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kitchen safety issues
Are you sure there in't a shut off back there? Unless it is very very old it should have one. These days they are a popsicle stick shaped arm, and it's off when it's perpendicular to the pipe. If there is not one, that would not be a difficult or lengthy job for a professional. They would pull the stove out, shut off the gas further down the line like in the basement, and install a shut off on the pipe.
And think about other issues you may need to get ahead of to avoid a disaster. Will she use a metal pan in the microwave, leave a coffee pot on etc.
I read your profile, mom with dementia and Dad is 96 yo--living 5 hours from you , and you have a partner with EO and still have to work.Talk about a full plate, I'm really sorry.
Your folks should have FT live in care or be placed- if your Dad fell- would your Mom be able to get help, how do they get food, to doctors now? What about bill paying?
AZ proofing a home starts with supervision 24/7- it isn't a substitute.
I probably need to update my profile, as about 3 months ago I relocated and moved in with my parents. I work Mon- Fri, and have hired someone to be at the house supervising for several hours that emcompasses the lunch time, and I am home in time for supper prep. I don't think this arrangement will work much longer, as now that I am there, I am realizing that we do have some potential safety issues beyond the meal times. The gas stove is a "built in", surrounded by counter, so I cannot get to the back (or any part) easily.
My brother and I are meeting this weekend to discuss mom's long term care policy. The wrinkle may be that my dad doesnt have long term care insurance... only my mom (the thought of my parents many years ago when they made that choice was that she is 12 years younger than him, and that SHE was his "long term care" insurance). I am interested in home health care, but don't know how this will impact their daily life... and of course, the inability I assume of a home health care professional to do anything for him. It gets sticky, especially since my now 98-year-old dad's mind is sharp and he will resent someone in his home all day.... he is having a very hard time accepting the changes in my mom, and sometimes takes his frustrations out on her. Yet, they would not want to be apart... it would break each of their hearts at this juncture.
As everyone on here knows this disease is so very cruel. However, as I read your thoughts on this, and as I type this, it helps get my thoughts together that my brother and I will have to make some hard choices concerning this situation. My dad will be resentful and heartbroken whatever we choose, and my mom will be confused and heartbroken either way. Safety MUST come first.