonies that are coming up. Linda Dee - do you just dig up a little clump of them and it won't damage what's left? There's some coming up where the pink one is and another little bunch a little bit away from them so they're all probably the same. The red ones I planted last year didn't make it, I guess. When I go to Atwoods I want to get a few more canna bulbs or corms or whatever they're called to plant in front of the white pipe fence. We had one last year - don't even know if it will come up again.
I started trimming the holly in front of the porch yesterday. It's going to be an awful job. They're blooming and there's bees all around them - not sure what kind they are. I think the wisteria has almost died. I can see little buds on one or two branches. Last year I thought it had died but leafed out with very few blooms. I need to really cut it back hard this year after bloom time.
I guess Leanne's with her daughter now - I know she'll have a wonderful time. Wonder if she slept much last night? It's about time for the mail to run so I'll go down pretty soon and see if my pendant made it today.
Hope all of you are having a nice April 1st. Roxy, I know you're glad it's today instead of Monday and all of that is over. How time is flying!
I'll check back later today. I'm watching the weather and there's already severe storms in the far NE past of the state and a little west of us.
My fingerprint pendant came today! It is way beyond my expectations. You can tell it's really Ray's fingerprint because of the little round scar on his finger. I'll take a picture of it later and post it so all of you can see how beautiful it is.
Sandy, I'm so glad Rich will be able to go home Saturday and I know you are. Are you still staying there at night? I know how time drags when you're staying around the hospital. I'm glad you got the x-rays - I don't know what fluid in the pelvis means either. Try to get some rest if you can - you'll need to be rested when he comes home Saturday.
w/e - I'll get some lemon balm tea when I go to town this week. I drink a lot of hot tea in the winter and in the mornings and iced tea in the summer but it's orange pekoe and pekoe black. You know I've never had trouble sleeping and I've never take a sleeping pill in my whole life. I can sleep without the music but it's calming and I enjoy listening to it. Last night I found some Reiki music - love that. I think Barclee also enjoys it.
I love to read your posts - you write beautifully. Being without our loved ones is so hard. I think not having Charles Ray with me is the hardest thing that I've ever done. Some days I just don't see the point of continuing - without the animals there wouldn't be. But, I can go outside with them and be with them and I feel better. I'm glad you were able to sleep well last night. I talk to Charles all the time, too. I still feel him here with me and I know he is still watching over me.
Joan - the picture is spectacular - doesn't even look real. I can't imagine being able to see that wonderful view. I think you said it was taken from the top of a mountain near you - do you go there often?
Liam is better. His eyes are clearer and his ears are more erect. I saw him eating creepfeed today and hay a couple of times. It'll just take a while for him to fully recover. I put another one in with him and his mom tonight - he was breathing hard - Frosty - but he's nursing good - just want to watch him a day or so.
The pendant is gorgeous, I think. I just got the picture I took of it imported. I thought it wasn't going to do it tonight. I hope you all can tell something about it - Cheryl and I decided it looked best to put his initials on the front instead of the back and at an angle. The pendant is about the size of a nickel - just a little bit smaller. I want to get a nice chain that's pretty strong and with a good lobster claw clasp so I won't lose it.
I'm glad you got to see the GP dog again. Aren't they beautiful? I haven't seen many of them but all I have seen are well behaved and so gentle. I can hardly wait for my puppy. I know Twink is getting anxious to get her Springer Spaniel, too.
I'm glad the guy's going to mow for us, too. Maybe tomorrow I'll let Liam's mom out north of the house to eat some of the grass and he may feel like going out with her - that is if it's not raining.
Dd - I'm glad the weather was warmer for you today. All of you up north and in the NE have had such a terrible winter. We had a really mild winter for the most part. We had snow in November, then cold weather but no more snow until March. I dread the summer though -it's always so hot and humid here.
Sandy- hope you got to go shopping today. Does Ron mind going with you? Ray always enjoyed it - never once complained about the time I took or what I bought.
Angela - I got the information about the pendant from Colleen. It's from a company in Colorado called A Timeless Impression. I think I just put in fingerprint jewelry on google and it came up. The woman who made the pendant is Cheryl Frazee. I have her phone number if you'd like it. She was so concerned that we get it just right and made several changes. After we made the final decision it was completed and shipped within a week. I'm so very glad Colleen mentioned it. I got Ray's fingerprints before he went to the hospital the second time. You can feel the ridges and the little scar made from testing his blood sugar. I'll post a picture of it - hope it comes out good.
