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Adult daycare when LO gets exhausted from activities
How have you dealt with taking your LO to adult daycare programs when they get tired from activities (or maybe they don't)? I want to give my mother another trial at it as she used to enjoy it before she declined. She stopped going when she fractured her hip a year ago, just to have rehab, and then refused to go back. I think she'd enjoy the activities but she gets really tired and needs/wants two long naps a day. We have two excellent memory care centers here, and I know she'd get good care.
She is a veteran and the VA will pay her way totally which of course, would really help since her daytime caregiving is so expensive. I applied for VA Aid and Attendance months ago and haven't heard anything, so it would really help with her expenses until then.
Thoughts on what you have done?
Thanks MN, I'll call the day center tomorrow and ask. I hope they do have recliners, too, that would be perfect.
I should clarify, too, when I say I think mom would "enjoy activities". Would she really? Hard to say. She's been declining and not enjoying many things these days except watching tv and going outside for a bit. Sometimes she likes to watch the birds or listen to some music. But before she declines any further and still has mobility I would like to try it again.
I would think any interaction with others would be a good thing for your mother. Since that will be different than her 'normal' routine, I'm certain she'll get tired. There is nothing wrong with her getting tired.
On a personal note I will say my DH comes home from activities and usually finds his recliner to rest for a bit. I think the social interaction is tiring, but also very good for our LO's.
Thank you, Eaglemom. I really appreciate your input as my daughter made me feel guilty when I mentioned taking her 3 days per week "3 days! She'll get too tired! What about two short days?" When I'm off work on weekends I usually take her on outings and she does get tired, but I think it would be good for her to be around others her own age. M-F she only sees the two younger age caregivers while I work.
I called the day center today and am taking her on Wednesday from noon to 3 for lunch and a special event. The director was so helpful and really listened to me with what her needs are! Hopefully she will begin to go next week. They really have an excellent Memory day center with many activities, and yes, they do have a quiet room in case my mom needs to lie down.
MN, my daughter has no regular hands on care with my mom. I come home from my full time job to take over from the day caregiver at 3:30 for the rest of the evening and on weekends, since mom lives with me. My daughter has helped me very occasionally but she has two young children at home.
I really want to try 3 days if she can handle it because it will also decrease the expense of caregivers! Omg we are paying 3000/month out of pocket.
Thanks for your input. It makes me feel less stressed and less guilty by far.