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Conflicted in TX
What a sweet picture of you and your mom! It's easy to be conflicted and struggling when you first get the dx of Alz and VD but with education you will learn what you are capable of doing. So don't worry about the future at the moment and concentrate on what you can do to make your life and your mother's life easier today. You have come to a good place for such information but I think there are some great books on caregiving and dementia that will help even more.
You have a big learning curve ahead but once you learn more-you may find there is a lot you can do to keep your mother home longer. My mother has been with my husband and I for almost 15 years and I would not trade it-it has made me a more patient, resilient and stronger person. I feel like a warrior now, lol. Here is a good link made by one of our members. Good luck
Has your mother had bloodwork done recently? The reason I ask is that my dad's girlfriend kept falling without any real reason and it turned out that she had acute leukemia which was causing her to feel weak and then she would fall. The incident you described in your kitchen sounds a lot like what happened with her. She passed on in July.
As to your mom, it seems things are going pretty well at home except for the falls. I don't think that it would be any different in a care facility. What will be different is for you and your family. I gotta tell you that your daughter and husband should come before your mother and if it is stressing you out having your mom at home, then you cannot be your best for your daughter and husband and your mom would tell you that she should not be your priority and to put her in a nice memory care facility. Assisted living is not going to cut it for your mom. Assisted living is for normal seniors who are just frail and it means she would have to go down to the dining room for meals and she would have to decide to go to activities. AL has about 2 caregivers per 30 residents. MC has 3 caregivers per 10 residents and they think everything out for the residents since the residents usually cannot initiate. I would suggest you see if there is a Sunrise Senior Living near you and go look at that facility and talk with them about your mom's condition and what they would do for her. They have something called AL for Memory Care where they divide residents up into small groups and the each group has a caregiver who takes care of them. That might be a good situation for your mom. Then later, they have full-moon locked memory care - and yes, eventually your mom is going to need that, probably in the last few years of her life.
My mom had vascular dementia. Basically microscopic blood vessels in the brain go dry and the brain dies little by little. There is no effective treatment or cure. For my mom, the areas of the brain affected caused her to become angry and violent. Toward the end of her life it was like hand to hand combat to deal with her. Fortunately she was little and easy to overpower, but she still managed to bite her caregiver, hit, kick and punch others and put my hand in a vice-like grip that was hard to extract myself from. She couldn't help it. But I worry about the effect seeing your mom go through this stuff will have on your daughter. Your daughter is the main reason I think your mom is going to have to be placed sooner or later, for her dignity, to protect your daughter from seeing and experiencing this horrible disease at a vulnerable age when she should be focused on friends and school. It will drastically affect your household and you and your husband. It's a terrible tragedy that this can happen, and about all you can do is protect your daughter and husband and give yourself a safe place to be away from it.
Find a nice facility that is within 15 minutes of your home. The closer the better because the drive time from your house to the facility needs to be added into your visit time. So if you place her 30 minutes away, and go for a 30 minute visit, the total would be 90 minutes per visit. If the place is only 5 minutes away, the total would be 40 minutes. And eventually there will be times that you are called up there in the middle of the night, so you want this to be as convenient for you as possible. For your mom, it's really not going to matter so much. Set her new room up like the one at home, bring her stuff. She might not even realize she is in a different room.
This document pretty much describes exactly what to expect with this disease: https://www.alzinfo.org/pym/feature/clinical-stages-alzheimers-disease/
BTW, I'm in Texas, too in the Dallas area.