I made an appointment with my doctor for Friday. There's some lab work I haven't had in quite a while. I think I can explain away all the aches and pains I have but just want to check with him to be sure. I've made a list of the aches and pains - looks like I'm falling apart completely - and that's probably not far from the truth.
I talked with my friend who had the carwreck a while ago. She's making some progress but she is so discouraged. She was tired so we didn't talk very long but I'm going to be sure to call her at least once a week. She said after this first happened she had lots of calls and while in Muskogee had a lot of visitors from her Church and her friends - now she doesn't know anyone where she is and not many phone calls. I told her I went 11 days without seeing a single person. I so wish I had gone to see her while she was in Muskogee but I just didn't feel up to it after losing Ray. Probably will never see her again. When I went through town the other day I felt sad just knowing she wasn't there.
Okay, I'll go for tonight. I just heard on the weather that last night they had baseball sized hail in Meeker, Oklahoma - a town between here and OKC. Talk with you all tomorrow. My sister still doesn't have her power back on. Maybe tomorrow. She's probably already gone to bed. Hope everyone sleeps well.
Tornadoes again in Oklahoma tonight - far northeastern part around Vinita. Also very strong, straight winds that blew over two semis. Glad they're not in our part but I feel sorry for the people up there. Storm chasers are out and reporting.
We have another new baby on the ground! When I came home from town I was checking the girls as I came by the meadow and there was one over by herself in the old part of the meadow. I got in the CW and drove over and it was Rosebud with a new brown baby. Her calves are usually white-faced. I didn't check to see if it's a girl or boy - she's not the most gentle cow in the herd. I did see the baby nurse which is paramount. She was in the area that's close to where I hear coyotes every night so a little later I went over and pushed her over toward the herd. I'm keeping them in the meadow tonight so baby won't get lost from the others.
I decided I'd run into town about 3:30 to get some tent stakes to fix the fence so the dogs won't get out (I hope) and also got the feed today. Tomorrow I'll only have to get a few groceries after I finish at the doctor's office. I came back by the vets and looked at the dog. He doesn't look exactly like the red heelers - ears aren't pointed and he's big! jfkoc - I bet he's about the same of Luke - and he's very strong. He was excited smelling where all the other dogs had been. I did take him for a short walk. I told them I'd think about it tonight. I'm afraid he's a little bit too big and strong for me. He is very pretty and looks like a good dog - very well fed. He must belong to someone and I bet they're looking for him. I can't imagine why he was at the clinic.
The baby may be a little bit better. I saw him eating some feed this afternoon. his mom is in with him today - haven't seen him nurse today but I probably just missed it. The vet asked about him and we're not sure if he'll need more medicine or not. He said the very warm weather today wasn't good for him. It's supposed to be much cooler tomorrow so maybe that will help.
I don't know why I dread going to the doctor so much. I worked with doctors for 33+ years and then dealt with them for the past eight years with Ray. I really like this doctor - guess it's just human nature, mine at least. I also have white coat syndrome. I've made a list and will go over each of the things with him. I can explain away most of them - lifting, hugging feed sacks, costochondritis, etc. Yes, Joan, it always makes me feel better to hear a professional say that I'm okay.
Thank all of you for thinking the pendant is pretty. I really am pleased with what she did and so quickly after we settled on the style. Joan, they have several styles - all pretty so it's hard to decide. Her name is Cheryl Frazee, 303-548-9158, her website is www.ATimelessImpression.Etsy.com. She lives in Brighton, Colorado. Is that very far from you? Gosh, I didn't know if you typed in a website it turned blue. Live and learn, I guess.
Diane - I imagine your husband was very surprised to see the deer walking down the street in the middle of town. I bet it was a beautiful sight. We have some around here and I love to see them. A while back I saw three jump the fence and cross the road and across our meadow into the trees west of us. I think Twink is so lucky to have so many around to watch. Wonderful of she and her husband to take care of them.
Twink - enjoy your day off. I know when I was working I always looked forward to holidays. We never got off on Good Friday though. I dread Easter this year - it's the same day as Charles Ray's 83rd birthday. So, this will be another "first" for me and our 44th anniversary later this month. April used to be our favorite month along with October.
I have clothes drying so better go and get them out and get ready for bed. Hope all of you have a nice, restful night and a Good Friday.
I feel like I've been gone forever, it must be over a week since I was last "here". I am trying to catch up on all the posts I missed.....
