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In my opinion, the worst month of the year with July being a close second. That's because I don't like high heat and high humidity. I think it would probably be hard to find many people in Oklahoma and Texas, and a lot of southern states, that really do like these two months. However, I have a sister-in-law who loves hot weather. I'm looking forward to mid to late September and hope that we have a very long autumn.
It's pleasant enough outside now and only it's only going to be 92 today (we call that a cool front). I just came in from feeding the cats and dogs, Dolly, her two boys and Charlene. It's going to be hard to stay in the lot with Charlene when she gets to weighing 200 lbs. She's a handful.
Also tried to check the cattle while I was out - counted all but two or three and I'm sure/hope I'm just missing them somehow. They've gone to the MH to be in the shade. It's a little bit higher with lots of deep shade so it's a really good place to stay in the hot weather. The pastures are so lush - the grass, all kinds, are thick and green. This is very unusual for us in August. If we continue to get rain off and on, they'll graze most of the time this winter instead of eating hay, except in falling weather.
Hope all of you are doing all right this morning. I'm better - just being without Charles sometimes gets me down. It'll be better in the cooler weather when I can get outside more. It's good that you all are here for those of us who need it are able to get bad things off our mind and feel better.
I think the blackberries are probably gone. I passed a couple of bunches of vines and I didn't see any. Last year and early this year the pastures were in really good shape but because of all the rain we haven't been able to get them sprayed so the weeds have gone wild. Nothing has been done to the west pasture. Maybe after hay baling is over Mark will be able to mow, at least that pasture.
Nothing planned for today but may make Leanne's chocolate banana bread before the bananas get too ripe.
Twink - hope you enjoy the ATV Festival today. I bet there's lots of good food to eat and interesting things to see.
Sandy, I hope things are better for you today. It really gets hard sometimes but we're here when you need to talk.
Better go and drink my hot tea and get Barclee out of bed. He woke me up at 2:30 this morning to get a drink of water and piddle. I've been using some chux for him but I found a package of piddle pads to use. He's so cute - never raises his leg, just sticks one of his back legs out a little bit straighter and does his business.
Have a good Saturday.
I gave Charlene a shot of LA200, then for two days she gets a bottle morning and night of electrolytes with two different kinds of pills dissolved in one of them. The third day she'll get the pills plus half milk and half electrolytes. She wasn't scouring too awfully bad but didn't want it to get worse because they get weak so quickly. It was just like mustard. I just went out to the get my cellphone out of the CW and she was laying by the water trough in the sun so got her up and she's in the barn now with the boys. I think they pester her.
Stormy drives Barclee nuts pestering him. Barclee lays by me in my chair and Stormy is tall enough he can bother him over the arm of the chair. I just let all of them and they're sound asleep.
The birthday party for your mother sounds great. We had either an 80th or 90th one for my grandmother. She really enjoyed it. Good that you'll get to spend part of the day with her.
We have one of those big sprayers (yellow) that would sit in the back of the CW. We got a battery for it but never used it. Anyway the weeds are so tall and there's so many of them, it'd take a long time to even spray the ones in the garden.
I think I may have given Phoebe a shot or two. She's about 12 now and it's hard to even give her any kind of medicine even with her wrapped in a towel. I routinely put ointment in Luther's eyes and bathe and put ointment in the kitten's eyes at the barn when they're matted. I just keep paper towels, a jar of water and ointment in the crib all the time. I have had to give them antibiotics and had to put paint on their backs to know which I'd given the medicine, too. We have half a dozen little kittens running around and about a dozen that are half grown. I've never had the chance to play with them so there's no way they could be caught. There are two that look like Siamese. Somewhere in this area, there's a Siamese who visits occasionally. Simon, who stays in the house is part Siamese and cantankerous as can be.
It's awful to have the chance of fires around. Glad you're in a safe place. We've gone through that a few years when you'd even be afraid to leave the place in case of fire. I'm glad Ray has the land south of us plowed and planted. I do worry about the north and east sides that border on roads though. A couple of years ago when it was so dry I had Larry brushhog about three rounds all around the land that bordered the roads - probably wouldn't have helped but it made me feel better. After the fire down by the mailbox I do worry that someone will throw out a cigarette. It's so green now might not burn though. It's even gotten so dry I wouldn't drive any vehicle out in the pastures.
Sorry you smashed your wand - easy thing to do. I had a couple of sorting sticks in the back of the CW a year or so ago and lost one and never have found it - it was red so you'd think it would show up in the winter. Hope you're able to find a new wand today so you can finish your spraying.
Thanks for the hint about the chocolate chips - I will put some in. I absolutely adore Nutella. I can eat it out of the jar with a spoon. Really good on peanut butter sandwiches, too. I like anything chocolate.
I didn't go back out to look at the moon last night but tonight I'll watch for it coming up over the water. I have a picture on the refrigerator that I took when snow was on the ground and the sun was coming up reflected in the water. The pond I'm talking about is on the east side of the house so I take lots of pictures of sunrises and moonrises but the moonrises hardly ever come out.
