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When sibs have unreasonable expectations of MC
Dad was placed in a memory care facility last Saturday evening, so he's been there fore three days. I'm going up today to bring replacement chargers for his phone and glucose monitoring device. My brother sends me a crapton of texts about how the staff there is good at lip service but they suck and here's why:
"They say they make every effort to seat Dad at meals with others at his cognitive level. That is an absolute fabrication with zero truth. They also only check his monitor twice a day because that's what the doctor order says and no matter how big of a stink I make, they won't check more often. I've also found some of Dad's stuff in the activity room."
My brother has been there for three out of the twelve meals Dad has had there and each time there was one person who was obviously further along cognitively than Dad so how he can say there's zero truth is suspect. He complained that others weren't talking. What, you want us to MAKE them talk? What's wrong with you? As for the monitor, you said it yourself, the doctor's order says twice a day. They wouldn't even look at the monitor without a doctor's order, so maybe change the doctor's order and stop harassing the caregivers? As far as his things in the activity room, have you BEEN TO THE HOUSE where his stuff is aaaaaaall over the place? Oh, that's right. YOU HAVEN'T.
My brother's outrageously unreasonable expectations blow my mind.
Oh dear... I remember when I was like your brother.
Give him time. He'll adjust to the real world.
I slipped once while on the phone listening to sil complain about the facility her mother is in. I said --"Well it's not the Taj Mahal!" I couldn't help it. Especially since she was the reason mil was placed there when she was. A week before Christmas. My husband refuses to speak to her now. I mean he really loathes her!
I'm happy to hear from you Mr G and I too feel brother will adjust. In time.