Lorita, I'm so glad you finally received your pendant- Cheryl does a wonderful job. I'm glad I found her on Etsy I bought some silver polish to try to keep mine looking shiny and now I remember to take it off before I get into the chlorine filled pool.
Lesley- I used just a stamp pad to get Dan's fingerprint but I did put it on good card stock paper- maybe that made a difference? I did about 4 of them to make sure I got a good print. If you have an old greeting card with a blank side or something in the "junk" mail on good, heavy paper that might work? I got tickled trying to get Dan to cooperate, we had ink on our hands, his blankets and lots of scrap papers.
Twink- I'd feed my occasional deer too if I didn't think the Evil Rodents ( aka, squirrels) would get everything I put out! I did a salt block one year but never saw any deer around it.
I am so out of touch with everybody, I'm sorry. I've been pretty busy with work and other stuff. I've set out my strawberry plants, they are doing well. Also my herb garden is springing back to life, but I will have to get new seedlings for mint, thyme and dill. I put in some basil yesterday. My lemon balm has re-sprouted nicely but I've never used it for anything- maybe I will try some tea this year !
DD - did we talk about Michigan before? Dan was a "yooper" ( and proud of it). He always made fun of me being cold. He went to the South Pole once for 2 months ( Air Force) and loved it there. I never got to go to Mich. but I see pictures and it's a beautiful state.
As always, many things throughout the day remind me of Dan- sometimes I smile and sometimes I cry. It's been 109 days now- it sure doesn't seem that long.
I know I've missed a lot of sharing, I will surely try harder to check in more often. Big hugs to all, must go to pool exercise class and then bunches of errands in town.
Lorita, your pendant is beautiful and I am so glad it exceeds your expectations; what a joy it must have been when you opened that box.
I'm also glad you are going in to see the doctor; I don't like doing that either, but I always leave feeling more upbeat than when I went in. Go figure.
Joan, the photo is lovely, what a scene! Did you ever get things straightened out at the NH regarding the hygiene issues?
Leanne, are you talking about Poulsbo, Oregon? We've been there many times and I just love it. If it was the Oregon Poulsbo, the town was settled by Norwegian immigrants and the town boasts a large Norwegian Hall . . . it has a l-o-o-o-o-o-o-g bar from one wall to the next; now I know what those Norge guys are doing during the dead of winter! Kind of akin to the Svensk. (I'm 1/4 each and threw in half Italian just to spice things up a bit; so I have the right to make jokes.)
I love the waterways in Poulsbo and they call them, "the fjords." I recall one year when they had a huge lutefisk (UGH/YECCH!) dinner planned at a local Lutheran Church. Someone forgot to mail out the bulletins regarding the dinner and they had 250 pounds of prepared Lutefisk they didn't know what to do with . . . . what a stink, so the story goes; they finally buried it.
We always traveled to Whidbey and other islands nearby and then went up to the other points of the Olympic Peninsula; gorgeous place. We took the short hike through the Hoh Rain Forest that gets over 400 inches of rain a year. Very, very other-wordly there. Ferns taller than a grown man and hanging moss from the trees . . . also lots of elk, so one has to be careful during rutting season. Very beautiful and strangely lovely place.
It is difficult to follow everyone's "doings," so much going on. Lorita, you've done some beautiful work outside the ongoing thread and it has been very helpful to some of the Members who are not able to make it onto this thread, you are a natural.
I send sweet wishes for a peaceful and lovely Easter Sunday to all. I understand how difficult this will be for some, and my heartfelt wishes go out to you too for solace and comfort.
It's so good to see all the posts from everyone.
Well, it looks like I'm going to live. My doctor is so nice. I told him about Charles and, of course, cried. He said to call anytime I needed to and talk with him. He also said to take two Libriums a day for about three months. He says this is something I'll never get over - he says people say you do but there's always that void. He asked me how long Charles and I had been together and I told him and he just shook his head.
The left sided-headaches with a strange feeling in the left side of my face is from clenching or grinding my teeth. Seems the chewing muscles are in the upper side of your head. He says clenching the teeth affects the nerves so I'm going to have to try to stop that. I think I do it more in the daytime than at night.
The burning in my left upper thigh is also a nerve thing. Evidently that leg gets off the pillow I keep under my knees at night and that does it. I have to sleep on my back because of the costochondritis. He says there is medication to help but has some bad side effects and that I don't need that now.