I used to crush Charles' pills and put them in the top of a pudding cup and slightly stir them in, then cover it with whipped cream. He never knew they were in there. Bonnie, I'm sure that will work.
I'm watching a western show on TV - hardly ever get to see a good one of them.
Enjoy your day in Great Falls. Is your company coming tomorrow or Monday? I know you'll so enjoy having them there. Oh, I remember, you said you weren't really sure because they were going to stop at your SILs parents before they came.
Helen, so good to see a post from you. You mentioned Nutella - best thing, in my opinion, since sliced bread. Charles had crepes once at IHOP with nutella and bananas in them. I bet that was good. I started out buying the small jars, now into the next size. I just finished a little I had left in one today. Always try to keep a spare.
I've been watching for the moon to come up and it finally did but it was partly cloudy. I did take a picture after it got higher but it's just two bright orbs - one in the sky and another below it in the pond - that's all you can see.
I'd love to go out and sit and watch the moon but after seeing those snakes I don't think I will.
Helen, one of our favorite things was to go to Eureka Springs and walk in the woods. We're on the prairie here - there's lots of trees, mostly in the fencerows so not much of a place to walk among them. We don't have pine trees here but they do in Eureka Springs. We have Eastern Red Cedar here. I love them but they're really fire hazards - they just explode when the fire hits them.
Like you all, I've always done the financial part of our lives, too. Charles would write a check now and then but I always took care of paying the bills and all that stuff. I think that's the way it is with most of my friends.
Joan - hope the steer cooperates. They're so strong - even little Charlene is strong. Yes, I'm still bottle feeding her and will for a couple of months, at least. I'm trying to get her to eat a little bit of feed but I can only get a piece or two in her mouth and then she'll chew and chew. I remember when I was trying to get Petie to eat feed, he thought I had to put it in his mouth - took a long time for him to realize he was supposed to pick it up. He still remembers me and comes over for me to pet him.
I didn't get to make the banana bread today. I think I posted earlier that I'd found a western on TV to watch. I didn't realize it when I began watching but it was a three part show, two hours for each part. So, I sat there for six hours watching it - was really a good one. If any of you all saw Lonesome Dove - it was sort of like that. It was made after Lonesome Dove but had the same characters (different actors) and it was before the town of Lonesome Dove was a town so kind of confusing.
Thanks, Joan, I have felt better today. I had been forgetting to take my Librium and I took one yesterday and one this morning and it helped. I need to remember to do that.
Leanne - sounds like it was really hot there today. It was only about 90 here and the humidity wasn't as bad. I just came in from the porch and it feels warmer now than it did earlier. The wind blew some today and it's not blowing now.
Your mom sounds like a pistol - telling you to go home and trim your own lilacs - made me laugh. It's great that she's so feisty.
It's been so long since I've just taken time to look around in the stores. Charles would have spent the day in WM but I always make a list, get the things and get out. I have no idea what new things they have. Some day I'm going to go and just look around for a couple of hours. Our Sam's Club is in Tulsa - we used to belong and always went when we were in Tulsa. What farm store do you have in Great Falls? We have an Atwoods in Checotah that I really like and in Muskogee they have Tractor Supply and Orschelns - I like both of them.
I really like cheese - I can make a meal of a piece of cheese (I like Colby) an apple and some peanut butter crackers.
I also tend to do things the hard way and I don't know why either - guess it's just the way I'm used to doing things. I don't 'know why we never used that sprayer. We didn't have the CW when we bought it. We bought a battery but if I could find it, it's probably so old it wouldn't work.
Talking about deadheading flowers - I need to deadhead the crepe myrtles so they'll bloom again. The purple one was beautiful but it was so hot the blooms didn't last long. Maybe if I get them off, when they bloom again they'll last longer.
Odd, isn't it that thinking of something can take you back so far in memories. Maybe the Nutella brought back memories and they're making you a little bit sad. We all have our days. Good that they don't last too long at one time. I know losing Charles has been the worst thing that's ever happened to me but my loss is only half of what yours has been. I can only imagine how hard it was and still is. I'm glad you're beginning to feel a little bit better about things. I know none of us will ever get over our losses but the hurt will lessen some with time.
Enjoy your beer and the beautiful moon. I'm going to go out on the porch with a flashlight so I won't run into spider webs and look at it a while.
I so envy you all who have cool nights. It doesn't cool off much here at night and the wind lays so that makes it worse. But, it'll be fall before long and I'll be complaining about the cold weather in five months.
Hope all of you have a good night. I'm going to try to get up when the alarm goes off in the morning. I want to get out and see about Charlene. I had her in the stall today and couldn't find a place where she'd defecated. I cleaned it out good when I was out there and put her back in. I watched her after I fed her for half an hour. I let Christy in with her and she had a really good bath and then ran and bucked and played. I took a picture of her and the boys yesterday so will try to post them before long.
See you all tomorrow. Rest well. Come back often, Helen.
Diane, good to hear from you. I like your new avatar - such a pretty girl. I know she's found a good home. Stormy is the same way as Lucy - I have to keep everything out of his reach and as he gets taller and bigger I have to put it higher. He gets into trash cans, anything he can find.
