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Hand wringing and clutching hands together
Hi Seaview, welcome to "the best little club nobody wanted to join". You will find lots of support, knowledge, and experience here.
I don't have personal experience of hand wringing and clutching, but can ask some questions. Does your LO seem distressed when they do this? Before dementia, what would these actions have indicated? Does your LO have arthritis in the hands? (I do, and a "wash the hands" movement is very soothing) Does the new habit prevent your LO from making other hand motions when desired?
I don't actually know where I'm going with those questions, but I do know that the more we put ourselves into our LO's reality, the better chance we have of helping.
Others will be along in short order!
Hi Seaview - welcome to 'here'...
My grandmother did that. She often had a hankie she would wring and twist, and twist and wring, and often while pacing. It was early 70's, so years before more was known about some of the behaviors we know now. I remember she would be agitated and pace and say something about 'gotta get the kids ready, gotta get the kids ready'. She was one of the older of her siblings who would have helped get the younger ones ready for school when she was much, much younger. It seemed that is what she was trying to do and not able to do so, or even find 'the kids' any longer, and therefore get rather agitated about it all. I think some of the meds available now, would have helped her then.
Does your LO seem to be agitated, or upset, by anything in particular that you can tell? Is there anything they are trying to do, or find, but cannot (real or imagined)? or even if just agitated in general, you could let the doctor know.
My mom always needs to do something with her hands and if she doesn’t have anything in them she goes for her skin, forehead, face and wrists. Pretty unsightly for sure. Picking her finger nail polish instead of her cuticles is a proactive approach we take. She picks and pulls on her stuffed animals’ fur. She messes with the drawstrings on her pants and will hold onto them for dear life, along with blankets or sheets. Those children sewing boards with shoelaces are helpful. I sew them up and she removes the laces. Unfortunately she seems to deem the activity blanket as an insult. I gave her a stylus the other day and she hung on to that and pointed with for quite awhile. It’s a daily struggle for sure.
What stage is your LO? That could make a difference.
I would add, my FIL will also wad up a and wring the edge of his nightshirt and lap blanket.
He keeps trying to eat his fidget toys, which is a whole other issue. He plays with his pop it for a bit then tries to eat it and gets very frustrated that he can’t. We just substitute food when we see him doing it.