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Should we challenge their skills?
A week or two before Christmas, my wife was going to make pancakes for breakfast. Huge problem. She never tried making them again. Here's the thread https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147544919
She was an excellent cook, whereas I struggle. I've made 3 meatloaves so far, and all were edible, but they couldn't even begin to compare to hers. And she let me know she didn't think they were very good! I want to ask her to show me how to make the meatloaf, but she hasn't tried to cook for 3 or 4 months, and I'm unsure if she can do it or not. I don't want her to be hurt again from failing, but if she's successful maybe that will give her confidence a boost. Is it worth the risk? I just don"t know.
IMO, if she is losing her memory of how to cook, I wouldn't challenge her. You don't want her trying to use the range, the oven, the microwave in a misguided attempt to please you.
I was slow to catch that my wife had completely lost her cooking skills.
I finally got a clue when I called her from work one morning and suggested she make herself coffee and an omelet.
When I got home later that day, she was sound asleep. On the night stand was a cold cup of coffee with a raw egg yolk floating on the top. When I pulled a spoon from the cup, I found there was more honey than coffee in it.
That was the last time I ever put her in that position.
I am not a meatloaf eater, however that was one of my moms secret recipes. I found out that she would use sausage or pork/veal in with the ground beef and limit the breadcrumbs, so the mixture was soft, like cookie dough and it had to be baked on a broiler pan, so the fat would drip off....
Hope you’ll be able to get the secret..... good luck
Thanks for the replies. It probably isn't worth the risk. That pancake scenario was about all either one of us could handle.
Very few times would she use a recipe. She just had a knack of knowing what ingredients worked well in a given situation. She taught herself. Many times one of our daughters would ask how much of an ingredient she used for whatever it was she made. Her response was something like "Just put it in until you have enough". Big help!! She always said recipes were for baking.
My favorite meatloaf...with video instructions.
Found this book, pub date 2016, your library may have . I like that she lowered salt amts.
Easy-Fix Recipes for Busy Family Caregivers