It's awful that you had that virus. Being off your feet for a week can make you so weak. Glad you're recovering but take it easy and don't overdo. Hope cleaning out your drain works.
Hi Shirley - glad to see you back. Sounds like you're just about in the same place as you were a couple of years ago. You had such a hard time with Bill's anger issues then.
I'm having the same problem with my sister not taking her meds. They say patients have their rights and they can't make her take hers either - even when she was in the hospital. Can you crush them and put them into something he likes and get them down like that? I know how frustrating all of this is for you.
I know from what I read on this forum that families can cause a lot of problems. I never had that problem because no family was close by - only phone contact. We're always here, Shirley, when you need to talk or just get something out of your system. So sorry things are so bad for you.
I was hoping everyone was having a good day but seems not - I know I'm not. I got up early and went out to the barn just after daylight. Susie was out of the yard and I let her in and she was limping. Bella was no where to be found. I've spent the last two or more hours going to neighbor's houses and calling to see if they've seen her. I called three neighbors and went to four houses; one wasn't home so I left a note. They're the closest to us but I didn't see her anywhere. Another one where Prince lived for a while has a gate that you have to have a code to open or a remote. No phone number either - all cell phones. They're about a mile from us. I've never known Bella and Susie to wander off the place except to follow a car when it leaves the house. I've gone around the section once, part of it twice and can't see anything of her. I have a squeaky horn that I use I use to call her and Susie but never heard a bark or a sound. I'm afraid she might be caught in the berries vines in the west pasture but normally they don't go down there, just east and south. I just hope she's not caught somewhere and can't get loose.
Maybe it will be like it was with Jeff. He disappeared and was gone three days and showed up one day with a leg very badly hurt. He lost the leg but we had him for years after that. Seems like it's always something to worry you. Susie will be lost without Bella - me, too.
I was so hoping that she'd be home when I got back. I knew they were getting out of the yard again but just didn't take the time to go out and try to fix it. They had pushed the fence out and dug out next to the place I had just fixed.
Charlene is okay. I was worried about her. When I went out, I checked the stall and couldn't find where she'd gone to the bathroom so watched her for at least half an hour. Finally called our vet. He was out checking cattle. I didn't know whether to give her the medicine today or not. He said what's happening is supposed to - with the scours she'd emptied out her digestive system and she hasn't had anything except electrolytes for two days so guess there's nothing there. She got half electrolytes and half milk this morning and will again tonight plus her antibiotics. She's frisky and acts like she feels good - butting me all over the place. I let Christy in this morning to be with her - and Petie's in, too. Dolly and her other boy are with the other cows.
Keep your fingers crossed that Bella will come home. So odd (maybe not) that the absence of Bella makes it seem so empty. Susie is very quiet. If she could just tell me what happened or where Bella is.
Sandy and everyone,
I found Bella. She was in the pond, next to the bank, drowned. She was only half submerged and wasn't stuck in the mud at all. You had to look at a certain angle to see her and for some reason I hadn't. The only thing I can think of is that she was bitten by a snake and couldn't get out of the water and to the house. She'd been there quite a while, probably since last night. She and Susie swim in that pond every day, several times if they're out so I know something tragic happened to her. She didn't die of natural causes - too young, healthy and energetic.
I got my boots on and only had to wade out a bit and got a tow rope on her legs and got her to the house. I can't see a mark on her. I'll call the vet and ask him after while if he thinks it could have been a snake. We've had cows bitten by snakes before. I did call Kate at the shelter and she said no one had turned her in and then I called her back and told her. She called and said she's seen raccoons in ponds lately and said maybe she got in a fight with one and it drowned her but if that happened, she'd be cut up and she isn't. She also said coyotes could have drowned her or someone could have shot her. The pond isn't visible from the road so I don't think that happened. I think a snake got her. I've always heard and maybe it's an old wife's tale, that a snake won't bite you under the water but who knows about water moccasins.
The only relief I have is that she wasn't caught somewhere by her collar and smothered to death in the heat.
What started out to be a bad day has gotten much worse for me. She was a good friend and I loved her so much. Riding in the CW without her just won't be the same.
I'm also sorry to hear about Bella. Our animals are our children and are such faithful companions that it truly hurts when they leave us. Sending comforting hugs...
Thanks, Leanne, I so appreciate it. It is an old wife's tale - I googled it and they do bite underwater. She was close to the bank with some tall grass between her and the bank. It was probably laying in the shallow water in the grass and when she started to get out it bit her. Maybe death was instantaneous and she didn't suffer.
You're right - we'll never know but at least I found her. I'll be scared to death to let any of them out of the yard now. I feel sorry for Susie - they were together all the time - she'll be lost for sure.
At least I know Bella had a good life that she thoroughly enjoyed; friends to play with, a warm bed in the winter and a cool house in the summer. Also all the land she needed to run and play - darned snake! She and Susie so enjoyed having a swim in the cool water. Her life just wasn't long enough.
I will miss her and mourn for her as I have for all of the others we've lost. Thank you so much - it means a lot to have good friends to share my sorrow.