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Caregivers Who Have Lost Someone
HOW TO RESPOND
I am finding it very very hard to respond to some of the well meaning folks who express "sorrow' for the passing of my spouse of 51 years (battling LB dementia for the past 10+years---the last 3.5 of which he spent in a hospital bed in the front room/ with total 24/7 care from myself and my angel of a sister) two weeks ago.
I don't feel sorrow. I AM SAD this happened to him and to us and to me. But I am GLAD that he no longer has to suffer the indignities that this disease brought to him. I just hope that folks are not horrified when I say "It was a blessing. He is free of this."
He not me.
Anyone who has ever been a caregiver to someone suffering with a terminal illness understands how you feel and what you mean. I completely understand as does every other caregiver here in this forum.
Blessings to you,
Dahlke; no one can ever understand how we feel until they themselves endure what we have, You say whatever you need to say or say nothing at all. You could just appreciate their gesture and end it there. Less is more in these situations. We all understand how you feel though, trust in that.
-wishing you peace,