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Caregivers Who Have Lost Someone
Do Guardian Angels Exist?
I've wondered about it ever since Sandy died.
My wife saw a woman standing by her right side.
Sandy didn't know who she was, just that she was going to take her to The Place where "she could walk and do things again."
I felt compelled to write a tribute to whoever came for my wife at the end.
THE GUARDIAN ANGEL
Although I never saw Her
She stood beside my wife
As days became the hours
And hours became the minutes
And minutes signaled an end.
My wife called her as friend
And said that She would take her
To where she’d walk again.
She stood there through twelve nights
As light became the dusk
And dusk became the dark
And the dark signaled an end.
I saw my wife’s departing smile,
A smile that signaled an end,
And though I never saw Her
Everyday I thank that Friend.
You have touched upon something that leaves me.. Not wondering, but perhaps perplexed,.
When Mom was in assisted living she said she needed to speak with me one day. She told me her husband and daughter (both of whom had passed had been to see her).... Mom never had hallucinations and knew they had both passed..
She wanted to know what I thought of that... I asked what they had said and was surprised the only thing her daughter said was that she would die soon.. And the only thing her husband said was do not be afraid, it would be ok...
I carefully chose my words and said only that I thought her husband was a very wise man.. Which was true....
I was with her when she passed two days later... Them telling her was the only sign of her passing coming...... ( and I secretly wondered if this was the beginning of hallucinations or was it somehow real)
A year or so later I was with my SIL who had COPD. She was very lucid with no mental problems at all... Her daughter, mother and aunt all came to see her.. All had passed... They wanted her to go with them..... She refused and ended up in an argument I could obviously hear only one side of.. She pointed her finger and argued with them but in the end agreed to go... She passed shortly thereafter...
I have been with multiple people who have passed and it seems they all have someone to show them the way..with some it is family, with some it is strangers..But always they are trusted and loving...
Yes, I believe you could call them angels... Perhaps not the winged, halo wearing ones we have been taught to expect.... But perhaps the real ones..the ones that are there when we can't be... The ones that help to lead our loved ones to safety and security in whatever comes next..
Thank you for sharing that. I'm spiritual but not religious in the "wings and halo wearing angels' sense. My wife's experience really opened my eyes to things I wasn't sure were possible.
I agree with you that it seems the lucky ones have someone comforting come them in the end.
My wife told me clearly it wasn't a family member or a friend. Even though she had ALZ and no memory by the time of her dying, I believed her because she said it so clearly. My wife had a complicated relationship with her parents. I wasn't surprised it wasn't her mother.
Sandy's "angel" may always be a mystery to me, but I am hoping Sandy can introduce me to Her when I wind up on the other side.
Thank you again for posting!
Army_Vet, I believe NDE refers to a Near Death Experience.
I'm glad to see that you're still writing your lovely poems. It's always a joy for me to log in here and see one of yours.
Keep on with the keepin' on.
I love the poem. I believe for sure.
I've heard that no one dies alone. Someone comes for them. That brings me comfort, since I was not by my LO"s side when she passed away. There were staff from the MC though and that she was peaceful. That helps.
I cannot know.
I hope guardians exist, though.
I hope my mother and all others close to me who have died had help and comfort I did not perceive.
Army_vet. You are correct, I saw no face, but I did get a message and it was:
I Love you, I always have Loved you and I will Love you no matter what. And I ask that you love others as I Love you.
To me those words could have only come from the Creator.