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Would Calling Dad by First Name Instead Help?
Last night when my Dad was yelling at me again, I started to wonder if I called him by his first name instead of Dad, would he listen better? He doesn’t know who I am half the time, would I get more respect and would he listen better if I called him by his first name? Has anyone tried this? Was I crazy to even ask this question?
Not crazy at all.
Toward the end, my father lost recognition of me as his daughter. He alternately thought I was my mother, his sister, or a girlfriend who predated my mother.
I found the best moniker then was Dear. "Dear, can I pour you a cup of coffee?" "You know Dear, that is certainly no way to speak to a lady!" "Yes Dear, I ordered the part for the car, it will be here in two weeks." "I love you with all my heart, Dear."