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Mom Wants Someone to Talk To
My mother is in an assisted living / memory care facility with EO vascular dementia. Most of the other residents have more advanced dementia or alzheimers. Mom complains she has no one to talk to and carry on conversations except some of the staff, other resident's family members and my siblings, myself and a few other family members and friends.
I visit her about once a week and talk to her once a week outside of my visit. My sister visits about once every two weeks and also talks to her about once a week via phone. My brother talks to her via phone about once every couple of weeks and visits about once a quarter as he lives in another state. Her sister calls her about once a week and a couple other friends call her every few weeks. I also have a companion care person that comes in twice a week to do things with Mom. I am wondering if there is anything else I can do to help her have more fruitful conversations. I can't go more often as I have been the one in the past to make it possible for her to go home after hip surgeries and rehab - thus I am the fixer.
I have provided her with a list of family and friend's phone numbers but Mom doesn't call out very often - perhaps due to challenges with sequencing things (dialing phone numbers, following through on steps to do things, etc.) - she sometimes needs guidance and assistance to do these things.
I have talked to the staff and they do what they can to keep her engaged including helping them out with other residents and activities. I have also asked that maybe some of the volunteers who come to help can talk with Mom.
Has anyone else run into similar situations and if so, any suggestions what we might try to help Mom?
I know I am grasping at straws and that I can't fix this situation. But I am open to other ideas and possibilities that may help her.
Hi all, I’m new here and not sure if I’m in the right posting spot.
In reference to kindness, I’m having a lot of heartbreaking issues with my mom’s (she has ALZ) so called friends dropping her off of their network. Some have even gone so far as saying they will pick her up for a party, not pick her up nor pick up phone calls and then not say even two words to her at the party that I ended up driving her to. She constantly talks about how she has no friends and before the disease this was never the case. The only friends and family who are wanting and willing to see her are far away (out of state/country). I guess it’s fair to say, we know now who the real friends are. Just heartbreaking on so many levels.
Does anyone have any insight on how to get your affected loved one interacting with more people other than the farmers market/hair dresser/ nail salon? I don’t know if she would fair so well in a daycare facility at this point since she still has many opinions but that may be my own doubts on the situation. She’ll be 71 in August, working on getting her lic removed and lives in the sticks. My dad and I drive her around now. Having her interact with people really uplifts her day. I’m just looking for other options that would keep her occupied and happy. Any insights would be so much appreciated, thank you