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Losing my Mom
Posted: Tuesday, December 30, 2014 8:40 AM
Joined: 9/12/2013
Posts: 3608

I wrote a post on this and deleted it. Having much trouble posting on boards so will take a break and just read now and then.


My Mom is 94 (or 95/) and sharp but she is failing. We had a difficult life but in past 20 years we came to a deep understanding of eachother. She could always count on me and we shared the care of my Father when he had ALZ.


So many losses and they are difficult to process. I feel distant from my husband and unable to express to him my love and affection like I used to.


I depend on him for my life, no one else comes and my friends have died or are dying. My children so far away and busy.


Not being able to be with my Mom when she is suffering is killing me. I could cry a lot but fear being medicated for it so I am sort of drifting off.


love you all. Bless the Moms.

Posted: Friday, April 10, 2015 9:56 PM
Joined: 4/10/2015
Posts: 25

Thank you so much for saying Bless the Moms!!! I am sorry that you are going through this. I cared for my mother for two years, and then my brother relieved me. It was wonderful to brush her hair, as she brushed mine in a picture we had.

Losing a parent is like being burned alive. I think it takes many, many, many years to come to grips with it. However, I DO feel that both of my parents are still with me in some ways.

Thank you very much for sharing your journey. It sounds trite, but see if you can reach out in some way. Perhaps you can start by just listening to someone else's pain.

I don't really know what I'm saying here, but thank you and I wish you and all your family well.

Iris L.
Posted: Friday, April 10, 2015 11:26 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 18692

Is it at all possible for you and your mom to be together?

The bond between mother and child will never be broken.

Iris L.

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