The place I bruised (scar from cholecystectomy) is still sore and he says it probably will be for another couple of weeks. I was afraid the staple had been bent but he says it's way down in behind the liver. So, all in all, I'm okay. I'm also glad I went and got the official word. Oh, he also said my heart was fine - BP and pulse rate is high but the BP is white coat syndrome and pulse rate also, I guess. It's been running about 80 and today it was in the 90s. The Librium will take care of that.
Thank you Johanna - I hope I'm able to say or suggest something that may help someone. I got and am still getting so much help here from everyone and I'd like to be able to return a little bit of it.
Leanne - so glad you're having a good time on your trip. You have a few more days to enjoy being with them and I know you'll make the most of it. Still looking forward to pictures. I'm happy you had a pretty good night's sleep going and also enjoyed the scenery. I'm sure Don was there with you and that helped you enjoy it more. I feel that Charles is with me, too. I know you miss your animals - I always do when I'm gone. Also know that they are missing you as well and will be so happy to see you when you get home.
Johanna - I enjoyed the story you told about the town and the area. Very interesting. I know that part of the world must be beautiful. America has such beautiful places.
Bridget - glad to see a post form you again. I, too, have seen that very look on Charles' face. Like Leanne said - kind of blank but then occasionally the pretty brown eyes would sparkle in happiness. I'm glad the contract NH where he is staying is nice and that you're satisfied. You'll enjoy the three weeks when he's home before going into Vineland. I know you're as busy as a bee right now trying to get things done. I enjoyed all of your pictures.
Everyone, thanks for the good words about Liam. Silly me, turns out it isn't Liam after all - just realized that Liam is bigger. This baby is Lucky. Remember the little calf that had such a hard time standing and nursing and the vet had to tube feed him three nights before he was finally able to stand enough to nurse? I saw him eating feed again today and when I got home he was out in the lot with Lucy and was nursing but went back in the barn. It's very windy and 20 degree colder today than it was yesterday so guess he was ready to go back in the warmth out of the wind.
Bridget - when the cows come up again from the meadow, I'll get a picture of Liam. Tell Tessa that we already have a Sweet Pea but guess another wouldn't hurt. Rosebud (mother of the new baby) and Sweet Pea were born at about the same time and look quite a bit alike. Both have white faces and normally their babies, do, too, however Rosebud's baby is solid brown.
When I turned in the gate at the main road, I saw a cow in the meadow by herself, away from the others. As I got closer I saw it was Rosebud with her baby. She was really watching something across the meadow. I saw something and thought it was Bella but it was a coyote. Bella and Susie were at home.
Colleen - I'm so glad to hear from you and to know things are going as well as can be expected. I'm at 78 days today. Strange how it can feel like such a short time and also a long time at the same time. I'm so happy with the pendant - thank you, again. Cheryl is wonderful to work with. I tried to find a chain with a lobster-claw clasp today but WM didn't have any. I'll find one eventually - need that stronger clasp so I won't lose it.
I've decided not to take the dog. He's really a nice dog and I know the vet will find a good home for him. I think he's a little too big and strong for me right now. He doesn't walk very well on a leash - pulls and he is strong. If I had raised him from a puppy it would be different. So, I need to call him this afternoon and let him know. I took Susie from him and she's turned out great but she was young. This dog is 3-4 years old and has been well cared for.
Bridget, I did the same as Colleen to get the fingerprint but I didn't have a stamp pad. I had one of these ink-filled things you roll over addresses or things you want to obliterate. I got a lot of ink on Charles' finger and then pressed/rolled it onto the paper. I think I did about six to make sure I got a good one. I just used bond paper that I use in the printer but I'm sure the other kind would be better. Do it before he goes into Vineland while he's still cooperative. Charles was half asleep when I was doing his.
I'll go for now and rest a bit before I go down and check the girls. I was taking to the doctor about knowing lifting the sacks of feed was contributing to some of the soreness - he said "you're coming up on 73 an still doing that?" Sounded like he thought it was about time I quit. But, I've kind of devised a way of feeding without lifting the whole 50 lbs but still have to move them around in the PU. Anyway, won't have to feed but four or five more times until fall and maybe by then my core will be stronger - if I'll do the exercises.
Be back later. Hope you all are having a really good day.
If it's clear where you all are, please go out and look at the moon. It's beautiful but the full moon is the 4th. I know the blood moon happens just before moonset and that's in the morning. So, guess we'll have to watch that - if it's clear.