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Caregivers Who Have Lost Someone
Quote about grief.
Thanks for the kind words. Good luck.
When Barbara was alive and in full control of her mind, she would sometimes gripe about a co-worker who had said " Oh, I know exactly how you feel ! " She would tell me that unless that person had been in her shoes, then they absolutely did not know how she felt.
Now that she has passed, I hear things akin to those thoughts, but you know, it ain't them who lost a wife. In fact, even if it was them who lost a wife, or a husband, we all wear our grief differently, and what I have learned is that no one knows exactly how I feel. A few might come close, but to presume to know the mind of another is utter craziness !
The ones who come the closest to knowing what is going on in my head usually say nothing at all, and instead will give me a sort of sad smile, and touch me on the arm.
I'll tell you what though. for all the pain I've felt since Barbara passed, I still have 38 years and almost 3 months of memories that will stay with me until I die, or until I perhaps go down the same road that too many here have traveled.
There is some joy even through the tears.
Thank you for posting.
It has been just over 5 months since my wife passed away from Alzheimer’s. I miss her every second of every day as I just go on. I talk to her lot. Things I am doing or about ready to do. I know the words she would say back most of the time, but she would surprise me - that was her. I watch old movies and listen to old songs and I still work. I think that time is basically some element, like water, like the sun.
There is no time in grieving, there is just grief.