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Caregivers Who Have Lost Someone
I miss my mom(1)
You got a lot done in 6 months, you were pretty busy. You were so busy you probably did not take the time to really feel the loss of your Mother. Now is the time for grief and that is good. It needs to happen. Your Mom will be with you always in thought and spirit. Take Care of Yourself. Hugs Zetta
I am so very sorry for your loss. It sounds like your mom was diagnosed and then didn't live much longer, is that correct? Losing our mom is unbearable, but no wonder you are struggling since she left quickly and you have been so busy selling homes and moving!
Grief comes and goes and hits you when you least expect it. Please give yourself some grace and sit with the feelings when they come. You have been through SO MANY life changes! We all grieve in different ways, so I am not trying to tell you what to do.
I teared up the other day at the grocery store when I saw the Lorna Doone cookies on the shelf (mom's favorite). Mom passed away in June of 2020.
I hope you keep coming here. We need to support each other!
Hi Zetta and Amy,
Zetta- I do think so much was going on that I am just starting to really process losing mom. I asked my primary for a therapy referral.
Yes, mom “fell ill” Oct 15, 2020, diagnosed by Dec and then we lost her Feb 25th. While Alz is generally slow- I think she had it far longer than we all knew. I can look back and see signs now. I believe the Vascular Dementia portion was what took her so fast.
Checking in and wondering how you are doing. Do you feel settled in your new home? I hope you are getting time to take care of yourself!
I am sad to hear of your loss. I am sending you thoughts and prayers. Someone told me "it's always hard losing a parent." It is such a common sense statement-right? When would we really be okay with syaing goodbye to a LO,?
Being busy, moving, packing up belongings, being in a new place could have been distracting or just taking up the time to grieve. From what I have heard, and believe, grieving comes in waves and is different for each of us. My mom passed on the 16th and was diagnosed back in 2011/12. I will probably miss her until the day we reunite. I feel she is at peace and I know she is with me in spirit. I see her smiling, laughing and healthy.
A few years ago, I started reading books on grief and grieving. It has helped me tremendously. I will be going back to the library to borrow those books again very soon.
I wish for you a loving space to grieve your mom whenever the waves arrive.
It's normal to miss her. May the loving memories of times spent together comfort you. Be easy with yourself. Take care.
Retired gopher- thank you for sharing the beautiful quote