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Grandma Passed Away
Posted: Monday, September 9, 2019 9:46 PM
Joined: 7/30/2019
Posts: 7

A New Member Saying Hello and Asking a Question


I posted the above message the end of July about my Grandma's dementia.  I haven't posted in while because I have been grieving my grandma's death on August 13th.  

I wasn't expecting so fast.  The last time I talked to her on the phone I was planning on visiting soon but she had forgotten where I lived and thought I lived closer and she cried and said that she would never see me again.  

Days later she declined and was just asleep and they kept her on pain killers and hospice was called and she died the day after hospice came just a few days after she started declining.  Even when I knew she was declining I wasn't expecting it so fast even though she was 92 years old.

She has a sister who is going to be 101 next week and I believe that my grandma would have been the same way if she hadn't started falling and hitting her head and having bleeds into the brain and strokes. She planned on living to 100.  

The first fall was due to icy ground and a hyperactive dog that she had taken out side. Other falls were due to a condition she had which made her fall.  They would have done a surgery for the condition that caused her to fall had it not been for her age.  

I wish the nursing  home had checked on her at night to see if she needed to go the bathroom or just gotten her up at night to go to the bathroom because she fell rushing to the bathroom more than once.  This frustrates me. 

I'm glad that she knew family and friends to the end even though she was getting more confused.  She woke up briefly when she was dying and smiled when she saw one of my cousins that meant a lot to her. 

She did die peacefully thankfully.  But my heart is still grieving of course.  My faith is helping.

Posted: Monday, September 9, 2019 10:35 PM
Joined: 6/12/2016
Posts: 727

I am sorry to hear your Grandma passed away.
Posted: Monday, September 9, 2019 10:44 PM
Joined: 7/30/2019
Posts: 7

Thank You abc123.
Posted: Monday, September 9, 2019 11:09 PM
Joined: 6/11/2019
Posts: 325

So very sorry for your loss. Wish you had been able to get to see her. There just never does seem to be enough time, no matter what the circumstances are.

I hope you can find comfort in the blessing that she did go quickly, peacefully and didn't have to experience so many of the indignities our LOs go through on their way out.

Posted: Monday, September 9, 2019 11:24 PM
Joined: 4/1/2014
Posts: 5004

I am sorry for the loss of your dear grandmother. It is obvious she loved you dearly and you loved her. It would have been nice if you could have seen her one last time, but she and you have a lifetime of good memories together and I hope that helps you during these sad weeks and months ahead. Take care and blessings to your dear grandmother.
Posted: Friday, September 13, 2019 11:29 PM
Joined: 6/12/2016
Posts: 727

Dear FamilyMember, How are you doing? I was hoping you had posted to let us know how you are. I hope you have been able to get some rest and take care good care of yourself. We would appreciate hearing from you.

Take Care


Posted: Saturday, September 21, 2019 7:30 PM
Joined: 7/30/2019
Posts: 7

I am grieving but I'm doing better.  I've been journaling about my grandma partly biography of her.  My faith is keeping me strong.  Thank You for all the responses.
Posted: Monday, September 23, 2019 9:39 AM
Joined: 10/9/2014
Posts: 828

My condolences on the loss of your grandmother.  Grandmothers are so special.  I hope your memories can bring you comfort. I think of mine all the time.  I still feel their presence and guidance in my life.
Posted: Monday, September 23, 2019 1:54 PM
Joined: 8/12/2017
Posts: 227

Thinking of you at this sad time, Family Member.  Your Grandma was lucky to have you in her life.
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