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LGBT Community and Allies
When your same sex spouse has Alzheimer's
Is there anyone else out there who is married to a person of the same gender that has Alzheimer's? My wife and I have been together for almost 22 years. Now we are taking the hard journey together with her new companion, "Al."
I don't see much activity in this forum. Is it hidden somewhere, or are people just lurking, waiting for someone to start chatting?
Hello Alena, and welcome to this Message Board. I am sorry for the reason that brings you here, but am glad you found us.
The answer to your question is, that this particular Forum is not well attended. What most ssame gender spouses or partners do, is to Post on the Spousal/Partner Forum where there is a much larger Member group. That way, they are seen and get much more input.
There are several same gender spouses on that Forum and I can tell you that they have all been welcomed with open arms. There is so much support and assistance there because there is the larger group of Members.
You may want to go over to that Forum and take a look or even start a Thread regarding your own situation.
As I often say, we are all here in support of one another and that now includes you too! Hope to see you over on the Spousal/Partner Forum.
I see that this board isn’t used much and totally understand that all caregivers have the same basic issues. I’ve attended support groups and have never met another LGTBQ caregiver, but have also never had anything less than a welcome with open arms. I just figured I’d put my name into this group in case there are specific LGBTQ things that do come up.
My wife was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer’s in October 2018. She was just shy of her 58th birthday and been having increasing symptoms for a couple of years before I could convince her to go to a doctor. Listening to other peoples’ stories, we clearly had good care from our PCP and her neurologist in looking for other reasons for her symptoms before the diagnosis was made. I am in my mid-fifties and self-employed, which involves occasional out-of-town travel. We have an amazing core group of friends who are very involved with helping out. I’m always looking to touch base with others for advice or just some confirmation that I’m doing ok.
A very warm welcome to our newer Members. We are glad you joined ALZConnected. It is true that the LGBTQ Forum does not have much traffic and if one is looking to gain information and support re dementia, it will not be the best place to be for that purpose.
If you wish, you can Post on the "Spousal/Partner" Forum, or the "Caregivers" Forum or both; you will get input from multiple Members and much information as those are the two busiest Forums on this site.
Many of our LBGTQ Members do just that and they have always been welcomed with open arms and become part of the extended electronic support group.
Will look for you there on one or the other or perhaps, even both,